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"I ...understand how a parent might hit a child- it's because you can look into their eyes and see a
reflection of yourself that you wish you hadn't." — Jodi Picoult
I love who i am, i always change and that allows me love my kids and always notice when the change comes from them. I am not a puppet and therefore dont make them my puppet. I want them to be different from me and thats why i let them to run around free.
With the event of the pain that i had experienced when my boy was born and was told that he may not live had a profound change in me! It probably was a great blessing in disguise that i let go of my dreams for them and rekindled the dreams of mine that people felt would be put on the shelf. Most mothers and fathers are forcing on their kids their lives and when they see their kids rebel against it they feel violated and project it on them. By letting go at the time i stopped being scared if they would live or die, hurt themselves or grow, those emotional strings that cage the kids from being able to live their life isnt within me. They look up to me so i make sure i dont let them down, when they see mummy happy they are happy they also see me at my moments. The invisible umbilical cord must be cut of by the mother to allow their kids breathe by themselves.
My son is so organised and my daughter likes to make a mess, in these things they are happy, when they grow up they will be different, they may even switch sides, they both are to mould each other. Siblings are the real family. Mum, Dad are just channels. To set yourself free and your kids free you have to cut of that accord no matter how hard it is to accept. The concept of cutting off is hard to process because we seem to have been told that that is what we should be. cutting off dont mean you throw them away, it means let them be and grow in their own image. Emotions to the brain is like air to the lungs, get addicted and the withdrawal is bad. Tie them in you and you will never see them fly higher than you. You will be dragging them all your life cos you didnt set them free for fear to be left alone. Women who hold on to their kids for very long are actually not happy with themselves and their marital life.
My Parents today are proud cos they allowed their son and daughter to grow. I am a tear head and so it is with my bro, My dad and mum were same but they allowed us grow.
We may have gone through trials and our own sorrows, but how is one to grow?
Half the time we make their hearts palpitate, but when they see us grow, they feel its all ok. There is no shame where there is gain.
Hope this motivates you to look forward to tomorrow with every second you breath!
Knowledge and ambition are the only 2 things that gave me hope and insight "Openness and Sharing!"
When you know, you can see! When you want, you will go for it! Search and move yourself! Carry no baggage "limitations" that isn't yours! Limitations are inhibitions of others" a child is born and in the first 5 years of his life he is cultured into a box and eventually is too scared to break out, for fear of disappointing someone! If you don't piss off or put a smile on at least one persons face, you are clearly doing something wrong! However don't cause anyone pain! Wear virtual sunglasses and earplugs! Protect your eyes from going into areas that dont look like what you haven't identified in your goal and protect what you allow into your heart. Unfortunately we have a lot of nay Sayers, beat them by asking them why and you will know and let it set you free in your direction!
I had made a decision at youth not to allow the noise of the world pollute my mind and that my pursuit of success totally depended on me! Pollution means accepting something without investigation! I aint a dustbin for others fears or insecurities and same with you! The world I know I created is the world I willed and it responded with same faith! I wanted the world and I found the need for me!
By being open I was protected regardless of the attempts to assassinate my character and i know my goals depend on my character! How you think makes you who you are! I left people to be who they wanted to be and that way I was who I wanted to be! I embraced them and they embraced me! The confrontations i faced Never came from me, My attitude towards life never had boundaries so this way I didn't need to break down walls! I didn't dream up obstacles that weren't there and it didnt waste my time inventing the chisel and hammer! Some people's walls are totally shut down from the rays of the sun to penetrate, perpetual darkness, no warmth!
The obstacles I faced had to do with character recognition "everyone must stand their ground in not morally being persuaded to adopt morals that wernt universal, "dont will on your neighbour what you don't want for your self." For me life is very predictable, so I worked with it, never fought events "went with the flow." i go as far as not correcting my grammatical errors cos that isnt my problem, and if you make it yours than sorry that is your problem. we pick on perfection and tarnish it with an attitude, forgetting that i am in my domain, i wasn't born for you. if something is giving you pressure, dump it.
A lot of people never understood why to a lot of things I said No or Yes to!
If I wanted a friend, I first became a friend, i liked the person for myself! if I wanted love, I gave love, i loved the person for myself! I was never selfish with anything "if i know that my mind body and soul weren't mine but borrowed, i gave out, giving for me is a reward, my bills get paid without me even worrying. yes thats the magic of giving it sorts things out and prevents issues from arising. Troubled people always invite trouble. it really don't matter if i got back from same source its like a bus. " abuse my giving by showing attitude "limitations" and i pull away and that made me never loose anything!
I was what I wanted to be and if I didn't want to I never put myself in the situation where I had to say no! i have a very strong gut feeling and followed its call no matter how ridiculous it may seem at the time, but my instinct guides me on how to manage in or out of time and zones. You come towards life with an attitude it will reciprocate with same attitude! Life gives you tits or tats. If I wanted to meet someone, I just had to be where I could meet someone, never had any criteria measures and things happened! I don't choose people based on colour, shape, size, or age! This allowed me more options! The people that had it most difficult with me are people who identified me by my physical attributes! If what you only want to know about me is my body or colour i considered that an attitude that limits me and i leave that environment! You dont want to know if i have a brilliant mind and heart etc what i know i can give in addition to every-other thing, then bye bye, cos i cant show what there is no room for.
When you tell yourself I want a black person or even go as bad as specifically saying ethnicity, you are limiting your choice to measures that you yourself will be boxed into! Your own may turn around not to like you for what you like them for! A person is a person! Everyone is turned off by bad attitude! values are important, and you will only know, if you make the contact! If age or colour of the person is already a barrier then you wouldn't even know whats inside! Your luck has been prevented by you yourself! Of what value are your values? If you can eat what you dish then the plate is yours!
Even a simple thing like the things I write about, comes as free as a breeze. If I had limited myself to only politics or religion, at some point I will eventually exhaust the topics and bore everyone, whats worse for me is to bore myself. I choose to write, thats the goal for me, i investigate, analyse and present how my mind sees anything and everything, not fixsated "fear of being criticised" in fact i want it to be criticised and I write about anything that affects me fully Knowing that i am on the same planet with you, so it cant possibly be irrelevant! what affects me affects you. you are as strong as the weakest link! You can't fill up a closed jar! Open you will always be on an overflow! Life is broad not narrow, so why create unnecessary limitations?
When you are a person who is defensive you are prone to create situations that are artificial! You may
be a good person but your subconscious defensive motivation overrides the conscious good that you wish to achieve! Ie.. If you don't trust a woman you will knowingly or unknowingly set up an environment "test" In The bid to seek the truth, but that turns everything into a lie!
Artificial never lasts long, it creates a spiral of events that erodes everything! If by some struck of luck you meet someone who is open and free "natural" their nature can't play to the tune of the artificial events going on! The body can't accept what isn't a part of them! This is what happens in the world of transplant! It could be a perfect DNA match but if he who is accepting is scared, the body will reject it.
Honest people can't be with dishonest people, the value compositions of the substances will react to each other! There is no matter the amount of pro-activeness employed, all will prove fruitless! Someone will get tired of the constant struggle to achieve or subdue!
In our today's governments its evident that the only reason they are getting away with what they do is that the soul from which it comes from is a fertile ground! I believe that over the years a systematic strategy was employed to erode the society! First degrade the education system, pollute the media with negativity and then start infiltrating the minds of the youth through deeds such as injecting a value system that they have no choice but to adopt! Create no jobs for the parents to sustain their lives and kids and they will be forced to accept having their kids bring in money that ordinarily the parents never saw! Then create a stigmatisation of these same acts and vuala you have what we see today! Everyone is fighting each other.
A thorn has been put amidst the people! Why in the world would a senator think he has the right to speak in the manner he does? He knows his people will take it as a sign of authority! Bullying! If someone speaks to you in an underhanded manner you put them back into their place, immediately! There is no dignity among the people, they have been made to think and feel worthless so they wouldn't fight back! They will moan and grumble but would do nothing! Africa when will you rise?
Dont fight religion, fight those who choose to covet it. I am just as ignorant as many but with every step i seek the true meaning through evaluating my and others experiences. Extremists
are not bad they just ignorant to the other side of the truth. At some point you will be a hero and on the other you will be the bad guy. The boundaries will define who is who, just dont be rigid to accept another view point.
Fight for the Muslim Girls just as you would for the Christian, they are kids and people. Take away the strength of a woman and you men will be weak. Take away one religion and yours will be weak cos there will be no objectivity. Don't be passive, if your heart dosnt agree say you dont agree and bring out the objective truth to things.
Fight back lies with the truth. If you dont believe you can then it wouldnt happen. The truth of life is that liberties must be earned but one has the freedom to extricate themselves from what isnt true. Yes in our minds it sometimes gets skewed because we become arrogant to presume that we are all. Power is good but it corrupts the mind that seeks control.
There is only one truth a right to live and bear the consequences of our actions. If you realise that you have been living in someone's set of values that has incapacitated you, denounce yourself from it, even if you will have to eat grass.
Those that dont fight have adopted and adapted and are led as sheep for slaughter. If you dont fight back things will continue to be as they are. An eye for an eye. Islam in some aspect should teach people how to fight back not to attack. If you are afraid to die you will loose your life. I understand radicals to what they may mean, not those who seek to oppress but those who fight for the liberties of others as their own cos the boomerang effect always happens. Real radicals fight for freedom not subjection of minds to mediocre values that on the long run destroy everything good.
Whoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whoever shall lose his life shall preserve it. I am a radical in the sense that If i fight for others kids mine are hopefully automatically safe. As an adult i already have lived a life, i have seen it all possible, my kids are yet to see, so i must fight for their future in safety and prosperity.
Fight a peaceful fight, cold war tactics. Obtain and extricate yourselves from mental slavery and your body will be free. Those who are hungry for power are blind anyway and the true kids will always see looholes to save their lives for another day. Wars were never won by the best generals, they were won by free minded individuals with a good cause.
I wonder "if there were no natural resources, would people fight for people against created gods?"
Kids are cruel when they are idle and adults must ensure that their kid lives an open life. An isolated child is an idle child, he don't know what is out there. In 4 walls he wouldn't learn anything but be sheltered. I so love my father and it isn't even funny. He allowed and did things with me that allowed me to know him and what other men can be. He told me that he cant always protect me but i should always remember that when you get into trouble you have the right to turn away.
When a child doesn't trust "know" his parents they take desperate measures and keep quiet. Go watch the film for yourself and see what led to the demise of the boy and a few other instances of Internet fraud that cause mayhem in peoples lives.
On the stance of marriage you all know how i think of it, it is a contract between 2 people who
consent to supporting each other. If there is no relationship between the 2 there will be no marriage but a battle ground for rights. Reason i am stating this again is in reference to the underage marriage issue. A 9 year old has no consent of her own. She dosnt know what it is except she is told by her family.
Outside of law and religion there is nothing that makes us aware of the institution of marriage to exist. Connection is the only natural thing that there is. Marriage is an artificially created environment by man to identify/define for him and himself what a relationship is and in the eyes of nature to distribute to others who arnt as strong to have some share. Yes women are very discriminative and thats by nature, she wants strong genetics and security so what is left for the weak one's to do? Either go to the gym or develop a brain. We have men that cant seem to remove the constant requests and so it is for some women, the rest are left with left overs sorry to say but that is the bitter truth. Hence marriage and the laws within it tried to do some fair play but it also created chaos. Other women became jelous and other male became conniving. When you mess with nature it comes back to bite you.
I hate vague laws and this is why even in my group WHy is there No, i made sure there were no rules and this way everyone was at peace and i dont need to police it. There is a vibrant connection. Open doors makes everyone careful cos they know as you treat others you treat yourself. I am adamant at opposing the senates decision on young girls marriage from the standpoint of "They will not be there to see to it that there is fair play, They don't have the infrastructure to support the law." They have shown no other development efforts to solve the existing social problems first and now added another.
When others are in your relationship, there is no way you can call it yours. I tried bringing in family and friends and it only rifted the connection. I thought i was doing the right thing because i was told that that is how it should be in Africa. When couples have a problem they go seeking counselling to bring objectivity, (there is no guarantee that the so-round sound is objective) that was my mistake. Everyone around was going through thesame thing and to an extent made me their lab rabbit, to see if another way would work. They remained intact but we fell apart, not realising that i invited others definition of what a marriage should be. If both of us had the same understanding as i had at the time we would probably have found a way. He didnt want his cruel business known and i couldnt take charge in facing him squarely cos i knew i will cause damage through the pain. So i rendered him to the judgement of his parents and they didnt handle it because they had bias. They couldnt accept the shame of his behaviour, protecting themselves from owning up that they didnt bring up a good person and man. I did the right thing but it all went wrong. On the other hand if i did take up my own judgement he would have lived in the hell that i am very capable of creating but i moved away. Learn from my mistake. Every marriage is a mess and especially those who paint it as bliss. White picket fences are a disguise. No one is perfect, the grass is green where one nourishes it and those who are at work always look rough.
We have a lot of situations in our society where traditionally women are forced to drink the water they used in bathing her dead husband and they will put her for days to stay with him. Although we dont have forensics to find out if he was poisoned, in the african culture they would employ such tactics. So is it healthy not to speak up when issues arise or is it better to open up and avoid someone suddenly being a victim? You tell me i didnt do the right thing.
Accepting the past is the problem in getting to the future! Nothing changes in History, so leave it
there! You only repeat it when you bring it in; trying to undo today what has long gone. Even if certain things appear to be the same the people or circumstances you will be dealing with are different. Every body is unique and with them come new things. Project on them your fears and you will have same results that happened in the past, but for the other, their future will be their future because they haven't been there before, while you repeated your past because you projected it again repeatedly.
About a week ago i met a chap, he is mixed like i am, he is 25 years of age. I saw my past in him, and he saw himself in my feature. He told me about his life and i told him about mine. He told me about his feature aspirations and i told him what i did to get there. He left happy and in faith because he saw that i was strong and successful. Meeting him made me come at peace with my youthful hic-cups and him meeting me cleared his doubts about his feature. Although i am a gal and he a boy, we took the same leap of faith, only i did it earlier and he could see the facts of my life that gave him the reassurance that it would be ok. This is the reason i tell my story to the young and old so that they can let go of the doubts they have of themselves and their future. Some get threatened by it and some get happy, its the heart that matters. If you are doubtful of yourself, you will take good news as a thorn. If you are self assured it will give you a boost. Sail on my dear friend you will be ok, just as i am! Should my Ega admit, he saved me more than i probably did him. He was strong and bold and that reminded me of how i was.
Its very easy to say "i wish i could have a time machine and change an aspect of my life because of today's events." I tell you this, as much as you may feel that you "coulda, shoulda, woulda" you will still be in a state of wonda! Pain isn't an indicator of a mistake. It is an indicator that you were proactive at some point. Nothing happens for nothing and no one is static, its either you are pushed or you push. Passive or reactive is a motion. If you push the reward is yours, you can claim every dime of it. If you don't then that's where the self blame game starts.
Decision and Indecision is an action. I see that the takes that i made brought me to where i am and if where i am is a good place, regardless of the pain, it is still good. My pain is as a result that i cant share the joy with those that i lost along the way because a thought clicks, "are those who i lost in a happy place themselves, after i left them?" I felt guilt that i had to push for my own happiness! I got stuck in worrying for others and if they were angry that i took a piece for my self finally but then one day i asked myself "arnt they adults just like me to sort out their issues of happiness?" I realised it was distracting me from handling the NOW and giving myself more pain! Only life can tell on the long run if coulda, woulda, shoulda turned into "Yes it worked because I did, keep doing and Will continue to go in the same path as before because it worked regardless of the perceived collateral damage.
We like to judge our decisions prematurely, trying to foretell hoping that maybe today we can undo certain things. Touching what has been done can actually turn things worse. If that time machine could take you to the future you would actually see that the choice you made was actually perfect. You just need to calm down and let it go so it can complete its mission. Your clean mind tells you, you did your best and leave the rest to him who knows better than you. We tend to blame ourselves for the emotional decisions, well if you were meant to be rational at the time you would have. Trust me we are not at all in control of our lives, we didn't create ourselves we procreated.
Being in the prison of doubt, puts others in the same shoe. Doubt separates best friends, everyone wants to be sure you know so they are not mislead or best you are not misleading yourself by holding on to the past and trying to search for a hope to a future you are not prepared for. "What if" is a bad place to be when actions have already been taken. Do a "what if" before you set your foot not after.
Leviticus 19:17 "'Do not hate a fellow Israelite in your heart. Rebuke your neighbor frankly so you will not share in their guilt.
I have an utter disgust for people who call themselves friends or family, yet watch how their brother or sister and friend is falling! I often ask men and women why don't they talk to their friends or family or even a perceived foe? I realised they themselves are guilty of the same behaviour and know that their friend wouldn't listen! Few will accept the shame that they had lead their friend down!
The truth is the truth, there is no way to say it without hurting someone's ego or ega! That's about what's the worst that can happen! How ever know the difference between scorn and correcting!
Look at the turn around of Africa, Nigeria in specific! Kids can't tell their parents straight in the eye that they are wrong. Parents oppressing their kids with threats of disowning them should they speak up! Better to die on the streets than in the hands of those who are supposed to protect and keep you growing! No one is ever forsaken, even a fool is never turned down or disowned by his family. Why fear? Hardships? A slave is a slave when he surrenders his soul. A victor even if he is whooped by a cane the scar dosnt go to the heart, he blocks his ears to the words with self affirmation, plays dead until the right time to strike! In a family just as in a nation where everyone is lying no one will progress!
Someone once told me "its good enough that you know" thats not for me! What i know will kill me and everyone after me! Those who say or die for the truth are not fools, they know why they are trying to stop what may come! Should they live with what they know is wrong, their children will inherit the seeds sown! They stand as an example to the masses!
I am not richeous, in fact i am a bad gal, thats much more interesting; who is capable of anything so long as it is to myself and those around me know I wouldn't be caught guilty in being told not to tell those around me that what they are doing isn't good to another even if it costs me my head! I fear that my friend wouldn't tell me when I am putting a knife in someone's back cos I am blind!
You are always going to hurt someone at any point in time; your parents, your kids, your friends but what you will not be able to live with is when you realise you hurt yourself!
They will always be there where you left them. They may also travel while you are away. If you hold on, they will hold on but they wouldn't be able to live with you if you are lost! You owe it to yourself to find yourself and when you come back you tell the story. No matter how sad or good they will always welcome you back cos they have missed you and want you to share and they will share with you their adventures!
My major target is Youth and Mothers! I ain't a saint but there are certain experiences I have to go
through to be able to perform! Actors must sit in the shoes of the role they need to play to get to the depths of knowledge and be able to portray the essence of a character! They need to be the agent of knowledge!
I will not be able to train my staff to fulfil their roles in supporting my clients if I didn't experience things by myself! If a chef don't know how his dish should taste he wouldn't be able to assemble the ingredients and serve what is on the menu!
Let's assume there is 160 mill people in Nigeria! And let's assume there are only 5 million out of 160 who are well taken care of! What language will I be able to speak for them to see opportunities within their environment if I have no clue to what they are going through?
Some will ask is it necessary for me to see to believe? Yes I need to! You can't help those who are down if you haven't been down and found a way up and you can't help keep those up if you haven't risen and fallen at a time and back up again! I am a lab rabbit to my cause and so should you be if you believe!
My mission my be noble but not entirely unselfish! I want to know my people and in them discover me! I was and still am a youth. I am a mum and I can't be ignorant of what you go through if I am setting myself to help and support! I will not fail to make my Oscar night and will give you a swell time at producing your dream production!
Trayvon! - it's not about being black or white that got you killed, it's that you were stupid enough to
think that by living on this planet you should stop watching your own back!
There are always some cleaver bastards that walk on this earth and one wonders how the earth still carries them! When the good speak up the "maybers, and the "are you surers" say bring proof before we believe and stand by you! A woman who stayed in abuse finally runs and it is her that gets crucified cos how can that nice guy be cruel? Meanwhile check his childhood history you will find out he was abused by his parents and classmates and now he comes out to take his anger on another innocent soul like he was!
A kid is dead, regardless of what the verdict of the murderer is or would be, the boy is gone!
This could have happened to me and my brother while walking the streets of Moscow and Tashkent where skinheads and hooligans ruled! I know what I witnessed with my friend Elena Park standing in front of a guy at knife point just about 7pm right at the ally before our home. 2 girls needing to think of a way to distract a thirsty guy from who knows what was on his mind! We had to pacify his ego so that he wasn't provoked to hurt.
Trayvor you were a boy! Ego is what got you killed. You probably wanted to standup for yourself; for your pride and the right to walk free on the streets! It's not just you but all of us! Everyday i have to stand up for myself and bro so someone doesn't find an excuse to tell us we have no right to life and a good living! Sometimes with fists back and then I get calls such as "he will ruin his career don't you know they are British"? And then his own country ads their bull shit and some moron asks me why is he so stubborn? Who fought for him?
It isn't about being black that got him killed, it's that someone was blood thirsty that day! The victims never live to speak! Be vigilant always and hold a pair of smart balls to get away and then strike back if it is worth the fight! Don't put yourself in an environment where you could possibly be attacked, and if you should go, be prepared for anything!
Perpetual motion vs friction - Love me or hate me. Some will and some wouldn't at least don't stand in the middle trying to make everyone love you, neither should you put yourself in situations that would bring scorn!
Loving you always, wouldn't happen because people need options so you can make a choice! If you stand out you will create enemies and will have friends! Some of those who you consider your friends will be your enemies and your enemies will become friends!
Friends: Those who objectively oppose your beliefs will point out to you outrightly the faults with it and never make it about you but the actions you are about to take that don't work for your good! Real friends work behind your back without you knowing! Those are not often the silent nor the loud ones, they are the active participants directly and indirectly! You don't have to see them act but you can see the results in time! Don't let the right hand know what the left hand did! It takes away the magic!
Those who were bullied when young become bigots when adults! A loved child is an open child! Kids who grow up in homes where they are constantly told that they are no good, go out to school where they are bullied and have no one to stand up for them on both sides end up becoming passive aggressive. They hide and show and develop an arrogant disposition! They may present an outer appearance of nice but only cos they need to survive!
Those who bullied when they were young may have done it out of play but have no clue as to the effect their actions had on the persons life. Mother hens hatch snakes; a sheltered child is a caged creature! Look at what is going on in Europe and America now; where kids dont know what riding a bike and getting dirty and walking bear foot is like!
We sure are complaining as to why we are having sociopaths, crime, violence etc It is this individuals who are now taking out the frustrations the bullies put in them! Personally I have seen too much injustice and people bullying people around me for so long that when one comes to me with an attitude I can smell it from afar! I was always lucky that I was bigger by 2 heads than my peers and rolled with the senior classes so I was safe and those around me. Yes I have always been the one to stand up for those who couldn't but when I was a child I could only physically protect with a fist. I remember being a bully to bullies, now that I am an adult throwing fists will make me look like the bullies so I use words to try an address those who need to hear and realise what their actions towards their kids create. I inform them that eventually those words, sticks and stones dont just fade away, it stores up for later when the person feels big enough and that is poured back into our society!
Every problem an adult today has of his or her self esteem bears root from childhood! Some fight it and some don't. Those who fight it off assert themselves in life and those who don't, submit to defeat or any small hurdles!
We are living in a very oppressive, crime and lies ridden environment and this is as a result of our method of
1. Child rearing using "scorn" as a method for correcting, and physical asult!
2. Hailing "ego boosting" clearly tactics as a method for gaining leverage to approach someone. Personally I hate when I am asked questions such as "how was your night? or a statement such as "You look good" mean while on my mind I am saying "if I had a bad night I will call you, and if you knew that I feel like crap after having grooved all night with a bottle of JD you wouldn't tell me I look good cos I just checked myself in the mirror" and please don't tell me that you are being nice cos the next moment what comes out is "can you give me the keys to the safe where your money is?"
What effect physical assault has on a child is that of an electric shock, a feeling of threat which remains for life, its what slaves were subdued with along side being called demeaning names. It goes so deep that even when they are now adults, when they see or hear someone else with similar approach as their initial violator they shut down! Zombie like state of mind!
We need to keep our kids safe from being taken advantage of and them taking advantage of themselves. Where there is no trust they can't function cos their mind is forever at fear that you are out to hurt them and should you come close and make an innocent mistake they take out their anger on you like you were their initial violator! This is why sometimes some murders happen that are left unexplained!
Yesterday I was watching "Captain America". During the transformation of the physically weak
looking soldier a cyrum was injected but prior to the event the scientist heading the experiment was having a talk with him saying that the reason he was chosen was because of his strong heart! He asked him that what ever it is "experiences" he may have to go through he should not let it change his heart!
There is a story of 2 mice who fell into a bucket, we all know this story and all it means to me is that only those who refuse to give up, those who have faith and hope win!
Dispair is in the hearts of our Africans and that has changed the hearts of many. We have given up on a majority level on our selves and our country! It shouldn't be so, giving up is giving power to the negative! Keep your hearts safe, keep your hearts faithful and put your feet to work! I have no other dream but Africa. If I see you down I will be down or find it harder to rise and where will all that lead us to?
I am not daft to the realities of what it would take to see some change but if you do yours I will do mine and we will make it out! Clearly I am waiting for rhe rulers to wake up too, I hope on them to see but we the people should also see that we have let things down too! When parents admit to themselves that they are wrong then the kids will open up! In this case the people are the parents and the kids are those who we put there to do the job! They are assholes and that's cos we are full of crap!
Someone asked a question "Why are Christians bothering her who is an Atheist. That can't she live for herself"? The Christian world is aggressive about how they try to win souls and sometimes totally unethical in their approach and also with a lot of ignorance as to who is like Christ! Being a Christian don't make you Christlike, often it's those you never imitate that live according to his word!
There is a difference in the mindset of living for yourself and living in knowledge that something created you to be special! There is a grand design of someone in your life, i suppose this is what the christians should be trying to convey in their quest to save should who seem not to live a life of good standards! If an Atheists life meets the standard of a good life, who are the supposed christians to try take them of their path? Lets remember a few facts; Christianity as a religion was presumably cultured to help the poor, sick and week hearted to believe there is someone who watches over them. I think one should recognise it when they see it! As much as our thoughts and deeds set our paths there is also some magic to the world we are living in! It's up to who wants what!
You can live for yourself but that could become a lonely place at some point when you realise everyone that you have drawn towards you live for themselves! Some caution should apply to anything one follows cos our thoughts create our realities!
A lot of believers in any type of religious paths at some point in my view loose objectivity to the purpose of their chosen religion when their dreams, wishes don't seem to come through and what dealing with the fear of the unknown is! We want security, that's a basic for any human being but when your way don't work for you, you need to check your belief system, modify it add others points to make a whole that works for you and how you put your feet to work!
I look at the variety of religions as business industries in example! The financial industry may say its all about the Benjamin's, yes it is and that's for them. The consulting industry also has its motto and same with the rest! The question for me is what do you choose to believe in and does it work for you?!
Personally I was blessed to grow up in a multicultural and religious background and saw how religion was not the problem in our family but the personalities that were in the mix! Everyone was too strong and it made us weak at some point. Now It is the best thing that could have happened! We are family even if we are all in different corners of the earth! We go out and bring into one pot. We live to miss each other and come twice a year to see each other! Family don't mean you have to be under one roof! In fact those who are under one roof don't behave like family, often they can't wait to leave! Familiarity breeds contempt! You have to go and miss each other, the bond is to be built while you are kids! For me siblings are family, not daddy or mommy so it's the same I see in religions! Take a pick on what you want and rife with it!
Not every Christian or Buddhist or Atheist or Muslim will succeed at finding happiness only cos they practiced religiously what their religious leaders say! For instance I could be an Atheist but I love people naturally and I will believe in them cos I believe in me and I will be regarded by some christians as someone who behaves like Christ! People have this predefined assumptions they have built that often misleads them!
A girl could live in the ghetto but she doesn't allow the Ghetto affect her and there is a Prince who lives and grew in opulence yet his heart is dark! Not everyone is affected by their environment! Not everyone who reads the bible is a Christian! By their deeds ye shall know them! Religious practices are a routine that sets social discipline in which one hopes to find oneself and help them find transformational knowledge "spirituality". I see all as one body working towards the common good! Don't disturb people, do your thing and in example you would lead! They will come round when they get tired! Haven't you seen how 2 will read the same passage and see 2 different things? Experiences of life differ and the paths thereof.
All roads lead to Rome and in my view my job is to tell my story and find my key to the gate! Don't let anyone but yourself take you off your path! You always have a choice, there is always time to turn around and I took the road less traveled and it made the difference in my life!
Damn these standards of dress codes! Why can't our fashion designers start changing the minds of the corporate world to wear comfortable dress ups that would suit people like me?
I am dead serious, I like sports wear and suits make me feel like a caged bird on a parade! I love to walk barefeet, well thats about the worst habit i have, too free for my own good! Id rather have black feet than a black heart!
Suits: Maybe it looks good but I am dying in them. Don't I look just fab as I am in my usual everyday work suit? Why should a life and business coach wear suit if a sport suit is the costume? Why has the consulting world dictated for everyone what to wear?
I want a revolution in our business world of Africa to happen! Well apart from that honestly I just never had acquired the skill in being dolled up, makeup is a problem for me, wearing bangles and earrings is just a drag! I have one pair and havnt removed them for years, i dont even remember to put them on if i needed to put them off! I am terrible that way in that department! I am just buck all the way! I am looking for an excuse for me to be me! Am I wrong? Or should I be pretending to impress you? One thing I love about me and that is in conflict with everything that men and women in our society and the world at large can't seem to remove "fakery and pretence! A girl will nearly break her neck wearing high heals and walk in a crooked manner! Lord help me, you created me a Tom boy! Is there a fashion to suit me?
The world in my eyes has totally missed some very important lessons that happen everyday. I asked 2 questions yesterday! A little bomb if it isn't a lie! Correct me if i am wrong.
1. Does a guy respect a lady because she comes from a good home or cos he loves her?
2. What will make a woman be loyal to her man? What makes her stay?
It isnt a question to parents that a home must be a good home for your kids to achieve their potential. however that potential for growth can be seriously compromised should there be a misplaced value system. We have to accept at some point that the value and growth of our kids isnt in how much riches you have amassed but the attitude to life with which you bring them up. Some rich homes are not wealthy. Wealth is in the disposition with which you see life and treat the living.
A friend of mine said: The hard truth remains that most men respect their wives because of her family background, her educational background, her worth in the society.
In my opinion now is that, i will hide my daughter, just as my father hid me until i was able to handle myself and the world. If the reason I should give the best of everything to my kids so someone treats them well, then my efforts will be in vain! It's like throwing your pearls to pigs and dogs! I am sorry to use this quote to describe Gold diggers, i dont believe it is fair to label people that way but we sure have in our society people who have skewed value for what ever they didnt earn. I believe this is why women are to be protected from men who have no fear for life. Look at me now with the fame of my brother all I am worth to a man is access to him! Some will say yeah to hell and have him to yourself, thats exactly what i did. Look in our society what is going on with women whose brothers and fathers are rich! It's a curse on a woman when she comes not or isn't brought up to be humble! Not oppressed but humble!
If a gal needs to come from a rich home to have advantage over every other girl then her life will be full of misery. Man is carnal and seeks to take naturally what he likes but what exactly does he like in her? Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but what does he behold in his heart? If money is all he wants he will go after what glitters. If it is life he will seek a partner. And those who go after women who are totally equipped are gold digging men! Hide your daughters but in a smart way. If you are wealthy send her/them forth to the world looking very ordinary or best even to the ends of the world where no one knows you and let her marry there. Keep your enemies closer and your friends far, i think applies more to your kids than the external social family. I walked raz when i was a youth and i got to know who is who by how they treated me when they saw no value for me. Someone told me the other day 'keep people who treated you well when you were most venerable'
I have seen a woman who was supposedly brought up in a good home but her attitude to people and her family brought her to her knees. Where now she fights to break her own family home for bringing her up to have an attitude towards the world! Most girls whose fathers are rich and well known have an attitude that stinks to high heavens cos she thinks daddy will bring to the table the man! A girl from a humble home knows what worth is! She don't take people and what they have earned with sweat for granted! A woman stays with a man who treats her well and a man treats a woman well when he loves her, regardless of the home she comes from. A man will turn against everyone for a woman he loves and she stays loyal cos of what he has had to sacrifice. A man of plenty friends leads to doom. A woman gathers the flock under one roof, a virtual woman does not throw her seeds, she plants.
A friend of mine Calito said: Alsu.If I may ask,do u really think it is certainly wrong for a man to go
after a Lady from a wealthy background? Let's use Nigeria as a case study. By taking look at how the country has suffered consistent hardship becos the system is being run by these few corrupt leaders who has basically allowed corruption to eat into the fabric of the Nigerian society like a cankerworm.Today as I speak most or if not a very large number of parents cannot meet up to their obligations,businesses are folding up,children are taking to hawking stealing,begging,to mention but a few.My dear,I thinks guys going after wealthy ladies is a kinda means to survive.Rember,Ladies do thesame as well. In the western world you hardly come in contact with people trying to survive through one another coz there is job opportunities and the system is well managed. I rest my case.Just an observation!
My reply to Him was this for assessment and further discuss if you would please!
Your assessment isn't wrong about what is going on in our society, how ever the excuse you presented is what continues to perpetuate the ignorance we suffer in!
The side to what you say is right but making it a personal thing where you hurt others for your gain you will eventually end up in a rot! The poor do this and the rich but not the wealthy! And again I say those who are rich arnt always wealthy!
Nepotism is what has created the problem we have in our society! For instance look at the royals! When you don't dilute the bloodline you eventually start having bad blood and disease! When those who sit at top do what they do, sooner or later their heads go on a chopping block and this is what gives me the reason to keep at what I do and so with my bro and us alike! The evidence of what we continue doing will eventually bring us even more to our knees! Sodom and Gomorrah! We keep thinking America is the one or the only! I don't need to attack anyone, I just keep at what I do even when others are laughing! So long as there is one who is still fighting for what is good there is hope! There is a verse for this in the bible, I can't find it to make a reference but I think it states to something of : if The Lord finds one in the whole nation he will pardon all! Ah found it.
1: Run you to and fro through the streets of Jerusalem, and see now, and know, and seek in the broad places thereof, if you can find a man, if there be any that executes judgment, that seeks the truth; and I will pardon it. 2And though they say, The LORD lives; surely they swear falsely. 3O LORD, are not your eyes on the truth? you have stricken them, but they have not grieved; you have consumed them, but they have refused to receive correction: they have made their faces harder than a rock; they have refused to return. …
The Wealthy didnt create the poverty! There is nothing like a herd of families that are holding the wealth! What my bro for instance has today is as a result of hard work since he was 5! Then someone like keshi wants to lay claim, he chose the wrong boy or family to mess with cos if he got to be there through others efforts he will certainly be subservient! That is why they keep packing people like yobo as sheeps for slaughter. Where was he during nations cup? We are still gloating over a cheap win! We won cos we were underestimated not cos we came there strong! This is what the Nigerian public exchanges a mirror for our wealth! Wealth is a well deserved respect for putting your best and not a cheap shot for a fake win!
Mine that I have is as a result of working since I was 18! My trials are mine and so are the joys! I will not share with those who dont join in when i am struggling! Should that now make me or him a target cos someone don't know how we got what we did? If given the chance to put in what we did will they take the lead like we took even if they don't know where it would end? Do they even know or were they told by their 4 fathers that when you set a goal that that is exactly what you get?
The poor so to say who have health and brains do not see what they have as wealth and hence loose it! When one's focus is on what others have they loose even the little that they inherited! Penny wise pond foolish. When they are invited to the feast where are they what can they identify themselves with? They believe everyone is after their money but the wise put structures that safeguard their money or other kind of input (time is a tradable comodity)! Legally and in joining the dance. They say "when siblings fight another inherits their wealth!" That is exactly the plight of the poor!
I never had pity on myself and would find it very distasteful if someone considers me poor! There are those who are rich yet have no wealth! No knowledge in how to keep and grow the little they had been given as a gift from the universe! Everyone is born with a gift and they squander it following others! Look with what values the supposed poor live with where they take everything for granted? My brother played football everyone around were busy scorning my parents that 2 doctors couldnt even put 2 kids into school! where are those people today? Values make the difference in people's lives! Greedy always loose out on value! Mass minded and today I don't mind shoving it to their face let them learn!
I am sorry but I can't buy into the excuse that the many hold on to in our society! A gal has all, a supposedly rich guy approaches her and treats her bad, when she pulls out he now curses her for not being stupid enough to buy into his bad behaviour! The rich kids put the wealthy down and in the boomerang effect end up in the same shoe cos God will give them a taste of where the shoe hurts! No truth is left hidden and so everyone returns to correct the mistakes once made in arrogance! If the poor want to continue being poor then they should continue in their bigotry, no one can pull you out of the gutter if you don't stretch your hand! The wealthy are forever reaching out through various means but the poor can't let go of the little and be lifted!
My apologies for sounding arrogant but just as hard as I was on myself to get out of the gutter others tried to put me in, is same way I will get everyone out, only hope they can go through the shadows of death as I did! Get some sunshine into your hearts and darkness will have no space! Tap to the music of good will!
I only use myself as an example cos you all want facts rather than the truth! Bite me! Lol
If we are waiting for some change its not going to happen! Being that those who are lecturing today are lost in what today requires! Including the parents that belong to the baby boomers age who are trapped in old school beliefs! It would really take a mutant injection to shift things! I have a design but it would take time to see the result! Are Africans patient to see themselves through?
A lot believe we are lazy, maybe! Remember that there is an influence in the biological atmosphere that we are in! The hotter the weather the duller the people! To prove this divide the world in half and you will see a pattern where all the countries in the Southern Hemisphere are underdeveloped and the northern are developed! The other is nurture to rise we must force "assert" ourselves against nature!
Also I believe that there are 2 things that created the problem we have with the economy; the EDU. structure in Africa! One is a deliberate attack and the other perpetuated by the people! Just imagine what would have Nigeria been today. Would the Aliens be able to dictate market price on our value?
The second. The Then family values have disintegrated; where parents focused their kids on money rather than development! And on a social level we had spread the internal apathy! How many speak of vision? As soon as you do, you find people who tell you it isn't possible or you are a dreamer and the guy folds his hands cos he cares more about what others say. The fact that the educational system internally had been corrupted had worsened the situation for the abled youth to find skill and support!
The chase for easy money "oil" had further worsened the situation! The fact that most of the people who were working were civil servants in government compounded the issue, which means they never had to do anything to make ends meet, which curbed them from the instinct and skills in entrepreneurship and business! Creativity is shunned cos sports, arts and culture is considered for the riffraff and parents want to see their kids be lawyers, engineers and doctors. Now there is a bottle neck where lawyers are practising 419. Doctors have become babalawos and engineers have been put in fancy cages "banks" to count money! Total skewed values if you ask me! Diaspora that could be of help are fought and asked for remittance which only feeds and breeds vultures and hyenas on the grass root level!
If going by this quote “The best part of man’s education is that which he gives to himself”—Walter Scott. That was exactly my path cos I witnessed what happened with the breakdown of Russia with my entire family, where the old system made weak people and now they had to develop new strengths to survive. Gladly because dad came from Africa where entrepreneurship is survival of the day since he was a kid in the village, he gave us what many didnt have! Having to survive on the streets gave us critical thinking and the basic education gotten in russia towards science gave a base for further exploring and being inquisitive about new developments!
In Africa we had no system from start, we had colonialism but that isn't a system, it was a strategy for others to gain what they needed! We never tried ourselves to grow from there! Nigeria wasn't oppressed like South Africa! I think the mosquitoes and our aggressiveness saved us from our lands being liveable but it has also been our curse!
I would make this reference to how we treat people that we presume are not fit at start and then all of a sudden they spring up from nowhere! It's not that it hasn't been there all this while its just that something needed to trigger it, some form of injustice into faith in themselves!
When they say our enemies make us stronger this is true sometimes, some people need to be hurt cos they in slumber! Some need to be told that they are no good for them to rise!
There are those kids that when you tell them they no good they break and some kids who when you give a foundation will rise! I am of those you don't do anything for cos I am a self starter! I make an oasis out of a slum! My motivation have always been for others! I don't ask for help I call for collaboration!
I was one of those kids who my English teacher in Russia called a couch potato, when she saw me 10 years latter she said "Alsu is this you?!" If only she knew that being assertive has never been my problem. It's that I never cared when someone said anything overly positive or negative just to trigger an effort for me to do something! You say yes and I would think of a way, you say no and that wall is coming down! If the crap outweighs the good i will turn it to manure and if good outweighs the bad I roll with it! Haven't failed in handling anything even amidst obstacles!
There was something they didnt see that was very obvious I think to who was interested to know or see! "Couch Potatoes" are those who are self absorbed that they don't even realise when they miss their step!
I did what was needed not cos someone wanted! I don't have to have an interest for me to do something and deliver it, just tell me what is important to you and it is at your door, don't ask me how but I will get to the bottom of things. I would be very stubborn when I feel a sense of manipulation, never liked it when people thought that that is a method for getting what they wanted from me or anyone. Can't be straight, then bugger off!
Something drastic happened to me at age 4 and a few other things. An intense experience triggered a gift, i see dreams before they happen, my intuition is sharp and that helped me deal with issues effectively and efficiently! I saw a boy killed by another! Badly bitten and all that happened was the guy got away with it cos immediately he was flown out of the country! The boy was an african boy who was serving them at their home and the parents were expatriates! I was 4 and from that day every event in my life was never forgotten! I think that messed with me and I was too young to express the fear and hurt for the other! Maybe that's why I became buck!
I understand more when one calls for responsibility and commitment! Self centred needy people dont get too far with me! Often times I would see what they didn't see, they themselves never believed in what they were saying or what they wanted to do! If they were greedy and wouldnt turn away, i would push them exactly were they wanted to be. I am wicked to selfish and greedy people! No harm but go since you dont listen! I would hear their tone of voice, their body language, some even say things that are totally contrary to what they are doing!
In the instance of my English teacher when we walked in the class i would see how bored she was with her subject, in my mind i would say why bother. Or she will be fine but in the next subject will give something she wasn't interested in! The teachers that I loved most were that of Math and Russian Literature! I didn't show them that I loved the subjects but I loved them as people! They were personalities! The math teacher was strong and brave a Scorpio like me. I looked for everything to identify-myself with her and the Literature teacher was passionate. not necessarily about her subject but her herself. So much peace came from them! I have had the luck to meet great women who showed faith by being who they are, not what they were!
I often frowned at when my A grade classmates would be followed by others just so they would get tips on exams! Sometimes I would tell them not too get too over their heads and remember why they followed! I think the event at age 4 sure made me care more for people than what they had! It's what keeps me going regardless of if they had anything! No human values? You are as good as an animal to me!
The personalities that affected me today and which i emulated made me feel that being different was cool and I never had a second thought at being different from others. I just always went my own way! It sure made the difference! I was peaceful but complicated, and turn difficult when I see something was amiss. We have tricksters for people who would make others their lab rabbit and it was clear to me from the start and if sometimes too late to turn away, I'd chop my head off than continue the journey!
If you know there will be rain, why not go get a bucket before it rains? Seasons by nature have
already been defined! Nothing new, every day people complain about one thing or the other, is that not supposed to inspire a solution? Or is it the fact that too many complaints are overwhelming you? Plans are not dreams. A plan is a solution to a problem. Dreams are only revealed when you have employed yourself! It is crazy to wait for rain to fall first and then run around looking for a bucket. What if its just for 2 seconds? This is how we do business in Africa and then sit starving. You want things to be for sure before you start doing something? Allow no sleep to your eyes, nor slumber to your eyelids. Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise. Without having any chief, officer, or ruler, she prepares her bread in summer and gathers her food in harvest.
Why do we not read the bible where one should? Why do we look for what isn't there? Why do we serve life with our lips? Guys to what standards do you hold your pastors and prophets to when on your head they are flying jests and jets, while keep you asleep? You should be getting bloody angry at yourself and those who you allowed to whisper crap in your ear about prosperity you havnt earned. A heart that is full of greed will speak and see only a crooked road and trust not where he hears and sees work to be done.
There is a great probability that those who have morals and principles are those who have been
violated but it takes something unique within them to turn around their pain into someones joy. No one is born with religion in their hands but there is a trick not scientifically proven but spiritually we all understand is very possible; that when kids are conceived in Love "ie both parties are truly affectionate about each other, the kids turn out to be positive beings." If we do believe in energy "some form of current which are driven by emotions" this could be an option to consider strongly why some people who grow up in opulence yet seem to have nothing special within them to give the world.
Religion dosnt make you good, you are born with what one calls a calling or a destiny but has an influence in stoping some bad people to actually take up dominance. Lets assume Jesus was truly born from a virgin then no wonder he was of a pure spirit "nature" When a woman loves a man at the time of conception, the kids do become good natured. If the Man Loves his wife he too is adding a bond to his kids. A woman is a vessel, so she carries the nature of the child within her. Even if you dont believe in spirituality but on on the principle of faith; would you not agree that given the influence of how she felt about her husband, she wouldnt allow the child while growing up to step where he/she shouldn't, to keep the value of who and why she had them? As much as the responsibility of nurture falls on the woman, the nature of the child is from the man! Do your thing and own up to your part of the deal.
A lot of people say love is blind, I think that's just a flimsy excuse to passing the none understandingLove is the highest form of instinct! It can not be blind! It tells you when something is wrong or right! It's a connection that when rifts hurts as hell and when there, heals you instantly! Love ain't blind it watches itself and over others carefully!
of what it truly is!
The word love has been so abused that the current description of it, takes away the true meaning! Someday I will find another word to identify/reframe it's meaning! For now its just the highest instinct a person can ever be given the the joy of experiencing! We all come close but who has truly found it?
We are not born with knowledge and our duty on earth is to actually find knowledge. Showing our
unique powers of self, others and where we device ways to collaborate! Should we see things this way we will not level everything wrong! The only thing people get wrong most times is how they respond to what they see or experience. Its always subjective cos that's all they know and feel!
I do remember a huge lesson I learnt, a friend came into my life and she was hurt and I offered help but its not what she wanted! If only I had asked what would please your heart but now I realise that even with that she would still not have given me the right information. Not because she lies but cos she didn't know herself what was wrong or did she know?! My offer of help opened up the truth and with that came out more hurt cos she realised that who she was blaming wasn't actually the party that was playing the tricks! I became the agent who was blamed for everything only for unveiling the truth she didn't want to know! No blames on my side just the experience that i learnt "don't help those who cry, just give them a pacifier, they will sort out the problem by themselves!
"I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
— J.R.R. Tolkien (The Fellowship of the Ring (The Lord of the Rings, #1))
I am looking for that sentence such as "Yes we can" that would change Africa around! For a country like America to want to believe that they can, it meant they will!
"We" can't happen without "Us"! We playing small has fed the world, is it not possible to build us then? Africans are afraid of their own strength! We have starved ourselves from our own joy of creating a continent. We are afraid of dreaming cos someone said dreams don't come through! Are we waiting for someone to help us build even a dream? Some of us are living in the gutter but our eye's are up looking at the skies! If your eyes are set to the ground you will see only stones to throw! Anger like coal only burns he who holds it!
We have accepted the limitations that someone whispered in greed, yet we hadn't seen what they were greedy about! Dreams undefined are plans built on the skies! If you sit to negotiate your dreams with temptations there will be nothing for tomorrow!
Was just watching Ice Age with my kids and wondered how is it that 2 possums could convince a mammoth that she is a possum? Obviously they didn't give her the opportunity to see herself reflection, made her so busy attending to them that she totally got wrapped in their world!
We have people like that in our society, who so have so much trust for what they are told cos of how they were brought up! When you are continuously told or tell yourself you are a particular way you become it! This happens when constantly air is blown up their asses or they have been mentally suppressed to not think out of the box that they can't seem to open their eyes to smell the roses! They have been given a make belief and on occasion the agents have made sure they created some evidence or covert the truth to fit their needs! Their personal intuition have been so murdered that they no longer listen to what the quiet voice says within! Everyone around them is succeeding but they cant seem to rise! Haven't we ever heard of the word zombie? Figuratively speaking witches always use trolls to protect themselves!
Sometimes also it isn't even anyone doing anything but they themselves have so brainwashed themselves to believe in a particular thing that even when it isn't there they still see it as they want to see it! Anyone who opposes their ideas is an enemy, cos it causes them pain to accept that they have been living a lie, they dont view it as someone who just has their own set of experiences and can show proof that they worked it out!
The funny thing is, that even with vivid evidence they will still not accept the truth or a word you say! If you happen to be near such the best way is to remove yourself from that environment! Should you be in partnership of any kind with such play the possum game! Leave everything behind and just move! Everything earned in truth even if lost can be brought back and second time we all know its easier cos you have gone through that path!
Playing possum: Apparent death, colloquially known as playing dead or playing possum, is a behavior observed in a wide range of animals which take on the appearance of being dead to an observer. This form of animal deception can be either an involuntary reflex action as in tonic immobility or an adaptive behavior as in thanatosis. Apparent death can be used as a defense mechanism or as a form of aggressive mimicry.
I find a lot of fun watching these cartoons or reading fairy tales! In every film i take out life's lessons! and as much as i motivate you to believe in the good, i ask you to be vigilant! You know how they say our persecutors are our builders? to me Cinderella wouldn't have kept her prince shouldn't she have been used by the wicked step mother and brats for step sisters demands made her virtuous! And there is always a guardian angel that makes things happen even if you don't know!
"I ...understand how a parent might hit a child- it's because you can look into their eyes and see a 
