Women In Leadership and Women at Home!

There is quite a misconception about women, as well as of men in leadership! There is a difference between women who have been identified as potential leaders from women who are back at home!

When men sit to compare women who come out to leadership with the one they grew up to know at home, they often express subjective emotions! The fights you have with your sister and girlfriend or the complaints you hear from your father towards your mother, are not reasons to label all women to be unreasonable or incapable! Men from Venus and Women from Mars exist, just as Men from Mars and Women from Venus! Nature and Nurture brings up Leaders!

A well managed home is the crown of a woman. Given the evidence of the lifestyle men live (allow me to generalise "subjective assessment" to make my point clear). Looking at what the African woman who sits at the market place selling food based products and services has to go through in bringing up her kids in comparison to the men who are selling electronics, I believe women have placed themselves in the position of leadership in the family! She has to put up with crap by bringing up kids from the other men that her man has had in his pursuit of self esteem. She is likely if she has a heart to run the home with care and consideration to all!

A friend of mine did state that on an average a woman when having finance, would buy her kid a shoe than herself and a man is likely to drain his money entertaining his pals at a bar! Most average gals listen to the airing of promise by men, perceived as easily swayed to see a point of view! A Gal is not a woman, be she divorced or married, once you get to a position of leadership of a particular level, have had her fair share of knowledge of men, you become softly hardened if not rock like! There is a reason some of our African leaders use women as bodyguards!

I am not saying that our men arnt hard working, that's in comparison to other African men I have had the pleasure of visiting but the African woman's hardship is evident everywhere! I have often wondered why more African women aren't rising to take the position of leadership! Are they being grounded too much and don't see the point in rising their heads especially when it comes to policies that affect women directly!?

If going by the point in Proverbs of the virtuous woman, I think women generally all over the world are not to give in to the bad policies made that don't support them having a breather! As well as they are suffering from the wages of war in being raped and losing their kids to wars created by men who like to play god! Men if you don't want your child to die because some other man desires' to go into another mans war, best that there be women in government to give a hala back scream! Yes there are also women who are blood thirsty but very very rare!

In looking at countries that are Matriarchal and are run by women, we have seen a lot to peace even if some wouldn't record visible progress! Ghana is one of them. Being in a Matriarchal system dosnt emancipate men, England is another example. Women bring stability in times when chaos has eroded the science of life! A woman by nature even if she has no nurture is homely and that means she has a nature given skill to negotiate peace and stability!

Many men don't see women as objective creatures and many women see men as subjective creatures! To win elections one has to look objective but does that mean when decisions need to be made someone is not going to loose? Men forget that most decisions concerning a country revolves around supporting family values not counting people! If there are no women in governance there will be no faith and with faith comes stability and growth! I don't think people especially men are seeing this objectively, just because one woman decides to get into leadership does not mean the whole government is going to be made of women! We need balance in everything and that means female and male hormone is required everywhere! Nature has created it such that men have female and male hormones and women have same, it's just that in male there is more male and in female there is more female!

I am the sort of woman who has more male hormone than in most women. I am tall, broad shouldered, and have a moustache that i wax once in a while but that doesn't make me a man, I have had more male influence in my life than female and hence I don't think like most "women" do! In some areas I can  give more men a run for their wit and in some cases I am likely to loose to women when it comes to fashion sense! If you do see Hillary Clinton and Thatcher and other women of their kind you will see that being a woman is only on the physical level, the mind set is totally different and even they don't make decision alone, there are always men around.

Girls need women who they could look up to. I doubt that all men enjoy keeping women dull and daft, sincerely some men see it beneath them to have a housewife and I know men who enjoy making a rug out of their wife for self gratis! My father and men in the family weren't one, so I don't have the mind and heart to expect any less from any man! My brother is also proud to have a sister who doesn't sit on his neck even if he helps her out! When I hear men who wine about a gal whooping them at their game, I see a wimp and it is scary that he may be given a position of leadership because I want a champion to champion me to enjoy life to its fullest, it is my God given right!