The Sun and The Moon!

Survival is not about competition. In the question "Why do women love material things a lot" i had to look for an example to bring understanding to the men about women and material things.

Women get blamed for wanting, is it we or is it blame pushing?

I just dashed out to watch my son ride his bike. He came to meet me and said 'open the gate!' His intention was to enjoy himself, but as soon as he got outside to the compound I saw him turning back, I asked what happened and he said the rain. I came out and saw that it was just a drop here and there. I didn’t accept his excuse for not going forth with what he wanted. If the rain now is an excuse for him to turn back, then what will he comeback to me tomorrow to say “why he didn’t achieve the goals he set out to”?

I have had many instances to turn back and drop what ever it is I set out to do because some say No it isn’t worth it or the weather wasn’t right. Little excuses now and there will be many more obstacles as a reason tomorrow. That’s why I don’t believe in obstacles, they create bigger emotional "esteem" and physiological 'actualization" problems later. The power of habit is great. He would have enjoyed his ride before the rain actually started.

As soon as he was persuaded to continue his ride, he saw other boys. Trying to show off distracted him. The other boys ignored him cos they had no bikes while he kept trying to approach them. Well if he came out on foot he would probably have had a greater chance to blend with them.

Men like to play with toys but not to take care of it. Sorry that’s not how life works. In the desire to possess one should pay the price. Men have posed the right to go after material things, given that the right to earn was given to them at first and women were given the duties to distribute the possessions in an even manner. We need it to manage affairs of the home. Now it has so gotten into the subconscious due to the upbringing "influence" where a gal is brought up to think that that’s what she should be demanding from man rather than go and get it herself.

This happening created both a positive and a negative effect. Positive is that the burden is off one shoulder and now on both. This would force men to count with the opinions she has, which often men resist cos they would like to believe they alone can do all and it will force them to think out of the box about what he needs to do to keep a woman other than just using money as a bait.

A friend of mine said: Too much material or property consciousness of a woman can make man 'kolo' ooo.

I said: man is a possessive based creature, liberate the women to go make their own living and you will find that man would resist that progress because he is egoistic, possessive. Why complain about the pressure? He is the sun that wants to sine for eternity and worshiped, forgetting the woman is the earth that reproduces from the heat the sunlight gives, she needs to be supported.

Another friend added: Even at that, some women still want d sun to shine heavily in the evening or night, haba!

I said: for some men that woman may be asking for little. The issue I would presume isn’t about "how much" the woman may be asking but the fact that she is asking for what one in particular cannot give. To some men to talk is like you are pulling on their balls and they say “why isn’t the money that is given not enough for her to shut up and leave me alone”. To some men her not asking for anything is a problem. The problem is that a woman "asks", rather than go and do it by herself. If she does, he blames her for him ceasing to be relevant other than just a tool for pleasure and even that comes to question cos he himself thinks he isn’t good enough. Men are always sizing their length to feel relevant.

He added again: In a situation were d men sizes their length 2 feel relevant and d woman insist on her demands with threats and all what not leading 2 chaos, mayhem ,..etc...Do we say d man has not lived up 2 his relevancy......

I said: he hasn’t lived up to it cos he cant manage the pressure. You will find plenty a man not fazed by what others say and demand, but if he feels trapped then woe to him.

he said: Do we now say d fault lies on d weak men, like d adage...if u can't beat a woman ..u can't marry her...abi..

I said: agreed but I would redefine the strong word weak to lack of discipline and principles. I don’t presume that men are weak, they are not equipped to manage pressure like women have through history. If you see what has happened in the course of life for centuries men have subjected women into a box, now they have to carry it.

We women are strong because we have been made to discipline our minds and body, now the tables have turned to bite in the ass, but we didn't start it. If you read in the bible the Virtuous woman she needs a lot to manage the many, try help me find one verse like that for the men.

If it wasn't for Jesus the Prostitute would have been stoned by the same men who visit her. Do you think we women enjoy being subjected as tools for punches and pleasure? Try do that to man and he will cry slavery and abuse. We women can carry a lot, but we aren’t dartboards. So if a man cant or dosnt want to carry the burden of pressure he should relinquish his powers to the moon. To him who much is given much is expected. He who buys in the market carries his load!

In all this if you want life to work, you will share the sun with the moon and rip the rewards!