For those who choose to be.

For those who choose to be in the service of relationship counselling need to understand the "how" using the mode of conduct by sports referees. Should any individual wish to manage their own family life as well as relationships with friends look into it. In families there are for the most part 2 teams and chair leaders on the sidelines who are rooting for their own interest. How should a couple be? Especially when strings are attached. Parents are the biggest manipulators of all, especially those who marry for status.

I said before I am not a nice person, not made for the weak hearted. As much as I have respect for age I give no undue respect to persons seeking self relevance.

There are too many but-heads in the therapeutic industry who think that the matters of the heart is about the mind alone forgetting that a soul "personality traits" have a big role in determining outcomes of negotiating boundaries. Why is the soul "personality" a huge factor? The quote "bring up a child in a particular way and they shall never depart from it" if they choose not to review the lives and words that surrounded them that shaped their lives. Until shit hits the fan usually no one questions  history. I had been there and done that since I was a kid yet it didn't spare me any heart ache as men are hassle bound to look for trouble yet can't handle the other cheek. For those girls who were good if that didn't work turn around. People don't know what they demand from those who were hurt by saying forgive and forget, these words carry multiple points of reference depending on what's on the menu.

Before trying to help a couple help the individuals deal with the issues they have with their parents and perception of parenthood as that is the foundation of dispute between couples. When a man has a lousy father or men references around they are usually affected by that image, as boys tend to draw ultimatums to guys who seem to be drifting away from their initially perceived bond. Yes there are guys who know what and when is important and there are those who when not happy in their marriage pose themselves as more relevant.

I'd be damned if I make it easy for anyone be you woman or man, the streets are full of people who pray on children and taking out on them frustrations they couldn't deal with in their parental homes. What is wrong with Africa? I don't know.