Why i hate Cobwebs!

If you want to know the truth about what your marriage will look like date the person. This is why today you see that marriages where people dont know each other it grows cobwebs because there is a spider.

Why should anyone approach anyone at first with any intention? Cant man see woman without her being undressed? Cant a woman be secure in herself enough to be blind to viewing him as a wallet? Relationship starts with communication, friendship leads to dating, from dating to marriage. Too many mouths in 2 peoples lives is what creates the hell, confusion. They no longer know each other because they are listening to voices of the world rather than the language between them.

When you are in a relationship that is abusive tell the world, expose the dark to the light. There isnt anything shameful in being in a situation, there is nothing like a shameful situation if your heart was clean and you didnt know. It is impossible to see evil behind a smile. We are all bad judges of character.

You wouldn't help yourself by going to the parents of the abuser because they will shun you in their shame. Those close to you will often react in a guilty manner by making you feel guilty about your mistake to keep you quiet because they know their guilt. To kill the dark expose it to the light. Men who abuse their women do it till she talks and there are women who abuse their husbands with deceit.
Know who you with, before you say I Love you or even better Love yourself before you say i am yours.

A friend of mine p.s. who i do love but still think he is a chauvinist, said, "that is the illusion movies sell to people and they believe the illusion". In an average foreign film "kissing" is everything, in real life it is the main thing (sex). You see a couple in bed, the man still has his under wear on, in real life the couple is naked. In real life, the rich, royalty and people of culture, all practice arranged marriages because it works, films teach the lower classes a concept called love, I must love the person before i marry him...hmm.. science will show you the feeling of love (biologically) lasts max 3 years. Marriage should be founded on a sense of duty, a partnership, to bring up children in a safe, and secure environment. If you believe in a creator be in GOD be in evolution, then you must realise Man was made to lust after woman and woman was made to demand security (of which money is a big part). Thats why the species is so successful ( we are a randy bunch) we focus on pro-creation by design.

Well my reply,

If not for our illusions we wouldn't be where we are now, its what they call ideology, so one finds his or her own identity! Compartmentalising hearts or souls doesn't work for all! All fingers are not equal! Even the Amish are all under scrutiny. "George any body choose your wife for you? :), we all have our own, we are all simmers! I am not the type for arangee it isn't even debatable! I feel insecure where I have to sleep with a man for sake of security! One tried that with me and lost his foundation. Wrong woman I am for that type of relationship! I am a companion and passion based, that's how God created me! There has been a violation in all aspects of relationships, and i must say a man feels more plesure in passion, althose his sence of responsibility and ownership may be threatened by his randiness! I am a one man woman type of girl, I can't throw my strengths all over the world! I harness my energies and not needing to look who is going to stab me in the back, that is what results in the ideology of poligamy, where the head has no management skills!