A bird that you set free may be caught again, but a word that escapes your lips will not return.
- Honesty is subjective "information about oneself" that can be aired if wished, the truth is also subjective but has more to do with the other and is merely a reflective opinion which could be wrong or right. Facts presented to back up either honesty or truth is what makes the validation of it to be true or wrong! One may hurt someone with honesty, although the truth may hurt but it can heal as well. The healing truth often encompasses the cause of an effect, ie what influenced what is evident! To heal someone point the direction at an environment rather than the person at hand. The truth my show solutions to a personal problem rather than pointing blame at the person for causing it or not handling a matter at the time it accrues!
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
- Find humour in everything as much as possible that soothes the pain or softens the blow! Sometimes when a harsh judgement is made add a smile, that way you are indirectly apologising for being hard! There are situations that warrant one to be direct usually when one is fed up with repeating oneself! A slap to the daft ie a stick on fools or a wise ass! Remember a fool may be an honest person while a wise person can be cunning, a smart person knows how to differentiate between the two! A smart person defuses or induces judgement on a situation to give a lesson! A smart person knows who or what caused a fault and knows when to create peace by waging war i.e. pointing towards a solution! Sometimes to take the heat on oneself and knowing when to withdraw is an act of being smart!
- If the child is brought up near her and she knows the environment that she had built then she would know what's being unsaid!
A pessimist, confronted with two bad choices, chooses both.
- Maybe that would balance the equation into inaction! A pessimist is also a procrastinator, giving them a positive and a negative solution is pointless! An optimist will see a way out or in in any given situation!
A slave shows his true character, not while he is enslaved but when he becomes a master.
- An act of Oppression is a sign of a slave! There is a difference between directing people and influencing people towards a goal and both direction and influence can be oppressive, usually it's the result that shows what the intent was! One could direct someone to the wrong path and one can influence someone in the wrong way at the end of the day the person directed or influenced plays a big role in what the outcome may be! Taking ownership of ones life is paramount regardless of who is perceived to be in charge or not! An opinion can direct or influence someone but the mind that absorbs it and added Grace from above is what determines the outcome to become positive! Ie Anger can kill you or keep you alive! Is one giving in to subjugation or is one working themselves out of subjugation?! At first one may be made to endure unfair treatment but are they working themselves out of it or are they choosing to stay in it? Where there is good will there is a way, where there is an angry will the roads are hidden! Keep an open heart for the mind to be clear!
All things grow with time - except grief.
- Happiness neutralises grief! "Move on" they usually say, the other term for it is "refocus"!
Ask about your neighbors, then buy the house.
- Usually your neighbours are those who can make living within an environment unbearable or happy! Just because an environment is clean doesn't make it friendly, except you don't mind who is who!
- Move away from when someone projects hate "any form of prejudice" except they are putting a gun to your head then negotiate your way out either by being the sheep or a beast! Who pulls out the weapon usually dictates the terrain but not the outcome! In short always stay calm don't project coolness! If someone slaps you give them another cheek! Be happy that your enemies have identified themselves while you still remained a friend! They have identified their week points while you remain untouched and an enigma!
- Father forgive them for they no not what they do! When people react in a negative manner to a situation that is unfamiliar they surrender their destiny to that situation, forever trapped in that moment.
Don't approach a goat from the front, a horse from the back, or a fool from any side.
- An honest man has nothing to hide!
Don't be too sweet lest you be eaten up; don't be too bitter lest you be spewed out.
- Everyone is looking for a way to connect either through your kindness or wickedness! Extremes scare most people!
Everything revolves around bread and death.
- Obviously everyone and everything has a start and deadline!
God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.
- If only men remembered that often! Their wives are mothers and guardian angels! Piss her off and she becomes the evil!
He who puts up with insult invites injury.
- Everyone must have principles!
If God lived on earth, people would break his windows.
If the rich could hire someone else to die for them, the poor would make a wonderful living.
If there is bitterness in the heart, sugar in the mouth won't make life sweeter.
If you can't go over, you must go under.
- There is always a way!
If you want your dreams to come true, don't sleep.
- Visions are seen when one sets a path!
In choosing a friend, go up a step.
- Be a friend to find a friend and to know who is a friend! One can't identify that which isn't a part of them within!
Let a good man do good deeds with the same zeal that the evil man does bad ones.
- An eye for an eye!
Loneliness breaks the spirit.
- It sure makes one turn away from the world! Moonwalkers!
Never trust the man who tells you all his troubles but keeps from you all his joys.
- Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy. No one can ever know anyone to the fullest even the man himself.
One of life's greatest mysteries is how the boy who wasn't good enough to marry your daughter can be the father of the smartest grandchild in the world.
- Knowledge passes from generation to generation and sometimes it skips a generation!
People make plans and God laughs.
- Man proposes God disposes! God does not laugh at the dreams or wishes if his children. He provides according to their faith and efforts! For those who believe in a universal force should understand that for there to be balance that ensures a continuum there is a need for alignment! Considering that people only see what they wish to see as well as wish what they wish the Only One who has a better perspective on what is happening everywhere is the one who decides what should and would be happening at any given time in space! They say "be carful what you wish for it just might happen", the question is "is one prepared to handle what may happen?" Being responsible for ones wishes determines the response to those wishes!
The favorite place of God is in the heart of man.
- The intentions of man is known to God regardless of what actions we may take! Not every intention comes out right as an intention is often directed at other people or a thing and seldom at oneself as an intent signifies projection! An intent is a thought at first but the result is evidence of another! One should bear in mind that intentions are driven by emotions! A plan of execution and the actual implementation of those emotions could be deterred by certain events! In example I could think that I love someone but I may actually be In lust or in need of that person! The difference is that to be In love is driven by a wish for pleasure while in need could be an emotion to possess that person! Pleasure is less harmful than to possess hence sometimes we either get what we want "pleasure" or that person escapes being possessed "used"! When someone loves someone they usually are friends and support the person and the physical act isn't sexual even if it may be desired! Desire is a more positive emotion than lust or need! One should not need nor want a person, one should desire to be around and or support a person and if the physical happens then it is an added bonus! Sometimes crossing that line could be detrimental to a lasting relationship! One must asses ones intentions before crossing that line!
- We always have one worry replaced by the other! How one chooses to deal with it is what one makes of it!
We do not see things the way they are but as we are.
- Our subjective desires lead us to think that we can make things into what we wish them to be! Something's are just the way they are and are designed to be just as is, the use of a matter is up to who ever beholds it! A diamond could be used as Jewellery as well as a tool for industrial purposes but does it change the fact that it is still a diamond? This is where the disparity comes in, some do not want it to be used as an accessory! Same it is in reference to people, we try to change them regardless of what they believe themselves to be! It may be motivated by either negative or positive intentions!
What one has, one doesn't want, and what one wants, one doesn't have.
- As people we seldom appreciate what we have because we don't see or haven't explored the use of it! Should one look closer one would see that what we have is what we need, just as who we are is in what we make an effort to become!
What you don't see with your eyes, don't invent with your mouth.
- Inventing with the mouth would mean do not lie, it could mean do not bear false witness as well! Some people are led by their greed and would support anything that to them seems profitable at the time until it backfires!
- Blessed is he who sees and believes but more blessed is he who doesn't see yet believes! From another stance if one should ask "why not invent"? The mouth does not usually invent what the mind hasn't seen! Most times people don't see what is possible, if after a word or two to persuade into action doesn't work, do it yourself to prove that what you see can be seen by others! Sometimes informing others of opportunities may become a problem for them or you! So keep it to yourself if the occasion demands!
When a father gives to his son, both laugh; when a son gives to his father, both cry.
- Some fathers are too proud to accept help from their children, simply because it makes them feel like they may be growing old ie not capable! That shouldn't be if one was a contributor to the success of their child or children. It should be a blessing that the children haven't forgotten where their pillars were founded upon! Children who wish to give back and have been rejected in the process get hurt because they don't understand that to some parents giving doesn't mean to get back, tact should be learnt in giving! Money for money doesn't often show respect to the elders as well as giving money to kids can be detrimental to their growth! Sharing is the key.
When you're hungry, sing; when you're hurt, laugh.
- An opposite reaction to an event happens to sooth a situation such as hunger or pain! The body produces toxins or endorphins as a coping method for the body to handle situations! Singing soothes the mind just as a laugh! Also the surrounding environment ie people seldom wish to know why you are hungry or hurt they are more likely to be interested in why you are laughing or singing! Happiness is infectious, unhappiness makes people who don't care to run! If you are interested in others being interested do the positive if you wish to put others at bay repulse them with misery! Sometimes to make people responsible for their actions express the happiness outwardly and who cares to know will find out why!
Where two Jews, three opinions.
- One for each and a neutral option! What ever works for each and what works for both at same time! A method for negotiating for the best! Being clear about possibilities!
Worries go down better with soup.
- A hungry man is a blind man! When one is full one makes less irrational decisions, however being too full can put one to sleep! Eating heavy food while being worried can cause constipation!
You can't force anyone to love you or lend you money.
- If one wants true love one should respect free will, money lent with force does not yield good results! For those who believe in spirituality they know that every gain or loss is escorted with the emotions with which it was given and received! For instance I learnt this lesson with my father; he wouldn't eat my cooked food if we had a fight, he likes to enjoy my meals and knows that if I cook while being angry my food doesn't taste as good as it is when with love! My dad and I only had 2 major fights, other than that we always get along! We are honest to each other and we boost each other's endeavours! It is nice to know there is someone one can cry to and who will take up arms for you without being manipulated! I guess there is no competition there! We do compete but it's in terms of healthy drive for achievement rather than what may be considered success! Success isn't an achievement, the drive to succeed at doing ones best is a process to achieving heights that never end! The illusion of success was removed from my mind by him at an early age, to keep moving regardless of what's behind is what he thought me to do! Just as mothers are there for their sons, dads are there for their daughters! Can this exist between couples? In some cases yes! They say where there is a strong man there is a strong woman beside him! When one sees a woman struggling know that she is on her own!
The person who only accepts friends without faults will never have any real friends.
- A fault may be just a habit. One may just be the missing link in someone's life towards a change! No one really changes if things or people remain the same or they choose to! Often the habits that infuriates us in people are habits they themselves are disgusted by but they still do it! When someone likes and takes responsibility in or for what they do regardless how it may be widely perceived by strangers the closest people to them see nothing to it! My friends may walk on their heads if they like and who "stranger" wants to pick a fight with me about them will have trouble with me. Habits have degrees! If what you do or like doesn't bring misery to anyone then no one seems to complain! In fact some supposed virtues of certain people are more hated than their flaws! Hypocrisy is something that we use to define the disgust we have towards the habits of some people! If you live and let live who would have an issue with who? Live and let live doesn't necessarily mean let everyone walk on their heads but the concept of making sure they don't make you walk on your head! For instance kids think parents are hypocrites until they grow up in many cases! A hypocrite is usually someone who is what he/she isn't and brings problems to others and not to him or herself! If one is responsible for ones actions can that person be called a hypocrite? One should not judge those who have judged themselves! There can be time to change and sometimes it's too late, the point of no return!
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