Online RadioMag GAGA! Sweet nothing's and heavy shit! Aha! Just I asking Jah WHY for a because answer and how simplicity turns complicated!
a "what if this" and a "what if that" to the equation of the HOWs in this world! Isn't it about the What's in reverse? Fun and diversity no restrictions.
Marriage is not a place to seek hapiness but if you both are willing to make eachother happy, then it can be a happy one-----
Are you ready to make someone happy? Thats the question that gets people fearful of getting
married. When you are trying to woo a woman you like, hide your money and show your personality because money comes money goes but the person remains, that way you are sure that the person is with you because they like you. Marriage is not to be feared its to be entered.
Do i like the person? Do i like the personality or do i partake in what makes that personality to be wealthier? Life holds no guaranty does that mean you should commit suicide? So is marriage.
Soul mates don’t exist, someone you get along with and have something’s in common and someone that is complimentary to you (+ & -) is what you can find. I had been married for 10 years and have seen in mine and in most marriages that most people are not happy because they go into it with clouds in their heads. I have been found guilty but did i pay the price for loving blindly < or > YES and so do many and by the time they understand whats going on, they are back single again and even more miserable because they are too proud to say sorry and try make it work.
There are just somethings that many find hard to get over. There is no spoil in the soil, move on or get over. We all realise we make mistakes but not bridging that gap before comfort settles in is the problem. We all grow, we all understand and see where we have made mistakes but the chemistry is over.
Brew it to keep it safe and sound.
Safe and sound is what a healthy relationship is. A sound mind and a safe heart makes a safe heaven for all. Demand clarity or leave in clouds. A soul is always a gipsy, ever searching for Glitter to dance because it is never happy when stagnant. Be liberated in your freedom to explore the varieties of each other and the middle finger to the ignorant world that dosnt know the wealth of INTIMACY.
We call men who are presumed to follow their women woman wrapper because we are jealous of the textile design of happiness.
I don't bother myself much with remembering the verses number this, paragraph that! I think that's just for admin purposes "tracking" if it helps you to use it when needing to make reference then cool but many for the sake of quoting miss the message! One verse can not explain what one means, you have to study it up and down! What came before it and what came after it!
This opinion of mine was solidified when I had to bring a pastor to answer me on what purpose did he put a verse that was totally detached from any meaning! It read beware the world is coming to an end! Hehe I said but my God told me otherwise! Am I to believe a man over the holy spirit? However he may claim he got that from his holly spirit! I know my God dosnt scare me, he tells me he has given me today to live to its fullest, to earn the right to have tomorrow! In my mind I said this man hasn't seen death! I made it a purpose to assassinate his faith in that scripture, just as he was trying to do mine "unknowingly probably" but then having that title of pastor and him further in arrogance not answering my question told me he dosnt even believe in what he had posted or he would have given me his opinion and I would engage him to find knowledge in it! He simply said go and read the bible! I told him no, I want to connect to why he posted that post because I know everyone reads the same thing yet interpret it differently! I wanted him to connect with me but because I questioned his authority he became defensive and totaly forgot about using the word to his defence, which meant he wasn't prepered, he thought the congregation that he was preaching to are illiterate but then we have that black sheep that stands up to say "Hey Mind your language"!
What is a Pastor? He is likened to the image of the messenger. He should refrain from being the dog that barks and bites the sheep to get them in order. The shepard will gather his sheep, the dogs job is to be a force to the wolf, alert the shepard that danger is coming near. You will exhaust yourself trying to bring together the lost sheep, because they only flock when the shepherd is around! Do your job at driving the wolf rather than scattering the sheep with noise!
I could breakdown the meaning of someone being of a Pastoral nature! He layeth the field on which the grass would grow for the sheep to be fat! To Pasturise is to lay heat. Their duty is to edify the soil that the soul grazes on and not put in fear, which also but only sometimes can do some some good!
There are some stubborn heads in our mist who don't listen to things but laying heat to ones soul must be of positive intent ie understanding the variety of effects and having wisdom to know when it is required! There are people who are naturally sensitive and there are those who aren't but the Lord wants us all! Sometimes you need to smack a child to behave but what if the parent lacks knowledge in the method of how to address a behaviour? He will end up levelling everyone as same yet the thorn is still there; spreading the word in a manner that could create a feeling of being violated! A self proclaimed authority is often brought down by his own arrogance and ignorant "presumptuous" mind!
The title Pastor you must earn it, not by preaching but by helping! We are not leaving in the day when people can not read but everyone who has a mind can draw his own understanding regardless of if he can or can not read, he sees a fool infront of him when he speaks not to the soul! Pastors be global to be transformational! We need you but not in a box, the world is round not flat!
The eyes of a man they say is his soul! What you see is what you get! Why are my dear Muslim women covered up, and the christian woman is all naked? While the Asian women balanced? Does covering your beauty serve the Almighty or You?
Have you seen the flourishing beauty beneath that black vail? Are you attracted to nudity? Or is the accentuated curve here and there more sexy? Just as we wear hats to churches so do the women of all nations project their sexuality! Love is your colour, show your color or hide it! Its the mind that needs to be discovered, everything is black and white thats your colour!
I love to collect various traditional women's dresses from all over the world! From the african booboo, to the Chinese Qipao, Arabian Hijab, American pants/jeans, to Indian sari mused by Boliwood movies, Ah that Silk, Wrapped in the coocoon of times, the ageless Butterfly! Or the tudor times, in Corsets. Hmmm I must have been watching too often Gone with the Wind but hey why can't they be brought back to the future? We are wearing out of ideas that most women are now naked! How about the times of women when women pretend to faint and there is a gentleman who is just by the side to catch her? Women have become too strong to their detriment and men are lost to being Heros! Talk about how to get a boner for a flirt. A haha for a hihi! :)
a Dirty dance, a Tango, a Salsa, and MC Hammer once a week! All these I did and now they hunt my memories! You don't need to have eyes to know the Scent of a Woman!, the heartbeat is louder than the gong of big Ben!
[inhales deeply through nose]
Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Women! What can you say? Who made 'em? God must have been a genius. The hair... They say the hair is everything, you know?! Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls...and just wanted to go to sleep forever? Or lips... and when they touched, yours were like... that first swallow of wine... after you just crossed the desert. Bosoms. Hoo-ah! like secret searchlights. Mmm. Legs. Greek columns.... What's between 'em... passport to heaven. I need a drink. Yes, Mr Sims, there's only two syllables in this whole wide world worth hearing: kitty. Hah! Are you listenin' to me, son? I'm givin' ya pearls here.
Why don't kids follow MLK must they look for 2pac?
Both were murdered for 2 different reasons. Both in the society were creating wonders. I dont see either of them bad, 2pac i grew up on his music and marvelled at his art, not to talk of my first boyfriend having an influence because of it and it is the same with every youth. INFLUENCE.
When we as adults assassinate characters at home, in school, in public by creating the world as a bootcamp why will they not explode? Its hard to teach parents how to behave or go knocking the heads of people in public. The university is a controlled environment where everything outside can be blocked. When that in there is messed up, whats left for the kid to do? We have also allowed fraternities to thrive in there.
The school is their only sanctuary where peer to peer they are developing themselves both in mind and matter and the lecturers are just guardians of souls and technical information. I agree that teachers are to be taken care of but why have they lost their value? I was a kid who saw the breakup of the USSR and i saw the immediate change in attitude and again i say attitude in the teachers. They became emotional. I asked myself why will someone with so much knowledge feel so insecure? I have always had a sensitive mind towards change even as a 12 year old. Knowledgeable people are supposed to be transformational. I dropped out of school, my bro also because we couldn't cope with emotions of the adults there and took to the streets, he plaid football, i danced in a group. They were becoming verbally abusive because they lost control within themselves. At some point i had to tell a teacher to F'off, she told me to call my mother, i did, she went on a ramp on me infront of my parent, and then said "do you know that your daughter said i should F'off"? My mother with a smile said i can see why. She had no manners even infront of my mother. I was just bold enough to tell her to stop in a rude manner because there was no other way. There are many kids in school that are being verbally and physically abused by attitudes of adults who are to be guardians. Parents have submitted their kids lives to the notion that a teacher is a god rather than knowing a teacher is a tool to a system. Now do you realise why kids drop out of schools even if the knowledge is wealthy?
If you ask any successful dropout he will tell you its because he lost hope in his lecturer and in effect for the subject. Look at what our teachers are doing in our schools, where they flog a kid to death. Teachers have become stagnant seeking no growth and have relegated to thugs. Life is a better teacher as far as i am concerned. I came to Nigeria from Russia knowing nada about english at 18, you know how i learnt? Listening to lyrics and writing them down with my almost extinct vocabulary, dugout from childhood foundation while in Nigeria.
WHERE ARE MY HELL RASERS............................
Elementary wasn't meant for me, can't regret it
God come save the youth
Ain't nothin else to do but have faith in you
Dear Lord I live the life of a Thug, hope you understand
Forgive me for my mistakes, I gotta play my hand
If my nigga knew the truth he'd hit the roof
Dear Lord can ya hear me, it's just me
A young nigga tryin to make it on these rough streets
I'm on my knees beggin please come and SAVE ME
THE WHOLE WORLD done made a nigga crazy!
Dear Lord if ya hear me, tell me why
2pac! R.I.P
Everyone listens to the sound of music and take what they want to take from it
I saw a cry of a youth like me of my time. I told myself.
Sometimes you need to dropout to get back in,
If only the society will let you in
They reject you but you go back in
Only refined within
Even if the scars are still achin' Me at 18.
I made a decision and i am back in,
More refined and not aching.
And MLK, Mandela my best pals,
Although 2pac still within. Me now.
You will know that you are in love when you are able to feel towards someone saying "How wonderful life is now that you in the world" and not want to possess it.
Are we misunderstanding what it takes to Love and be loved? Are we actually looking for Spectacular Spectacular " Moulin Rouge"?
We are thieves expecting things to come free. Love is not free, it is earned through the maintenance of it. Everyone often is being told you will never find love and this is true but with a little tweak you may find it but to keep it is labour. Love is inspiration hence in pain or joy you find its muse.
We find love a midst obstacles, not when we are free and independent. When there is some circumstance that prevents you to be with that person. When its unreachable, when forbidden it is found.
We don't know how to cherish when something is available. As people we look at something and say it is mine and when given we throw it away because it is easy. Gratitude for being given the opportunity to feel, we exchange for filling our bellies and then wonder the world like starved beast, looking for a pray to soak the pain of loss.
Love is given everyday but not in the form that your eyes can pay.
Love is simple, its gratitude that someone has come your way.
When you feel unworthy of the price you have to pay, she will appear in the day.
If you want to know the truth about what your marriage will look like date the person. This is why today you see that marriages where people dont know each other it grows cobwebs because there is a spider.
Why should anyone approach anyone at first with any intention? Cant man see woman without her being undressed? Cant a woman be secure in herself enough to be blind to viewing him as a wallet? Relationship starts with communication, friendship leads to dating, from dating to marriage. Too many mouths in 2 peoples lives is what creates the hell, confusion. They no longer know each other because they are listening to voices of the world rather than the language between them.
When you are in a relationship that is abusive tell the world, expose the dark to the light. There isnt anything shameful in being in a situation, there is nothing like a shameful situation if your heart was clean and you didnt know. It is impossible to see evil behind a smile. We are all bad judges of character.
You wouldn't help yourself by going to the parents of the abuser because they will shun you in their shame. Those close to you will often react in a guilty manner by making you feel guilty about your mistake to keep you quiet because they know their guilt. To kill the dark expose it to the light. Men who abuse their women do it till she talks and there are women who abuse their husbands with deceit.
Know who you with, before you say I Love you or even better Love yourself before you say i am yours.
A friend of mine p.s. who i do love but still think he is a chauvinist, said, "that is the illusion movies sell to people and they believe the illusion". In an average foreign film "kissing" is everything, in real life it is the main thing (sex). You see a couple in bed, the man still has his under wear on, in real life the couple is naked. In real life, the rich, royalty and people of culture, all practice arranged marriages because it works, films teach the lower classes a concept called love, I must love the person before i marry him...hmm.. science will show you the feeling of love (biologically) lasts max 3 years. Marriage should be founded on a sense of duty, a partnership, to bring up children in a safe, and secure environment. If you believe in a creator be in GOD be in evolution, then you must realise Man was made to lust after woman and woman was made to demand security (of which money is a big part). Thats why the species is so successful ( we are a randy bunch) we focus on pro-creation by design.
Well my reply,
If not for our illusions we wouldn't be where we are now, its what they call ideology, so one finds his or her own identity! Compartmentalising hearts or souls doesn't work for all! All fingers are not equal! Even the Amish are all under scrutiny. "George any body choose your wife for you? :), we all have our own, we are all simmers! I am not the type for arangee it isn't even debatable! I feel insecure where I have to sleep with a man for sake of security! One tried that with me and lost his foundation. Wrong woman I am for that type of relationship! I am a companion and passion based, that's how God created me! There has been a violation in all aspects of relationships, and i must say a man feels more plesure in passion, althose his sence of responsibility and ownership may be threatened by his randiness! I am a one man woman type of girl, I can't throw my strengths all over the world! I harness my energies and not needing to look who is going to stab me in the back, that is what results in the ideology of poligamy, where the head has no management skills!
We have all been forced into the notion of what we are responsible for! A mother or a father is given the task to look and bring up their child so with this mantra we draw our swords! We think that we have brought up a perfect child who can't harm anyone; in short the Sun shines from his or her ass. Because in comparison to other kids we see ours is better by far! Now that's a very subjective reasoning because we all have different values. We all like different things, and cherish different things in difference to literary everything!
There is however a point missed!
Your child dosnt belong to you, he belongs to life and everything that can define the word Life! If parents brought up their kids socially not sociably only, as we all try to do, we will see that the person that comes to you "spouse, friend" as family and be able to solve a or the problem! This is what the African culture was all about! We Are One! Until something cracked.
We are not as smart as the bushman in the film "THE GODS MUST BE CRASY" where after touring the world with its colourful cultures, he still returned back home same as he was! He wanted to throw the bottle back to the world that brought so much dispute in his world. Yeah as Africans we have paid a huge price for accepting the mirror!
Is GOD crazy?
The dispute resolution aspect in the white world has been taken over by the "law" and we have relinquished our parental rights to it when we marry off our kids, but culturally there is the social aspect where a given child violates another's rights, who is he or she to run to? The law? Yes rightfully so that's Divorce, but the law dosnt deal with petty types of issues! If you go to the parent, the parent acts in a guilty manner and fails to address the issue because he or she is now under question as to what moral upbringing did they raise their child with! In order to protect themselves they attack the other and this escalates the need to remove oneself from the pain!
Seek God? We have our doubts towards him coming to solve our earthly needs, except of course the person is spiritual enough to understand how to speak to him! But then we have scared every individual of him, with the image we have created and keep being perpetuated. Christ came to bridge the gap, as an example but we are still confused because we can't understand how is it a human can be the son of God!
As much as every parent is responsible for their child, the society is responsible to bring the person to order. When we bring up kids we tell them don't hit, tell the adult you see, if you are lost go to the police, because taking arms could lead to injury, but what about the injury on the injured who is going to solve that? When he or she now goes public to friends or puts a post on the news paper we cry wolf, that she/he is at fault for airing their pain! If you trace down the line you will find out that the person did the right thing but no one heard him or her at the begining.
Now if we all viewed each other as family we will know that we can go to the next person to ask for help, by that we will kill the SHAME factor that makes everyone defensive!
When we tell someone not to air their dirty laundry, what we actually mean is that we have to be mindful of 3 things,
You are in conflict of interest!
You will get the wrong advice, because no one actually knows How to get a problem solved!
There is a party that isn't saying the truth!
We have been made to feel we are all sinners, again this word not clearly defined as the nature of sin is still an enigma ie emotions that lead us to being enslaved to life or a person! I define it as HABBIT! Anything you get used to doing and isn't flexible to change will eventualy at some point create tension!
TENTION is the word that leads to sin! Fear, something that we all are born with, its a Force either creates good, or inflicts harm! Remove the word Sin and fear will go! After all the law is trying to solve this issue but dosnt know how to solve the fear of the unknown! Which leads to another set of mental stress for the unbeliever!
In my dictionary Spirituality means "Deep understanding of the matters of Man and the Universe that surrounds him"! How many actually explore these areas well? We all like to swim in shallow waters!
Bottom line is if you love your neighbour as yourself you wouldn't treat him like you would a stranger be he an alien you havnt seen! A guilty person "ignorant" treats anyone including himself as an alien!
The african culture was murdered when we stoped being ONE! Cane where is Abel?
The world just as we individuals are at fault but he who dosnt help himself can't help no one!
I love this. When you sleep well; you are at peace and in thought, you are actually discussing with him. Your dreams are your light, regardless of the darkness around you. Most crazy inventions "advancement" produced today were seen as solutions in dreams. Dmitri Mendeleev- a Russian chemist and inventor. wikki him.
To many of my write-ups i had woken up and quickly jolt them down. I am not shoked or scared of many things because i follow the pictures in my dreams. Havnt you found yourself sometime at some point being in a new place and saying havnt i been here before? Havnt i seen or met this person before? Let your feet work in the day and your mind when asleep.
To me those who see a prophesy to their lives and implement them are day-walkers. Talk of manifestation of Jesus in your life. Follow him and you will never be lost.
In my dreams i plan, which is why i believe in them. We have so corrupted faith its not even funny. Who do you think protects you and wakes you from your sleep even if the person you are laying next to is a thief? Who do you think tells you to stay away from something even if apparently you haven't seen the danger? How is it that kids remain unharmed in some accidents and everyone dies? I have been saved so many times by a silent whisper to distract me. I type a page in just about 5min i never used to understand why, as i grew older i know how to call him, The HOLY SPIRIT. Cleanse yourselves, get rid of your pains and doubts to give him a chance at inspiring you with his presence, so you can stop screaming why hath thou forsaken me.
There is something they call SWOT, it is an analysis based tool, just as in business so it is with socials and politics "i.e. ECONOMY OF STRENGTHS'
I learnt this lesson through the experience my mother went through when she came to Nigeria with us after finishing university in 1981." She left a very strong country to find herself in a seemingly stable but weak environment. No water, roads, health care etc everything basic that she had been used to from birth. She had a cultural and economic shock.
This is something every person both man and woman go through when they grow up in a different system. She had to survive and live with what she had for she loved her husband and kids but she wasnt prepared for it. Those who marry women from outside be it in the same environment please hold the responsibility of managing the emotions that it would evoke in a woman that has never seen poverty and it isnt in her build to comprehend where to even start from. Women who are foreign ie "never experienced a different environment before" be ware that where you are the other world isnt the same.
As a mixed kid i have lived too many lives, ie experienced too many cultural and economic extremes that now difficulties dont scare me, hence i consider myself and same mixed kids as me the Obamas of the world, same it is with same cultural kids who are thrown in on situations or cultures they have not known before. OBAMAS are stronger than anyone, we have developed strengths, a mix of which is uncomprehendable to any local cultures. We can be just as good and bad. We have both and we also posses the ability to control or release it. We are the Israelites. If you have survived a situation of extreme influence you are an Israelite, regardless of if you pure or mixed ethnic. A culture means strength and posses weaknesses as well. Good and bad are strengths and weaknesses, they determine your treats and opportunities, not every good is right and not every bad is wrong. Your ability to differentiate is what translates the dicipline of thought into deeds.
There was a situation my mother went through every day in OHORO where they used to stay at the time. My dad was going through mandatory NYSC, they didnt have much and me dad was sent through scholarship to go study medicine. He was a son of a farmer so not much support financially could come from there but they needed to make it work. She didnt know english so she couldn't work as a doctor, she was home with 2 kids, reading fairy tales and keeping us busy with activities of the then Russian society club.
Now every 12midnight she would fetch the buckets full; in the morning she would bath us with that water, the water gathered in a big basin she would use to wash the clothes, then she would use that water and mop the floor and after use to flush the toilet. One would ask why wouldn't she just hire a nanny to do everything? Well white women especially the Russian women are hard on themselves, plus when you give a resource to a stranger they are likely to squander it because they often dont have the same mindset "DISCIPLINE/VALUE" and we Nigerians know what that means.
Economy of strengths is in waste management and change is in recycling. Complaining of not having everything to make a dish is where the risk is. You risk not getting anything done when you wait for options.
My family had humble beginnings just as most in Nigeria, nothing special and no glory can be taken away by those who presume that we were silver spoon bread because there is oyinbo blood in the mist. We just harnessed our strengths against the environment to reduce the threats and that increased our opportunities. If you don't know who you are and dream of where you want to be, that little will be taken from you and given to the other. Your lessons are your gifts. Get cracking, oyinbo no mean anything for colour na im mind.
So many measures have been invented to keep man safe, yet the hearts are un-pacified!
Will putting a chip or sign on everyone's head not create robots? We have to mind what we ask of the government because we will lose the colour of our lives! If we hold everyone we approach with care would we need prisons to protect them from our bad judgment?
How you talk and approach people is what creates criminals of us all! Does it matter who was put behind bars?
All have sinned before the eyes of the Lord, both the provokers and the provoked and those who think they can control nature!
The biggest cut belongs to him who serves! I was just cleaning my house, set the kids off for the weekend, they shure like to make a mess, my boy scatareth his toys, my gal dips her hand in jam and rubs it on the tv. Should i scream because i want order and give myself hell in trying to make them clean the mess? Neither are good tactics because i know as much as i am paying the rent, it is because of them i have a home. Home is different from house. I have resigned long ago to not buy the best furniture, or put dangerous trinkets to decorate the house because first is safety for them and comfort for me.
The home is for my kids not for me alone because i am in the office most times. My elder girls have grown tired of keeping the house tidy, i have educated them not to scream at the babies because if they want babies to listen to them they have to respect the fact that they are babies. The order in my house is that no one messes with my bedroom, thats my sanctuary. I keep the place empty, my bed and me no tv, only my laptop and me belong there. I put the grumpy guy on the couch :) well i know i need my peace to keep everyone happy, he isnt happy because he doesn't know how to behave. To be the Virtuous woman there are sometimes hard decisions you need to take. Who disturbs you from your duties you compartmentalise them.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
If men dont realise that The biggest cut belongs to him who serves, rather than moping around the house looking for undeserved attention they should be giving and bringing home the food to be prepared. You lay demands on women??? then follow the rules too. You lay your bed works both ways, however we have selfish people so what do you do? Their place is on the couch. If he behaves there will be a sexy woman waiting for him every night. Grumpy is who is afraid to go out there and face the hunt. No woman should be responsible for bringing up another woman's child who is supposed to be an adult. Careful mothers your baby boy may only be a furniture for sex and then serially dumped.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
A woman has talents and they are not limited to cleaning, the times dictate how expansive the scope of skills required to be a helper to him and the family, both immediate and extended, which includes friends, society and God.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
as Christ said man shall not live by bread alone but by the word that cometh from the mouth of God. I would like to believe that man here means human beings, and since woman is human, she also possesses the gift of wisdom which is often gotten from having to organise the home. She wakes up to give words of glory and lift the spirits of her household and friends alike.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
I would presume it means she has a right to have her own property. Not for the sake of making the man feel small because lets imagine she dosnt know how to acquire strengths, when he dies will she be able to manage what he lives behind? Besides men have a tendency to manipulate people with comfort. I have seen parents who have killed their kids will by threatening to withdraw the comforts they have made their kids addicted to. CONTROL is a bad thing, it makes people weak and weakness is the root of all evil, comfort "money" breeds greed....... i am sure you can continue the thread of what habit is.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She helps everyone, and anyone who comes to ask her for help to the reasonable extent of what help is. She gives words and food, because not everyone who comes needs to feed their belly, but their hearts as well. What keeps people alive isnt feeds but food or then vice versa.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
In a society where women dont have jobs they should create jobs for themselves or they will find their comfort in the brothel. Waiting for government? Well they cant do for one what they cant do for all.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
a good woman every other man is in envy, there will always be those who want what they see that has been taken for granted. No good woman is ever left alone.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
For a woman to do this she cant possibly be tender and soft handed, all dolled up all the time. This is why strong women are single but not without family around her. The men dont understand what God has put together let no man put asunder. Do i need more to say?
I have strived to live up to the virtuous woman but was misunderstood to be an ambitious woman by those who know nothing of the word of God and have no understanding of life.
To those men who think they can run the state, try first being a woman. When you can run your home and honour the women of your home then you will have my vote. I am not a politician, nor do i aspire to it, but if i am called to duty i will serve as a virtuous woman, supporting he or them who want growth. I dont need to be on the mountain top to know that i am a leader of a household called Africa. Let everyone do their own bit at cleaning their home first from the rooms before they reach the parlour. If the kitchen is dirty and the house is clean you are only deceiving yourself. Where you cook, where you sleep is your sanctuary. When everybody is employed we can all have a fiest. For now there is little to hope for in progress if we have no foundation called family & self respect, where everyone is present and safe.
Children are not kids! They are little adults. Just because their communication channels aren't developed doesn't mean they know nothing. Their senses are much more sharper than that of the adult whose vision is blurred by emotions! The manner with which you bring them up is the adults you will have.
In a harsh way, they will become harsh, in a fussy way they will be fussy. Kind for kind! Life however in the process undoes the mistakes of the parents bringing the child up! If the parents are of extreme character, another set of extremism meets the child! Life is neither kind nor cruel! It is created to develop balance within you before you reach the father and create another hell there!
Your kids will still be the adults they become "designed by God to be". Let go of possessive attitudes, you may just start enjoying being a parent.
They say Opposites attract, it also means similarity detract!
The strengths and weaknesses of a given environment attracts opportunities for the other, and putting forward negativity attracts even more negativity, so are the overly sensitised environments create opportunities for darkness to abide. Sweeping stuff under the carpet creates a mountain everyone
stumbles up on. Titanic sunk because it was arrogant to presume the ocean had no icebergs. Lack of information doesn't often restrict knowledge. Hiding from the truth creates darkness. If someone confronts you with the truth accept it to diffuse anger because maybe someone is trying to tell you you will fall. So regardless of how scary a situation is, dont run from looking "communicating to solve it"
Nigeria is Nigeria our home, we cant hide from it because anywhere we go we are confronted with the fact that things are wrong. Being Nigerian everywhere is hard, not to talk of our African American brothers using slavery as a crutch and now it has turned its definition to RACIZM as an excuse not to get their asses off and give the oyinbo a run for their talent. Yesterday i was on a post that criticised the rappers for deformation of eldership and leadership by coming out looking all nasty and branded with chains just as supposedly the slaves had been. Well you can carry that cross on your heart till the grave you black American brothers but those in Africa are free born and will remain free but with the occurrence of the Aluu event it is quite evident that the AfroAmericans cant find a home to run to because we are even worse and they will take the crumbs coming from the whites as a solace.
My energy in writing and having a little impact on Nigeria through fb was fuelled by our senseless jungle justice practices just as much in the rest of Africa.
Our practices of Voodoo. Babalawo go sitdon for corner tell you make you bring goat then im wife for the other street go sell you the goat as pepper soup as gratitude for visiting their village and the person thinks they have acquired strength to kill their enemy. Or a guy will kill in sacrifice a kid and then drives his jeep, at some point he realises that the source of his money didnt give him but took the power away and he runs mad on the streets.
I have pondered how is it possible to make money out of peoples bodies? Well we all know that transplants are used to save lives, we can not erase the possibility but it makes more sense that someone will buy a whole body to sell to some who trafic it. When you live in a sosiety where you have no data control, how can you prove anything? My child or me could be kidnaped and sold to save someone who couldn't control his drinking and smoking habit and my family wouldn't know?
The Jehovah witnesses know why they refrain from external medical practices. You would never know who will take advantage over it. I had an uncle, a brilliant and kind man who died of leukaemia, many in edo state know him Mr Ekhator, who produced Cristos Bread. My dad is pained today because he couldn't as a doctor prolong his life or at least give a shot at saving him.
I grew up loved in their home, and forever blessed by that. I hold them dear even if i am not in same line of worship as them, the root of belonging to the christian faith was as a result of being influenced by his family. May they thrive and prosper.
Women are dyeing of breast cancer because they loose precious time going to medicinal healers, we need to educate the masses and save lives. I dont donate my money to single walking people, who may not pass on the help, i give to organisations that come with proper requests and my hard earned cash can be traced to the beneficiaries through the benefactor. Isn't that charity giving what can be traced?
There is a controlled body existing that monitors the source of donors, or we will all turn to canibals and vampires. If you feel at some point you could donate blood or part of your skin or body to save a life put yourself on the list, they will give you a band. Oyinbo has done it well, we have to start doing things proper, there is always a way to save a life without forcefully killing one.
As for those who are wondering what witchcraft is, it is in what one knows as converting the mind or situations to sute ones understanding and gain. If you lie you will be held liable to its results, what they say goes around comes around, your word will not go forth and come back void. The state of our contry is as a result of lies, we deceive each other why do we expect anything good will come out from it?
NGOS need to rise and be supported because they save lives by being available and of service through our kindness, no one asks you to overwhelm the public with donating zillions, one naira gathered from 165, 000,000.00 people is an amount that saves thousands and does sustain in piece a section of the employment needs of a country.
The world is made of different hearts and not everyone is supposed to be a shark to feel successful and make a nation prosper.
At some point you will start feeling guilty about taking a pay for what you didn't earn. Can you truly be the possessor of a gift you didn't harness or support? Many think that by stealing someones idea they are smart. Regardless of what you may have in your hand you cant sustain it if you are not the source.
Many are afraid to share their ideas. The trick is what ever triggered your thoughts is in your experience "inner build" that processes it. No person is alike. How i may view a situation and act upon it, the chemistry "spice" in me is different from others and thats my uniqueness.
Give 10 women the same ingredients to make stew, all 10 will taste different. Why? Its in the process of production. Not forgetting the fact that if the woman is in a bad mood the food will taste differently from when she is happy. The hand that builds the pot is the spice within it. Cookup your own thing, be original, thats what sels as a brand.
Whats your spice? Don't tell the mix but even if you do tell, they will still not get it your way. However you need to expose a flower for the bee to taste its nectar. Who knows they might get addicted and you are in business. Partners, staff, suppliers, investors stay because of the taste, so cook it and enjoy the process.
Flower pollination, hmmmm here biology class comes in handy. Imagine your business is a flower and your customers are bees? How does it look, what aroma does it let out? How complex is the flower? Think of your business aroma as various sounds of music genera. What do your bees like to hear? What do they like to see? What taste would they like to stay with? Negotiate for every taste!
"If it wasn't for Newton, we wouldn't have to eat bruised apples."
This is what I hear of scientists! Bad, bad, bad, even the mum who sat in cold days dreaming of stories to tell her kids when they were hungry; the writer of Harry Potter novels was called a Witch right to my hearing by a pastor! I am not hard on him for he is human, but hard on the words he used to describe a mum who was trying to keep the dreams of her kids alive that magic happens if you be brave and good!
Its the same Brothers Grim fairy tales and our Nigerian wise tortoise tales that I used to read, that kept my young heart believing that I will pull through or mapping my thoughts "crumbs" as Hansel and Gretel did to to find their way back home! I always would imagine I had that magic wand that I would swing in-front of my fears and it will go. As an adult they told me that that is Jesus! For whom the magic wand, for whom Jesu, I think it is the same somehow!
Imagination! Blessed are those who see and believe and more blessed are those who don't see yet believe! 2000years ago people were very basic, feel and touch may have been hard to explain! Most children believe in father Christmas and Easter bunny until reality brings them into adulthood; because they saw the shoe on father Christmas was like that of uncle Joe or caught their mother sneak out of the room like a bunny to meet hubby lol! I have had my fair share of waiting to catch that rabbit that was sneaking in to put my birth day present under my pillow! I never caught the rabbit but the memories keep me being a happy adult!
He failed to see her motive, because of the amount of Glory and money she has now achieved, and fact that her book gave millions of jobs to the art, media, publishing and entertainment industry! Man does not live by bread alone but by the inspiration coming from God! Is it because they couldn't invent the word "Inspiration" that you can't link the dots of evolving truths?
If the white man went through history with all the witch hunting etc, what makes us think now we arnt going through the same? Only shame that it is in this era! The babalawo sure will still find a way to try and make his bread, unless he invents the gun and finds a different way to set people against each other.
There is God and that through my life I can attest to, regardless of all the science! But have you bothered to understand why the hills, trees and stones were made and how in exploring it can help you survive hunger and idleness? That's the job description of a scientist! He Creates! But he isn't the creator! He uses the tools God gave him to keep him busy!
Yes maybe some inventions have turned bad but it wasn't used in the hands of the scientist but the evil envious man who is lazy to go put his own effort and use it to harm others who are his neighbours!
They help us look at ourselves and what we project to the world! Many distrust their reasons because we would like to believe that there is an ulterior motive to why it was discovered! Yet we are addicted to it because we are naturally inquisitive and to what it can do! We carry ipods, yet we as Africans don't go into our garage to invent stuff and bring it to the world!
Anything done with bad intentions never see the day of light! It dies before its given out to the public! There is always a catalyst that is a muse, joy or anger, or pain, but that is an alter ego, not an ulterior motive! A muse of the creator! Everyone needs one! What ever it may be will be, in ones mind you are doing same, checking out the world, checking out that babe or guy! Why are we so afraid to see beyond ourselves, beyond being in the rot of times? The fact that religions speak of heaven most can't see, is who set a muse for man to find it for those who are insecure about the myth surrounding Why.
Explorers on Facebook: You wouldn't meet new people, you wouldn't know that you are not alone in the world, even if you are surrounded by family! Some find dates, some find connections, other do social based business! Some still hide their names for fear that what they say may be used against them, well if you have good intentions why the need to hide yet needing to connect?
Its dangerous to hide for you will still be lost to yourself, because honesty's and truth to others is same to oneself! Its hard to hide even if its scary to open up but it liberates you to be yourself! Everyone profiles you by what you say and so with a faceless picture! You are afraid of a system? Well even the system has ethical rules! You are only perpetuating more distrust and that's towards you.
Every scientist is a scholar that brings facts about the existence of God! By discovering what he has created! We want to see God, yet afraid to make an attempt to de-myth our selves so he can connect?! A scientist wants to know him and the further he goes the more he discovers that he is endless and has endless gifts for us. On the Journey he gets gifts from the creator for trying to find him for the world of unbelievers, the facts that reduces the fear that has put many in bondage of men who found yet don't wish to share the gifts to reassure others that he is truly there!
The more they find the more we marvel at his creation! To all the scientists I hail thee, for you bring me closer in facts to Him! He is in everyone I have met and I will meet! They made me meet YOU! YES YOU however hard it is for man to comprehend. Until he stands in flesh before me i will accept every human as him!
Love your neighbour as yourself! He is just an FB page away! Open up so the world can be real! Regardless of who is the Big Brother!
Your worries/fears create the wall of obstacles that you would eventually be employed to break down. Why give yourself a double job if there is a highway? The little roads within the city often can get you lost without a gps.
I looked at my GPS yesterday and said hmm what a smart equipment. On putting it on, it said "Warning" pretty much what we all try to tell everyone but fail to protect because we scare everyone from making an attempt to life. Warning to some is a dare and to those 5%ers of the world means obstacles, not danger. How ever fear breeds clouds, harness it into intuition.
It had a screen with 2 things "Where To" and " View Map" that shows you where you currently are. Many dont know where they headed, neither do they want to know where they at.
A to B!!!! between these 2, your life's philosophy is what will determine what picture you have of life. Your negative and positive experiences at childhood need to be reanalysed. Half the time we all act to rectify our guilty pleasures, we become pleasers and in this case your talents are used and hardly get paid off.
You go to the "where to" and the list drops to ask you, Address, Go Home, Points of Interest, Recently found, Favourites, Parking, Junctions, Extras, Towns, Trip Planner, Browse the Map, Coordinates. Translate all this and you will get.
Address- you need to address your issues with trust. Who did it, why did it, what it resulted. Seeking self and the world. Your experiences are no different from those around you. What is different is how you chose to deal with it.
Go Home:- History is your best bet, knowing your family roots sure helps, it dont matter if you white black or coloured, there are always secrets passed on as gossip, tie the knots.
Points of Interest:- someone must have given you an idea, the routs to the destination are plenty, you have a shortcut which most times has heavy traffic cos everyone wants to get there faster. Dont know if the impression of standing in one place will give you much satisfaction. The que isnt made for everyone, personally i prefer the longer freer highways, more motivation to enjoy the trip speeding with the wind in your face. Develop your own pleasures no one is there and you are the leader.
Recently found: from A to B you sure will notice a C,D,E, those are people, you follow? You might as well belong somewhere but dont expect to be the leader. Getting to B is your priority, C,D,E will still be there waiting for you. Prioritise.
Favourites:- sometimes having unexplored dreams is good for referencing, you might as well check it out and map it when you need to ease up for some creativity. Dont develop habits they dirail you on your path, time wise.
Parking:- you are allowed to rest but the motel aint Home.
Junctions : - Are cross roads, you need to look left and right, these are the dangerous points where you could meet a truck coming at a high speed. Your ethics i.e. principles towards the society meet here.
Extras:- At some point you would need them, its your back pack, if your journey is long, dont expect that someone will be there frying bole on the road. There is always a need to take abit more than you need, you can share with fellow riders like you.
Towns:- you have to deside at some point where to stop.
Trip Planner:- every body has an opinion and that is just where it stops. Criticism is only an advice in reverse, however what is hard is the attitude that comes with it. You cant take everything personal, learn to laugh, tease and flirt.
Browse:- its allowed but dont get stuck in window shopping. Making choices of friends/partners at some point is necessary, no man is an island. Mind how you treat people nd mind how they treat you. Some have to be let of the next junction and some go all the way.
Coordinates:- Emotions, Senses
Now why dont we simplify our lives in the same manner. Purpose and the Journey, isnt that really what life is about? Why do we tie our necks with the umbilical cord of emotions?
We all want what we want but are given what we need. Born naked into the warm hands of mother nature or were you nurtured?.
Its about time we undressed that cloth that keeps the beauty inside.
We all suffer the consequences of bad connection!
A clouded mind can't see! Man must open up if he wants to be alive! A woman can never find belonging if she sees no purpose! In this regard man is responsible for his choice!
I havnt met a guy who isn't afraid of a woman but then he knows his intent is what sets his foot wrongly or rightly! We women are vessels, we initially accommodate what is being poured in us! Is the liquid water or wine? Why wouldn't we throw it out when you come with another woman's baggage? We women are not competitive we just intolerant of another's trash! We hold our lives sacred! Evaluate your sisters, mothers and aunties, if they didn't build trust in you, you will trust no woman!
I trust men because I could trust my father, brother, and uncles!
I love my women because I love the women in my family!
I protect and belive in kids and youth cos I was protected and cared for by my family!
When you disintegrate family values, your kids are exposed. Disintegrated social values disintegrate a country. We don't need preachers, we need priests of hearts!
We are looting ourselves, our politicians are only negotiating our value. We are worth what we stand for. We have been worked on historically, probably unintentionally because the slave owners didnt realise the effects of their actions. Our chiefs in the bid to have our kids educated sold our pride. Who are we to blame for not knowing the value of our lands and people? Who are we going to blame for not geting up after a knock out? Are we expecting the world to tell us we are lovely? Thats for kids to develop confidence. For adults? A woop on fools backs. Our politicians are ignorantly whooping us into action and self discovery of mind and matter. We are all human, lets forgive them and ourselves for the ignorance or we will continue maintaining a nation of slaves.
There is nothing like a slave! A man born out of the womb of the earth is free. What you believe in imprisons or liberates you. Consciously we project what subconsciously we have been made to feel rather than consciously using our minds to lift up our bodies. To believe Africa can not be better, is what is stoping us from lifting up. We should first think better and then do even better. The day we start saying we are proud to be black and understanding that black isnt dark we will rise. Shone darkness with light and it will flee.
Feed people with positivity and they will see opportunities. The body functions on principles. Feed the mind, to get the heart beating and the body will rise. Heal Africa thats my message. Heal the family union to heal the social union. We have this job to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this isnt the responsibility of the government alone. They will fall to conscience. The responsibility of being conscious belongs to everyone.
We expect our politicians to be trustworthy, but what are the consequences of the nation using drugs? Arnt you feeling the itch that we have become addicted to self deception? The withdrawal symptoms can be deadly but only the strong will pull out. To revive one needs a shock.
Speaking in tongs- i speak the language of my times.
Find your integrity.
The good are immortal! The bad die the moment they are born! This world is a Just world! What you live behind is what makes you live!
Why do we loose those we love and keep seeing those we don't? If someone young or loved one passes away in physical it was their time! He knows why! Celebrate those who made you happy by keeping them alive in your heart and speak in the memory of them! They are happy where they are because you remember them!
And as per those leaders who go! We don't recognise them while they are alive! We poke holes in them because we can't believe it is possible to be so in the mist of our problems! Joy for a heart is hard to retain because we are caged in the pursuit of happiness! Joy is earned, it can be bitter sweet most times, happiness is a state of mind!
I have pondered on this long time ago, looking at MLK vs Mandela! Or Muhammed Ali vs Malcom X who survived their passion; they didn't remove Pragmatism "understanding the world the way it really is, weighing the good vs bad and what's wrong from right"! Emotions of Power didn't make them lose respect. They gave to Czar what is Czar and to God what is His! They hoped and dealt with facts and none of them were enemies of progress!
It helps no one who is a Leader to forget what leadership is, as they move to their goals and fall for the temptations that come with power! We worship people as a crowd and forget they are still human!
Hold your leaders hearts and put their actions to question, shooting them down only makes you guilty and further more ignorant!
I block my ears to the past, I shut my mouth to the present, I open my eyes to the future. It is obviously easy to state experiences of the past present. Converting mistakes into proactive actions changes ones destiny.
Everyone is born again so long as they block their ears to those who wish to remind them of mistakes made unintentionally and put their foot into your future.
From Rivers to Oceans! Old things are gone, the new has come. Obvious mishaps become buried experiences, taping into it may hurt but its a gold mine! Take a breath longer than the average man, and you will swim out alive.
Gossip: better to be said about you "be careful of that person" than "be afraid of that person"
Brothers keeper: When you are a friend you will take the heat for your brother, so that he gets the chance to reflect! Stand by him and he will grow arrogant and make you take the fall! Better to be hated than fall flat on your face!
Do not wash your dirty laundry in public! You are polluting the earth, even if you are purging your soul!
Best way to say I love you- "My heart is with you, but my soul I keep for myself!"
Next time a guy you don't now says "baby I want to know you!" say "google me!"
When someone calls you to remind you of a bill payment say "when I am done saving the world, I will call you."
Have we ever stopped to think? Why does he hurt?
He hurts when you cry for little things like your life is over,
He hurts when you fight your brother for a piece of a pie while having the whole cake.
He hates it when you show anger at the innocent just because you can't fight goliath.
He bleeds when you are in pain for lack of will to seek knowledge.
He gave you life,
He gave you freedom,
He gave you the will to be free.
Fnd the liberty to live is all he asks of you.
He is a passionate Parent who built the Earth waiting for your birth!
Cant you feel that energy?
Cant you feel that tender voice that says there is another day with so much more available for you?
He wants his children to grow so HE can be your Partner!
Many are asking me
"Alsu don't you read and edit what you write?"
so many grammatical errors, you dont follow the rules of writing in english"
"what about your Image?"
sorry are you dyslexic, we can help with therapies if you need it?
well i can only say.
if i had a voice, i would sing to you! my heart types, my fingers move to its beat.
If i was British i would probably be English :)
and as for following rules, i am one to bend them to suit my russian english!
is it the grammar or is it the message?
i once watched a film called "Finding Forester" where i caught a moment between the Writer and his apprentice. to a question asked he answered let the writers write, so the readers can read! if you are seeking image look at the face, if you seeking soul look at the message. i am happy that you are paying attention, it shows the message was meant for you!
Is it about women or is it about the cradle of life that we are? I have met Ruth & Patience & Lovee & Temi. We are called personalities, that exudes from us. Why did we click? We are the sisterhood of Sexy and the City Africa ":)" such wonderful series. Our hats of to those who made it.
Ruth -Practical endeavours, high-goals.
Patience - Expansiveness, visionary, adventure, the constructive use of freedom.
Temi- A foundation, order, service, opposition to limits, steady growth.
We all answer our names.
How is it that in theses hands Africa isnt safe? We are the pillars of Womens Hearts! Where we rediscover how to dance Azonto ontop of our men. :) YES this statement is pregnant and yes we give birth to unique babies called business and social development.
Perhaps it will be effective to mix cultures, because it is what we have noticed in Eastern Block, Africa, Asia and the Arabia that we women seem to be negatively competitive when we meet people of same nature and experiences but then so it is with Men!
All 5 of us brainstorm and find loopholes with people who are not like us, we have evolved separately as "WOMAN" to embrace challenge and differences in others, so if you are different it doesn't mean we cant roll with you!. We compliment each other as our strengths complement our endeavours. We are looking for complementation not flatteries. We have developed a personality that allows us to blend while standing out and allowing others to shine if only they put their heads out. If you are intimidated by our knowledge our personality will embrace you.
Do we want to be taken out for dinner, given flowers, poems written, held and loved for our hearts and supported in our desires to bring peace even if you get an occasional smack? Yes we do! Just like any other but hey you are not going to find us talking about what is in fashion, or how our kid pooped, or friend misunderstood her/herself. We are "style" based individuals.
The other day i caught myself walking out of my home without my top, because i was so engrossed in reaching out and hugging the world. All 5 of us have been through those moments.
Mixing cultures dont mean just geographically because that isnt a differentiator.
Ruth! I am able to listen to you and say waw what a lady because you are different from me, i can beat around the bush but you hit straight to the heart, you give me focus. Ruth when she looks at you, you feel sexy as a woman. Those smokey eyes? Well guys eat ya heart out she is taken.
Ladies if i wasnt straight i'd turn Gay because of Patience. She is patient. With her i can mess around but she still sees me. Why? Are we learning the Congo dance for nothing? In this group we GAY put us in prison and we will still shine. Patience makes you melt like butter. Between the tenderness and sassiness, me want to be but me love those manly hands on the hips..
Temi if not for your outspokenness i wouldn't have had the courage to go my way so soon, yes i was shy, i hide.
Lovee is so pure, a goof ball with a sharp eye for love. My arabian phenix.
They polished, they refined women of the blocked world. We have hearts of a Buddha, the mind of Muhammed and the body of Christ. You want to know us? Dont seek us through religion but faith, we super spirits. The Only one is our shelter. We embrace waterfalls, we stand showered by the waters of our soil. We are strong and we are loving, even if we are in a mans world.
Marriage is not a place to seek hapiness but if you both are willing to make eachother happy, then it can be a happy one-----
