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"I ...understand how a parent might hit a child- it's because you can look into their eyes and see a
reflection of yourself that you wish you hadn't." — Jodi Picoult
I love who i am, i always change and that allows me love my kids and always notice when the change comes from them. I am not a puppet and therefore dont make them my puppet. I want them to be different from me and thats why i let them to run around free.
With the event of the pain that i had experienced when my boy was born and was told that he may not live had a profound change in me! It probably was a great blessing in disguise that i let go of my dreams for them and rekindled the dreams of mine that people felt would be put on the shelf. Most mothers and fathers are forcing on their kids their lives and when they see their kids rebel against it they feel violated and project it on them. By letting go at the time i stopped being scared if they would live or die, hurt themselves or grow, those emotional strings that cage the kids from being able to live their life isnt within me. They look up to me so i make sure i dont let them down, when they see mummy happy they are happy they also see me at my moments. The invisible umbilical cord must be cut of by the mother to allow their kids breathe by themselves.
My son is so organised and my daughter likes to make a mess, in these things they are happy, when they grow up they will be different, they may even switch sides, they both are to mould each other. Siblings are the real family. Mum, Dad are just channels. To set yourself free and your kids free you have to cut of that accord no matter how hard it is to accept. The concept of cutting off is hard to process because we seem to have been told that that is what we should be. cutting off dont mean you throw them away, it means let them be and grow in their own image. Emotions to the brain is like air to the lungs, get addicted and the withdrawal is bad. Tie them in you and you will never see them fly higher than you. You will be dragging them all your life cos you didnt set them free for fear to be left alone. Women who hold on to their kids for very long are actually not happy with themselves and their marital life.
My Parents today are proud cos they allowed their son and daughter to grow. I am a tear head and so it is with my bro, My dad and mum were same but they allowed us grow.
We may have gone through trials and our own sorrows, but how is one to grow?
Half the time we make their hearts palpitate, but when they see us grow, they feel its all ok. There is no shame where there is gain.
Hope this motivates you to look forward to tomorrow with every second you breath!
Knowledge and ambition are the only 2 things that gave me hope and insight "Openness and Sharing!"
When you know, you can see! When you want, you will go for it! Search and move yourself! Carry no baggage "limitations" that isn't yours! Limitations are inhibitions of others" a child is born and in the first 5 years of his life he is cultured into a box and eventually is too scared to break out, for fear of disappointing someone! If you don't piss off or put a smile on at least one persons face, you are clearly doing something wrong! However don't cause anyone pain! Wear virtual sunglasses and earplugs! Protect your eyes from going into areas that dont look like what you haven't identified in your goal and protect what you allow into your heart. Unfortunately we have a lot of nay Sayers, beat them by asking them why and you will know and let it set you free in your direction!
I had made a decision at youth not to allow the noise of the world pollute my mind and that my pursuit of success totally depended on me! Pollution means accepting something without investigation! I aint a dustbin for others fears or insecurities and same with you! The world I know I created is the world I willed and it responded with same faith! I wanted the world and I found the need for me!
By being open I was protected regardless of the attempts to assassinate my character and i know my goals depend on my character! How you think makes you who you are! I left people to be who they wanted to be and that way I was who I wanted to be! I embraced them and they embraced me! The confrontations i faced Never came from me, My attitude towards life never had boundaries so this way I didn't need to break down walls! I didn't dream up obstacles that weren't there and it didnt waste my time inventing the chisel and hammer! Some people's walls are totally shut down from the rays of the sun to penetrate, perpetual darkness, no warmth!
The obstacles I faced had to do with character recognition "everyone must stand their ground in not morally being persuaded to adopt morals that wernt universal, "dont will on your neighbour what you don't want for your self." For me life is very predictable, so I worked with it, never fought events "went with the flow." i go as far as not correcting my grammatical errors cos that isnt my problem, and if you make it yours than sorry that is your problem. we pick on perfection and tarnish it with an attitude, forgetting that i am in my domain, i wasn't born for you. if something is giving you pressure, dump it.
A lot of people never understood why to a lot of things I said No or Yes to!
If I wanted a friend, I first became a friend, i liked the person for myself! if I wanted love, I gave love, i loved the person for myself! I was never selfish with anything "if i know that my mind body and soul weren't mine but borrowed, i gave out, giving for me is a reward, my bills get paid without me even worrying. yes thats the magic of giving it sorts things out and prevents issues from arising. Troubled people always invite trouble. it really don't matter if i got back from same source its like a bus. " abuse my giving by showing attitude "limitations" and i pull away and that made me never loose anything!
I was what I wanted to be and if I didn't want to I never put myself in the situation where I had to say no! i have a very strong gut feeling and followed its call no matter how ridiculous it may seem at the time, but my instinct guides me on how to manage in or out of time and zones. You come towards life with an attitude it will reciprocate with same attitude! Life gives you tits or tats. If I wanted to meet someone, I just had to be where I could meet someone, never had any criteria measures and things happened! I don't choose people based on colour, shape, size, or age! This allowed me more options! The people that had it most difficult with me are people who identified me by my physical attributes! If what you only want to know about me is my body or colour i considered that an attitude that limits me and i leave that environment! You dont want to know if i have a brilliant mind and heart etc what i know i can give in addition to every-other thing, then bye bye, cos i cant show what there is no room for.
When you tell yourself I want a black person or even go as bad as specifically saying ethnicity, you are limiting your choice to measures that you yourself will be boxed into! Your own may turn around not to like you for what you like them for! A person is a person! Everyone is turned off by bad attitude! values are important, and you will only know, if you make the contact! If age or colour of the person is already a barrier then you wouldn't even know whats inside! Your luck has been prevented by you yourself! Of what value are your values? If you can eat what you dish then the plate is yours!
Even a simple thing like the things I write about, comes as free as a breeze. If I had limited myself to only politics or religion, at some point I will eventually exhaust the topics and bore everyone, whats worse for me is to bore myself. I choose to write, thats the goal for me, i investigate, analyse and present how my mind sees anything and everything, not fixsated "fear of being criticised" in fact i want it to be criticised and I write about anything that affects me fully Knowing that i am on the same planet with you, so it cant possibly be irrelevant! what affects me affects you. you are as strong as the weakest link! You can't fill up a closed jar! Open you will always be on an overflow! Life is broad not narrow, so why create unnecessary limitations?
When you are a person who is defensive you are prone to create situations that are artificial! You may
be a good person but your subconscious defensive motivation overrides the conscious good that you wish to achieve! Ie.. If you don't trust a woman you will knowingly or unknowingly set up an environment "test" In The bid to seek the truth, but that turns everything into a lie!
Artificial never lasts long, it creates a spiral of events that erodes everything! If by some struck of luck you meet someone who is open and free "natural" their nature can't play to the tune of the artificial events going on! The body can't accept what isn't a part of them! This is what happens in the world of transplant! It could be a perfect DNA match but if he who is accepting is scared, the body will reject it.
Honest people can't be with dishonest people, the value compositions of the substances will react to each other! There is no matter the amount of pro-activeness employed, all will prove fruitless! Someone will get tired of the constant struggle to achieve or subdue!
In our today's governments its evident that the only reason they are getting away with what they do is that the soul from which it comes from is a fertile ground! I believe that over the years a systematic strategy was employed to erode the society! First degrade the education system, pollute the media with negativity and then start infiltrating the minds of the youth through deeds such as injecting a value system that they have no choice but to adopt! Create no jobs for the parents to sustain their lives and kids and they will be forced to accept having their kids bring in money that ordinarily the parents never saw! Then create a stigmatisation of these same acts and vuala you have what we see today! Everyone is fighting each other.
A thorn has been put amidst the people! Why in the world would a senator think he has the right to speak in the manner he does? He knows his people will take it as a sign of authority! Bullying! If someone speaks to you in an underhanded manner you put them back into their place, immediately! There is no dignity among the people, they have been made to think and feel worthless so they wouldn't fight back! They will moan and grumble but would do nothing! Africa when will you rise?
Dont fight religion, fight those who choose to covet it. I am just as ignorant as many but with every step i seek the true meaning through evaluating my and others experiences. Extremists
are not bad they just ignorant to the other side of the truth. At some point you will be a hero and on the other you will be the bad guy. The boundaries will define who is who, just dont be rigid to accept another view point.
Fight for the Muslim Girls just as you would for the Christian, they are kids and people. Take away the strength of a woman and you men will be weak. Take away one religion and yours will be weak cos there will be no objectivity. Don't be passive, if your heart dosnt agree say you dont agree and bring out the objective truth to things.
Fight back lies with the truth. If you dont believe you can then it wouldnt happen. The truth of life is that liberties must be earned but one has the freedom to extricate themselves from what isnt true. Yes in our minds it sometimes gets skewed because we become arrogant to presume that we are all. Power is good but it corrupts the mind that seeks control.
There is only one truth a right to live and bear the consequences of our actions. If you realise that you have been living in someone's set of values that has incapacitated you, denounce yourself from it, even if you will have to eat grass.
Those that dont fight have adopted and adapted and are led as sheep for slaughter. If you dont fight back things will continue to be as they are. An eye for an eye. Islam in some aspect should teach people how to fight back not to attack. If you are afraid to die you will loose your life. I understand radicals to what they may mean, not those who seek to oppress but those who fight for the liberties of others as their own cos the boomerang effect always happens. Real radicals fight for freedom not subjection of minds to mediocre values that on the long run destroy everything good.
Whoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whoever shall lose his life shall preserve it. I am a radical in the sense that If i fight for others kids mine are hopefully automatically safe. As an adult i already have lived a life, i have seen it all possible, my kids are yet to see, so i must fight for their future in safety and prosperity.
Fight a peaceful fight, cold war tactics. Obtain and extricate yourselves from mental slavery and your body will be free. Those who are hungry for power are blind anyway and the true kids will always see looholes to save their lives for another day. Wars were never won by the best generals, they were won by free minded individuals with a good cause.
I wonder "if there were no natural resources, would people fight for people against created gods?"
Kids are cruel when they are idle and adults must ensure that their kid lives an open life. An isolated child is an idle child, he don't know what is out there. In 4 walls he wouldn't learn anything but be sheltered. I so love my father and it isn't even funny. He allowed and did things with me that allowed me to know him and what other men can be. He told me that he cant always protect me but i should always remember that when you get into trouble you have the right to turn away.
When a child doesn't trust "know" his parents they take desperate measures and keep quiet. Go watch the film for yourself and see what led to the demise of the boy and a few other instances of Internet fraud that cause mayhem in peoples lives.
On the stance of marriage you all know how i think of it, it is a contract between 2 people who
consent to supporting each other. If there is no relationship between the 2 there will be no marriage but a battle ground for rights. Reason i am stating this again is in reference to the underage marriage issue. A 9 year old has no consent of her own. She dosnt know what it is except she is told by her family.
Outside of law and religion there is nothing that makes us aware of the institution of marriage to exist. Connection is the only natural thing that there is. Marriage is an artificially created environment by man to identify/define for him and himself what a relationship is and in the eyes of nature to distribute to others who arnt as strong to have some share. Yes women are very discriminative and thats by nature, she wants strong genetics and security so what is left for the weak one's to do? Either go to the gym or develop a brain. We have men that cant seem to remove the constant requests and so it is for some women, the rest are left with left overs sorry to say but that is the bitter truth. Hence marriage and the laws within it tried to do some fair play but it also created chaos. Other women became jelous and other male became conniving. When you mess with nature it comes back to bite you.
I hate vague laws and this is why even in my group WHy is there No, i made sure there were no rules and this way everyone was at peace and i dont need to police it. There is a vibrant connection. Open doors makes everyone careful cos they know as you treat others you treat yourself. I am adamant at opposing the senates decision on young girls marriage from the standpoint of "They will not be there to see to it that there is fair play, They don't have the infrastructure to support the law." They have shown no other development efforts to solve the existing social problems first and now added another.
When others are in your relationship, there is no way you can call it yours. I tried bringing in family and friends and it only rifted the connection. I thought i was doing the right thing because i was told that that is how it should be in Africa. When couples have a problem they go seeking counselling to bring objectivity, (there is no guarantee that the so-round sound is objective) that was my mistake. Everyone around was going through thesame thing and to an extent made me their lab rabbit, to see if another way would work. They remained intact but we fell apart, not realising that i invited others definition of what a marriage should be. If both of us had the same understanding as i had at the time we would probably have found a way. He didnt want his cruel business known and i couldnt take charge in facing him squarely cos i knew i will cause damage through the pain. So i rendered him to the judgement of his parents and they didnt handle it because they had bias. They couldnt accept the shame of his behaviour, protecting themselves from owning up that they didnt bring up a good person and man. I did the right thing but it all went wrong. On the other hand if i did take up my own judgement he would have lived in the hell that i am very capable of creating but i moved away. Learn from my mistake. Every marriage is a mess and especially those who paint it as bliss. White picket fences are a disguise. No one is perfect, the grass is green where one nourishes it and those who are at work always look rough.
We have a lot of situations in our society where traditionally women are forced to drink the water they used in bathing her dead husband and they will put her for days to stay with him. Although we dont have forensics to find out if he was poisoned, in the african culture they would employ such tactics. So is it healthy not to speak up when issues arise or is it better to open up and avoid someone suddenly being a victim? You tell me i didnt do the right thing.
Accepting the past is the problem in getting to the future! Nothing changes in History, so leave it
there! You only repeat it when you bring it in; trying to undo today what has long gone. Even if certain things appear to be the same the people or circumstances you will be dealing with are different. Every body is unique and with them come new things. Project on them your fears and you will have same results that happened in the past, but for the other, their future will be their future because they haven't been there before, while you repeated your past because you projected it again repeatedly.
About a week ago i met a chap, he is mixed like i am, he is 25 years of age. I saw my past in him, and he saw himself in my feature. He told me about his life and i told him about mine. He told me about his feature aspirations and i told him what i did to get there. He left happy and in faith because he saw that i was strong and successful. Meeting him made me come at peace with my youthful hic-cups and him meeting me cleared his doubts about his feature. Although i am a gal and he a boy, we took the same leap of faith, only i did it earlier and he could see the facts of my life that gave him the reassurance that it would be ok. This is the reason i tell my story to the young and old so that they can let go of the doubts they have of themselves and their future. Some get threatened by it and some get happy, its the heart that matters. If you are doubtful of yourself, you will take good news as a thorn. If you are self assured it will give you a boost. Sail on my dear friend you will be ok, just as i am! Should my Ega admit, he saved me more than i probably did him. He was strong and bold and that reminded me of how i was.
Its very easy to say "i wish i could have a time machine and change an aspect of my life because of today's events." I tell you this, as much as you may feel that you "coulda, shoulda, woulda" you will still be in a state of wonda! Pain isn't an indicator of a mistake. It is an indicator that you were proactive at some point. Nothing happens for nothing and no one is static, its either you are pushed or you push. Passive or reactive is a motion. If you push the reward is yours, you can claim every dime of it. If you don't then that's where the self blame game starts.
Decision and Indecision is an action. I see that the takes that i made brought me to where i am and if where i am is a good place, regardless of the pain, it is still good. My pain is as a result that i cant share the joy with those that i lost along the way because a thought clicks, "are those who i lost in a happy place themselves, after i left them?" I felt guilt that i had to push for my own happiness! I got stuck in worrying for others and if they were angry that i took a piece for my self finally but then one day i asked myself "arnt they adults just like me to sort out their issues of happiness?" I realised it was distracting me from handling the NOW and giving myself more pain! Only life can tell on the long run if coulda, woulda, shoulda turned into "Yes it worked because I did, keep doing and Will continue to go in the same path as before because it worked regardless of the perceived collateral damage.
We like to judge our decisions prematurely, trying to foretell hoping that maybe today we can undo certain things. Touching what has been done can actually turn things worse. If that time machine could take you to the future you would actually see that the choice you made was actually perfect. You just need to calm down and let it go so it can complete its mission. Your clean mind tells you, you did your best and leave the rest to him who knows better than you. We tend to blame ourselves for the emotional decisions, well if you were meant to be rational at the time you would have. Trust me we are not at all in control of our lives, we didn't create ourselves we procreated.
Being in the prison of doubt, puts others in the same shoe. Doubt separates best friends, everyone wants to be sure you know so they are not mislead or best you are not misleading yourself by holding on to the past and trying to search for a hope to a future you are not prepared for. "What if" is a bad place to be when actions have already been taken. Do a "what if" before you set your foot not after.
"I ...understand how a parent might hit a child- it's because you can look into their eyes and see a 
