Is a tit now a tat?

Sometimes i hate these marriage based questions because it rips out the intimacy that should exist between a couple. The duties of being a Mother is different from the responsibilities of being a parent however for the benefit of educating parents to bring up good standing men who stand up for their choices these things need to be discussed. I hope not to sound like a robot when it comes to relationships but the parental duties force one to seem as such. A question was asked: Why should men propose first? I hope to draw some justice to this.

Commitment to a relationship seems to be the problem for the average male. Many men when they were boys were not brought up to take on responsibility other than to chase birds. They were also some who were focused on developing only technical skills rather than alongside developing social skills. If they were told and made to be responsible for their sisters "if they had any" then they should be ok in standing up for their choices of partner. Another problem in our society that we have are the overzealous mothers who by not having their husbands around converted their sons into mini helpers and find it hard to let go of their babies even when they are now grown up. Yes maybe after the war times they lost their husbands but how about embracing your daughter inlaw if help is needed? Why would a woman who lost a husband not remarry and relieve her son from the duties of the helper? Did she have a bad marriage? Could be but then there is no need to trap your kids in it and in return create an environment that breeds same effect but for a different cause.

Men like to use words to woo women so they should stand by it. I would presume that in the old days  for a man to marry he should have already set a foundation both of character and finance. By a Man proposing first he is now held liable for not meeting up with his promises and a woman for not honouring the offer of commitment. Women are socially boxed into place and that has to an extent taken care of the awareness of responsibilities that women adhere to. However we do have loads of women who think they are exempt from it. And Why? Because of the liberties that men allow themselves women have also taken into becoming an example.

What makes men or to better put it Man "a person with character and standing" is the principles of care and management of their choice(s). There is a limit to what "man" can take. Men who are not committed are likely to nest in another's nests and the women had been scorned for it and women who aren't taken care off open their doors. Is a tit now a tat? We are all rudding for policies to protect children, how about bringing up principled people in our kids and that in return takes care of the multitude of social and political problems that are now right in our faces.

A shepherd attends to its flock and the wolf stays at bay. Nurture is nature in this instant.