HUMANS NATURALLY DONT KNOW OR RESPECT!

To find owned Identity,
He images himself on the other,
He takes apart unable to find self in the other!
His search results to the dismembered other,

When found, he lacks the pleasure for his own,
Remembering the other rubbed of by its own,
He seeks to heal the long times gone,
Too late another Generation gone.
The world does not belong to one ethnicity,
You rob another, You loose out on your own.

I really want to understand this "Forgive and Forget" concept preached by Christians and i understand the reason why sometimes i believe that Islam is right to state an "eye for an eye" which to me means "prevention is better than cure or you get what you sow"

When they say that the Muslims are an aggressive lot, which i strongly disagree with but why doesn't one ask why? You cant be in that religion and not be meek, 7 if not ten times a day you are reminded that Allah is more important, while the christian is only on Sabbath "Sunday" day. It seems that christians forget easily except on sundays that HE exists and after on a Monday continue their crusade on hurting lives with their judgemental attitudes, no wonder they are considered hypocrites. Why dont one ask why? Why does it look like the christian althoe preaches forgiveness have hurt more the world with a smile than it wants to believe or admit?

It seems to me that HUMANS NATURALLY DONT KNOW OR RESPECT THE CONCEPT OF WHAT SPACE IS. If i tell someone that should they come to my territory and take it for granted; violating me i.e my beliefs and my built world which enables me to survive, why shouldn't i have the right to protect it from the ignorant that i have same rights to life and the world? If i allow you into my hall, why go into my bedroom? Don't i have a right to privacy? If i open up to you and you take me for a ride, dont i have the right to push you away? Can the law truly help me bring back my child who had been murdered? What therapy can erase my pain?

People seem not to have any form of respect to privacy, bullying me to accept their beliefs. I am bullied for setting boundaries to stop the bullies. If you set up boundaries they tell you you are bias or mean, deep down knowing that you are instinctively aware of advantage takers. They, the same lot who when you open up they crucify you for trusting.

Is the Christian world saying that everyone who comes into your life comes with good intentions, yet we witness how someone rips the life and lively hood out of you because to him or them you are just a piece of a puzzle to their survival? This is how men approach women, he needs her but in the kitchen and the bedroom, she dont have the right to sit in the parlour because she is a woman. HMMMMM INNATELY SELFISH and then you wonder why she went after your wallet?

In South Africa a lot of people are hurting because of Apartheid and no one was there to prevent it. Hurting by self inflicting pain on themselves because they were told to forgive yet proper measures to heal them wasnt given. Its going to take time but the young generation is carrying the pain of their fathers and this will continue for 50years if they dont take drastic measures to stitch up the wounds. Yes blood for blood would not justify anything, thats the logic of asking someone to forgive another. Both are hurting, one hopefully for hurting the other and the other for allowing the opportunity to be hurt. How does one heal?

One thing i know for sure is that i can handle the idea of why i shouldn't retaliate but the memories always keep coming back. Most behave in the same pattern that reminds you of why you got hurt, as well as we know that we hurt our selves for trusting. We have people who are shaming you for having to have been hurt, they don't let you speak because it horrifies them, they want to remain in self denial and keep you in self denial as to have hope for themselves towards life, yet they keep you in hurt, they don't know how to heal you. I can handle forgive, i can handle don't retaliate but i cant handle the idea of forgetting, there are just some pains you cant erase because one needs to erase ones memory, HOW CAN YOU ERASE MEMORY? Is there a medical way to do it? Some have resulted into drugs, prostitution, alcohol. Self ABUSE we all think it relates only to physical substance. How about the fact that it reveals that your inner substance has been violated. The least thing you should do is rip your self in addition to what the world has done to you. Don't retaliate because that would make you just like them. Piss them off by being stronger but don't deny yourself of acknowledging your pain.

Why do we let things happen and then are busy asking for a pardon and from the people who have been violated? Why shouldn't the Jews lash out back at the world for allowing the genoside? I think they will be fully justified according to the law of Islam. Are the palestinians happy now? Isn't it in the same bible written you shall fall by the same weapon you use? An eye for an eye after all isnt worth it because it suits the occasion for some to show you you were not better than them and they continue doing what they aim for. In event no one has learnt. Lost souls is lost heritage.

Why are there people who are never involved in a situation that hurt someone, yet are first to ask the hurting party to forgive? Why when the person speaks out we shame them? Are we showing guilt by shutting someone down and then they pull the trigger on the society? Where do you think prostitutes.  gangsters and drug addicts come from? When a woman cries she dosnt want to hurt the man that took advantage, some men dont realise the grace it takes to cry instead of paying back, kind for kind.

Are we afraid to face the fact that half the time we dont go after the perpetrators because we are afraid and that the perpetrators are not to be found because we are/were lazy and we believe some innocent and ignorant heads should fly to teach everyone a lesson? In the bible it was recorded the Massacre of the Innocents should the world not do everything for it to be prevented? Why ask for forgiveness after you didnt take measures to prevent the event?

I believe making an advice to forget and forgive on a particular matter turns out wrong because what the hurting party may be saying is; why is/was there no one to prevent someone from hurting another, yet there are a lot to plead healing? Isn't prevention better than cure?

I dont like extremists they have turned religion into a farce, blaming everything on religion rather than ignorance and the greedy women who are a problem to it too; you like diamonds but you dont want to know where and how it is gotten. Some Women blame men for killing and hurting yet you want to stay blameless? All have been pond and all have been punished. A plague on both your religeous houses.

I realised life is about hurting and recovering thats how we learn about who we are and to God we hope he is there to have his revenge.