It pays not to have a misguided loyalty!

Why get territorial on someone who you clearly have been dating for more than 5 months? Why
when you get to know who they are you start hurting them with things that they had no control of; like making them feel small cos maybe they hadnt finished school or their parents arnt on a social class level that you feel you can present them to your parents. Isn't everyone answerable for their own actions towards themselves and others?

I had seen instances I work here with youth everyday and today i was working on the esteem of the girl. She went off her studies for a while cos she couldn't handle the sting the person put in her. She came from a dysfunctional home but she herself had discipline and focus as a result of making up her own set of principles but this guy came from a perceivably well polished home but he himself cant face his tasks yet he made her feel bad about her family background. Why do we project our self loathing on others? Remember if you hate something in someone, that thing is in you!

Sometimes you find yourself in a position where you have to make hard decisions between sticking to your principles of loyalty and a friend that used your loyalty to their advantage!

One is your principles and the other is the nature of some human-beings!
Many humans often don't understand that loyalty should be continually earned or is the question "did they really care"?! They can get away once, twice and even trice and then after sometime they start seeing you as a fool, not realising that from the first moment even though you gave them a second, third chance you had actually lost that sense of friendship!

Trust that voice, don't put yourself in a position of self doubt! Stop holding on to illusions that some can change, sooner or later it will turn to bitterness or self doubt "holding on to the faith that maybe you are wrong somewhere, maybe you misunderstood not realising you we're misinformed or could actually have been used! It pays not to have a misguided loyalty! There are guidelines to everything! Standards must be kept you can't be a forgiving fool forever while your heart is being pounded into the mud!