My body is nothing if i left no name!

Lands are not inherited by the dead, but should you live a life of care for your family, no one will treat you like garbage!

Someone said: Do we wonder why they always come back to penury after selling off their parents final resting place? A child that waits to sell off his parents property in other to flesh up is nothing but a huge disgrace.

I am yet to see any family whose parents treated their kids like commodity to give back not with same penny! I have no qualms with people choosing where they want to be buried or how but there is this simple truth "When fathers are Fathers, son will be Sons! Do the sons bear the sins of the fathers or not? Yes if they dont depart from it! Change must and should be, however lack of creativity and transformational views or grounds prevent change, they will hold the grounds that supports him or her. They say in every war someone has a hand in it. One has to be smart in navigating a field to achieve results without destroying the old architecture! 

They say do not throw away the baby with the basket! True, but if the baby wishes not to live the nest, nature has built it such that the parent must make their child fly. We often don't watch mother nature, we don't study her. There are certain traditions that must be removed from our culture that has lead to our doom.

How we treat the Living and the dead and how the process is managed.

How we treat kids and how respect is defined towards the elders.

It is a sin "danger" not to pass on knowledge that would allow your kids to grow, thats what true inheritance is. If i should say, i have seen many African parents hide their knowledge from their kids just so they dont become better than them would be an understatement. Yes it is hard to comprehend that a parent wouldn't want the success of their child but looking at the state of Africa one can't say our ancestors did want progress. If you look around you will see clear evidence of it. Our lands are grave yards. Yes let the kids show the anger by selling the lands they buried their parents in. Can you imagine living next to a grave? Waking up every mooring and sleeping off on it? That is what i call witch craft on behalf of ancestors. Our ancestors have cursed their own land and kids.

My body shall never touch the ground, i belong to the wind. I have left a will that my kids burn my body and spread it to the wind. Should anyone question my will and persecute my kids for my choice, will inherit my pain. I will not bound my kids to a property, it means nothing if i will rot in the soil anyway. We all understand spirituality and we should respect the will of every parent, and parents should respect their kids in return by not hanging them with the umbilical cord before they even started to breath.

The practical reason for burying our elders in their own compound is because they dont want to be abandoned and forgotten, probably very aware that they sowed the seed. What if your parent did nothing to put you on your feet? What have parents left their kids to do?

My father who is a Benin man never brought me up to look at what he has, he gave me wings and thought me how to fly from the nest. Today he is a man who lives in peace and his kids prosper. May God bless him to live a hundred years. I actually dont know what i would do if he passes away. I would love to keep him near me, so i could talk to him like i did when he was alive. Good traditions come from values that build you strong but what is there to do for those who never looked after their kids? I say burn it to hell, if while the parents were alive they didnt take care of you and this is what happens to those houses where you see siblings squabbling for property of their parents, just to sell it off.

If i have no respect for a person i wouldnt even say hello, thats me, who doesnt treat me well, i will not harm, but i wouldnt remember them, regardless of if you are an ancestor or not. Yes this is why kids abandon the memory of their ancestors. It has been recorded in the bible. Matthew 12:47 - Who is my brethren?

I have been a witness to a family where they made their first born serve all and none of the members of the family or siblings grew to be anything. My dad always said "a family that thinks of only what to put in their mouth never leave the dining table." Breading lazy bums, who in return turn to vultures hovering your yet to be cold body. How is it that Africa isnt seeing what it has done to itself? MY BODY IS NOTHING IF I LEFT NO NAME!!!

For me, no child should wait for inheritance, if you find a young man or woman do so they should be shamed. What if we had such disasters such as hurricanes and earthquakes would anyone have any hope to inherit? We africans have been blessed to live on a continent that has no disasters. BUT WE HAVE BECOME OUR OWN DISASTER!!!

One should be ashamed of even talking about inheritance they didn't earn, let it go to the wind. What a shame to see how brothers and sisters trample your name because they want a share of what they never worked for. A set of values should be established and it goes with this tune "if your father and you never built a name together you are lost to the land" boys will be fighting their fathers and fathers their boys and hope to grow? Never.

We have another culture in Africa where the young are kept to silence, not because they dont know but because they see what the elders try to hide. We have eroded our own land, yet we blame the white man. They hold their kids strong because they know that they are their future, at least a majority of them, which is why they are fighting for every liberty possible. BUT liberties have boundaries, same YES today becomes a down fall for tomorrow, one should be wise about what and when. If the youth today are not held up, your old age will be hell. I invest in my future "Kids and society" and my today "Myself and Society" are my reason to succeed but not sit and be a vulture on young heads.

Parenting skills are gone, i wonder, did we even have it?

We say the oldest child is the head, yet we dont build him up, we just give them the title. Has her Royal Majesty given the throne to her son? If he doesn't care about his ways he wouldnt get it, his child will get it. Not all kids inherit the blessings or the sins of their ancestors. What protects them are principles of sustenance.  Don't Judge a book by its cover. The son is not the father, not all apples fall from the tree. My kids may or would not have my strength because they are not me even if they grew up under me, every Prince must earn his right to leadership. story of (Pharaoh and Moses)

Yes the oldest child is all that, and must inherit the throne, but only when he is brought up to be responsible for his actions and manage the affairs of the young. The youngest are usually cheeky and get cheekier the younger they are, it is normal and may be. The oldest child is brought up to represent the family but seldom does he possess the skills of implementation because he was brought up to present face "BE NICE" while the youngest is told "BE KIND" instead of in reverse order except he cuts off the umbilical cord by instinct telling him he isnt strong enough to take leadership. For a child to achieve esteem isn't hard because his ego is often massaged, should he employ himself to achieve self actualisation then he would have greater strength.

The oldest is often berated in the process of upbringing, parenting skills suck. We make all mistakes on our first child and often easy on the second. The second child is smarter but only because he had learnt on where the oldest made mistakes and knows that he will get away with a slap on the wrist, what happens is the second now grows arrogant. The third child is always the perfect one because he is given the care, time, space and also learnt on his 2 brothers mistakes. I wonder if there was a sibling between Moses and Pharaoh? With what i think, if one is to lead, the young child may not be all that brave, hence the position is always given to the first because he shows that facade of bravery and his heart has been hardened by the poor rearing. We undermine the wisdom of nature and hence we do not see where our mistakes were made. The ancestors never passed on knowledge. All kids should be brought up as equals, and this is established when the parents don't see themselves as gods.

Look at the story of Joseph, he was envied by his brothers and sold just so that they dont feel inadequate. Our elders shut down the young because they get embarrassed. The meek inherit the earth; a great leader dosnt surround himself with people who are not smarter than him. A leader knows he is just as strong as the weakest link. I am the eldest in my family, i listen to my younger one’s; gathering their critique and forming a plan because they know better where the shoe hurts them. I was placed by birth to look after  them. We shouldn't be quick to rule out the older one, but as the young, understand where their weak points are, support to build, you can decide after where you want to take over, because you cant do it all alone. The pyramids are still standing where the towers fell. A general that announces war before he attacks gets shot, before he even gets to battle. The eldest may be abiding time to teach the brat a lesson. There are certain things you cant rush. Attitude blinds people, and ruins great plans.

Traditions favoured the times and are still favouring some. I know i wouldnt burry my father the way the benin people would to the literal or lateral context. In short do you think with my hot head they will get what they want? Just as the west is now fighting the strong hold of religion so would be with our traditions but we should be wise about which to and which not to. If i should exaggerate 99.9 percent of our populace is illiterate, uneducated about having principles and development process. A system has been put in place but it is only a ticking bomb, i am confident that it would change because sincerely when i was 22 and thinking just as i am now, everyone laughed at me. Now there is a new generation that is more exposed and change will happen if like minds rub and not arrogant. My dad will still burry his mum in her Husbands house, i wouldn't fight it for the sake of the generation of my grand mother, if there is a proposed plan of communication with time we will transform beliefs. In my dads case i know i will have to talk to him because i know he also has mentally dragged friends idiosyncrasies and trust me i let them know thats how i think of them. There are so many strings attached that certain things cant just up and go but should one hit the right spot, the ripple effects will manage all.

Have you ever played peables on water "Joseph"? Thats how i think CHANGE should be dealt with, watch the impact, create the ripple effect and you will find the transitions.

Good vs Evil!

Just like your eyes can't see in the dark! Neither can your eyes carry the light for too long! Have you ever tried to see? Every thing has its benefits, we are here to find the balance between both worlds! If you shy away from both, you will get no answers to this world!

I see no wrong in knowing who is who and follow the truth that I have found! Everyone has his own path! All knowledge leads to the gates of paradise. Just as much as you may be the victim of your own choice at some point you are also a victor because you have found! When you restrict yourself or give no care, you find yourself knowing nothing of what the world is all about!

To survive in this world you must find the middle ground! Man lives in fear of both the light and the dark. What is the dark if you carry a torch light? Nothing ever remains a mystery but should you fear to use all the sensors nature gave you, you may be vulnerable to history!

A Mothers Scream!

Sometimes when you hear a mother shout at her kid, do not cast blame on her but ask her if she needs help because berating her will make her more angry. A child is young and dosn't know that he is blindly crossing the road. Sometimes the only way to stop disaster, a scream must be heard. A lot of secrets will be revealed in the next hundred years that would bring more enlightenment than grief, and do not shut your eyes Humanity for you to survive.

I sometime ago, 6 months prior questioned a pastor who posted messages "the words of revelation in the coming of the end of the world" he made me angry because i know that when you send out spooki messages without word, you end up scaring the flock that isn't made of understanding. Today i realise why he was doing what he did. He may not have known that he was led by the spirit and he was also wrong in his address to me when i demanded he give me answers to his actions of throwing "words" oblivious of what his actions spoke to me about. Yeah they do train some pastors to be silent in action.

I said to him "what mean your words?" he told me go read your bible and it would tell me that it meant and only for me. I did listen, i saw the script. Maybe what was on his mind was different from what the scripture meant to me. Today i had my own revelation of it, then it was different, tomorrow it will be something else. What the scripture told my spirit then was, our leaders are distant from the earth/people because i saw the truth in many peoples lives today.

I am no pastor, neither am i some one to be worshiped, i may be just a channel, just as the many pilgrims on earth and then a lovely friend came into my life, he sent a whisper: YOU ARE A JEDI FRIEND - he ignited a spark that i thought was dead. I have always been a social child, i love to connect with people, i see myself in everyones eyes. I feel their pain, i share in their joys and then there are times when something speaks to me and i can not stop the words.

Isaiah 55:11 so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.

I think Nostradamus was the same. He may have predicted or calculated the afflictions we had witnessed in the world but then it took some Ideot to try and create a world order. He sought his own acclaim by deceiving others, today his nation is paying the price, and many still hurt.

I wonder who is doing his best in stoping world war 3. Looking at the way we treat the world, i think mother nature is giving us a warning that we have raped the earth enough for her to turn around and give us a hiding of the century. When will we stop? Its time to think.

I am about to watch the "Slum Dog Millionaire" - a low budget film that shows how a boy survived the streets in pursuit of his child hood love and sought for her regardless of his trials. Will we pursue the world with same destiny of love?

My 3 year old!

My 3 year old woke up at 4 this morning. She asked to go to the toilet, for a sip of water and an apple! Then she said "mummy eat it" I wondered if she thought I was thirsty and hungry, while I wanted just to sleep!

:) children pick weird times to show affections! Never the less it is attention! Should one really be demanding when or is it how?

I have noticed that my kids know when mama is down even if she is smiling, they come to put joy in your heart, when you think they do not know!

Aren't we all spiritual beings? We have instincts that lead us to actions the cause of which we do not know! That's what I call bond, that even though you may not see but you can sense some truths, even when not told!

This is how I feel that someone is watching, when you receive gifts from the universe you do not expect! Every experience I appreciate it, it teaches me to see what I did not know! I guess this is how prayers work, its in your heart even if you arnt aware of them. He hears the will of a clean heart!

My Worlds order!

I think it's time I create my Worlds order! If there is something good I learnt in Africa vs from the rest of the world, it is tolerance and patience! I have been labeled with disorders!

Randomness disorder - I have been called mad for being not random enough for someone to shoot darts at me!

Civil disorder- I have been told that I disturb the ignorance of others.

I have been told, I have a fat decease called obis, yet they produce processed food to fuel my dis-ease! While my lover loves my curves with ease!

Anxiety disorder- I don't respond to noise, I shut down from negativity and pressure. I don't respond to others bullshit very well, yet I am Autistic!

Conversion disorder - They give me vaccines that don't suit my genes and then say it is my sins!

Mental disorder, - I don't see the world the way it sees itself, when its down, i raise it up and yet I am dyslexic. Someone who invented his own language, yet dosnt speak my tong corrects me rather than understand me!

Obsessive– they pollute my food with toxins, then tell me I am dirty because I want to stay clean!

I thought uniqueness was my call, now i am told i have a Personality disorder, an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the other, who has dictated it without knocking on my door.

Order and disorder (physics).
Lawlessness, a lack of laws or law enforcement. They violate my mind and space yet call me a murder of faith.

I read upside down, i am a maverick of talents, simple physics of my mind, what no one has tried to see if they can do, yet calls me I am hyperplexic!

I am bored with what they say or do, yet I am ADHD. Why don't you entertain me, to focus on what you do or you?

Some one who comes to me with Judge Wiki he didn't experience himself, to tell me he or she knows me and what my problems are. I treat the world with kindness and understanding, yet I am boxed because I ain't of this world of madness!

When the perfect have made everyone not perfect, then what is left for those with real disability to do? Who is to tell who, who is mad and broken the worlds order?

Be careful except you can manage your own disorder there is no way to put the world to order! Who told us to do this to each other? I wonder why am I in this world and then a kid holds his own gun to let loose on this world!

Peace is sanity, do not be a hypochondriac, this is really a dis order! Do not accept what the world shoves at you!

:) When I am pissed, I am mean! Sodom and Gomorrah!

WHAT COULD TOMORROW BE?

Why don't our African artists create cartoons that are of same as this? i ask why don't we create comics for our kids that show we are strong and smart, rather than emaciated? Our artists either don't know nor care to see that a heart is edified through reading and picturing. We complain that we are underdeveloped and persecuted, yet we do nothing to create the picture and then put in action that image. Spider Stories: An African Animation.
I asked a question the other day why is it difficult for people to answer this 2 questions

WHAT COULD TOMORROW BE?
WHAT IS MISSING TODAY TO MAKE TOMORROW COME TRUE?

Do they believe these are mere fantasies? i initially made a mistake to spell mere as mare. One is being nothing and the others definition is hordes, they say faith without action is dead.

I got an answer by a friend Amy Kelly: It's hard for some people to answer the first question because they do not have the ability to see into the future, maybe they imagine all that could go wrong and instead of thinking up alternate plans they become immobile and doubt that tomorrow could be what they want it to be. The second question... the dream itself, the belief it can be done, a plan to put it in place, following through on the plan, the actual actions.

If all they are doing is stopping at the dream phase then it is just a fantasy. If wishes were horses they will fly. We need some energiser, we do, we do. if thinking about the what could go wrong actually creates the wrong, why not replace it with what can or is it the effort to make it come true that is the problem?

Nemesys Nexus said: Tomorrow can literally BE anything, what is missing from today are things like; a cure for cancer, an end to world hunger, better educational/political systems etc... I believe that all things in existence are the result of someone at some point thinking/dreaming/fantasising about it first and then working at making it a reality. Every advance we have had to have been thought about before it was created and evolved/improved. "If You Can DREAM It, You Can DO It!" Walt Disney once said and he was right, just look at how much WDW and DL have changed over the years due to people's visions of tomorrow. The rise of things like the Civil Rights Movement also hinged on the "Dream" of one Dr Martin Luther King jr. The problem is people have forgotten how to think for themselves, relying more and more on others to do the thinking for them, and it's high time that sheep mentality was put out to pasture.

Why don't we picture ourselves as heroes saving the world? Don't we have talented artists to create images other than promoting the wrong image of what we Africans aren't and show the true picture of our heritage other than history of slavery, gangsterism, name calling of our women as Bitches and men as Dogs so easily adopted by our youth copying our black brothers in America?

Africans don't live on trees, Africans are well travelled, even if we have poverty we haven't lost our sense of self and by far doing a lot better socially or family wise and very mannered, we don't label, nor tag anyone. We still consider our Black Americans as our kids, our doors are not shut down to the world. We are not feeling bad about who we are regardless of what any picture would like to propagate. No man is lost who lives on this planet. Its only a ticket flight away both physically and mentally.

I am a proud and well educated African woman and i ask when will it end this false picture of us? When will we make the world say There they are, rather than point fingers "that is it". Africa and my black brothers we are not stepping up even to make mistakes and build on it.

Scarlet- the Southern Bell!

Sometimes I ask myself a question, why did I bring kids to a world where people show so much hate, where governments barge into lives of people with no regard to their culture or memories!?

During wars or famine what makes women and kids and the old vulnerable is the fact that they are the one's who become the victims of systems, while the world of selfish men have full bellies! And this ties in the rulers of their nation!

I ask myself should war break out now how shall I save my child? Made to watch, be slaughtered or gassed before my eyes and they leave me alive?

My world changed when I saw my boy in the incubator and for 2 weeks was told he may not live! My dreams crashed, the world meant nothing to me! The pain was unbearable, i still look at him at nights to see if he is breathing, the reflex of fear hasnt gone, he lived but I was never the same again! I see life beyond today! I fight so hard to bring consciousness to who ever I touch so no one experiences that pain, that disappear; the doctors saved me no nerves. Even if it has its benefits, my passion that you see is fuelled by the pain and to protect you from causing pain. Not everyone comes out with the right mindset!

No soldier coming back from war can ever be the same! Young men drafted without the knowledge of what they would see or made to do! If they did they will never have gone! A bullet just like the greed and ignorance of selfish men is covered in blood and pain! The oppressors and the victims now loath themselves!

I look at what apartheid has done, majority are self loathing both the rullers nation and its oppressed! drugs, crime violence is an indicator of how many weren't able to overcome! And then you heal through the talents, who had transformed their pain to joy!

Nigeria's current and history of violence, Liberia, Sierra Leone, Serbia, the Jews and other aflicted nations are still going to rise and loath themselves at the same time through their pain, included are those who did inflict pain are in sorrow!

They say violence begets violence! And diamonds form under pressure!
Seven years of famine and seven years of feast! Man survives by killing his own! Sad animals don't do it! It's good if victims cry out, so the ignorant can feel at least even if they wouldn't experience it!

I tell you all always don't shut anyone down share your experiences it will save a life if not more! We have those siting at the governments who are oblivious of what they do seeking management through wars!

I still wouldn't believe that stalin didn't have a hunch on what hitler was doing, I still wouldn't believe that they couldn't foretell from the history of napoleons wars that someone wouldn't try their luck again! i write their names in small letter because they are small to me.

There is no way to stop war by arming your borders! It can only be stopped if "man" has peace and knowledge in their hearts! The source of my talent is pain, but I am happy the cause it serves! I gave myself the vow of Scarlet: I will not be gone with the wind.......Her vow after her whole world was destroyed...Tara, her family, everything lost except her courage and resolve to move on....

"...As God is my witness, as God is my witness they're not going to lock me.
I'm going to live through this and when it's all over, I'll never be hungry again.
No, nor any of my folk. If I have to lie, steal, cheat or kill. As God is my witness, I'll never be hungry again..." -Scarlett O'Hara

I don't have to steal, but ruthless to ignorance of man I shall. We never know how strong our hearts are until we overcome our sorrows that can heal the world in return!