I still wonder.

I knew a guy once who said "a woman doesn't know who a good husband is until she had lost him" I laugh, same guy lost his second wife. I still wonder who was bad among them.

At any point in my life I don't  blame any of the party, I say life with them will tell the story. I will not stand by anyone who claims right yet does wrong. Slap them both for their actions towards family and friends. I have met equally daft men and women and no sex takes precedence over any. Let those who suffered and were joyful equally speak. Interesting who gave joy and who took the blame in the end?