Online RadioMag GAGA! Sweet nothing's and heavy shit! Aha! Just I asking Jah WHY for a because answer and how simplicity turns complicated!
a "what if this" and a "what if that" to the equation of the HOWs in this world! Isn't it about the What's in reverse? Fun and diversity no restrictions.
I see no reason to hide my views if that could change something within any individual, precisely for one reason, to reduce the force with which we witch hunt, because we haven't spent time to ponder properly about issues. The emotions that some subject matters evoke in the mass minded people are often violent, and the repercussions of them are felt through generations. I believe that unjust judgements of certain interest groups is propaganda and hurt those who make private decisions about how to live their lives or what to believe in.
Arn't Nigerians lead to crime with the propaganda that has engraved an image about us to the world? We are all drug dealers, 419, Pimps & prostitutes and now worst of all incompetent. I guess if the shoe fits as they say but should i hide my face because my ancestor was a nigerian or should i rise to bring some joy to my world and help my kids avoid the same heart bashing shame when they need to present their passport? I have refused to use my russian passport. I have refused to accept the stigma placed on being Nigerian by our unwilling and incompetent PR makers, which includes the government who wouldn't rise to call to question the leaders of other countries who dont control their media.
Our religious leaders have poisoned the minds of our nation and it has eroded into our society that sometimes i feel Let the world end, so the Lord can start again. How are we going to find spirituality by keeping people ignorant? How long will our faith be ruled by hypocritical laws and statements? Till today i still believe in the most perfect 10 rules of all that have ever been written and not without taking some care when it comes to its interpretations. Especially the one persuasion ever communicated that summed it all "love thy neighbour".
I guess people do not understand the fragility of their minds, how easy it is to be brainwashed because of their ignorance of the world and its events.
What ever is said in private should be said in public to shame the devil and let peace reign, especially when it has to do with public matters and i am not and never have been an individual to sit and be quiet about things. Better hate me for the truth, than love me for a lie. One lie ruins a thousand truths, and one truth can save a million lives. How ever the truth must be honest for it to have a healing power. Speak the truth and it shall set you free and many others even if you will be nailed to the cross. When the ignorant put out posts and arguments about Gay people that is subjective i belive it is my duty to shed a light when i have it before we all adopt noncence as a norm, just as we have about many matters that does affect us in Africa.
Tomorrow a Gay person will save the world or a prostitute will protect your child from harm and we will change the dancing tune. The whole world wears fashion styles and products that came from a Gay mind, if you hate them so much go produce your own attire or best walk naked that would prove you not a hipocrite. Thats the nature of man, he seeks to adopt that which is in his favour.
Although i understand the concept behind the religious people attacking the concept of homosexuality, i also believe they haven't adopted a gay mind or probably not capable of it or clearly it may suit their interests.
In my mind a Gay person has ethics, a homosexual how ever isnt GAY, and cant be because he is just as disgusting as the wayward man and woman and its disgusting to me that one seeks safety in Ignorance. Yes it is supposedly not natural for a man to mate with a man but man readily accepts and can live with women being with women!!!!! Some if not majority fancy the idea of coming in contact with them. I distaste hypocrisy for it breads exactly what we fear the most to happen Ugliness. Let him who hath no sin cast the first stone. In a society that supports democracy and in that propagates self serving propagandas, i believe they should face a similar strong opposition in free speech "expression of beliefs".
How dare you macho exist and violate women and kids, yet you feel violence wouldn't return back in thousand folds? Chauvinism has fuelled the birth of feminism. Women are now arming and protecting themselves with all means to rule you out of their lives, although the intention may have been to help reproductively challenged couples, IVF has now taken another tune or even worse women have now turned to have babies and not tell him only after 17 years when the kid start asking where is my genetic father. Do men really think the Gay issue is really their problem? Check again.
Love your neighbour but you do have a choice to what neighbourhood you live in.
Why do religeous people think that a gay person or couple (female/male) can not be christian or of any other religious type? `How about them dealing with the lack of balls to be a good spouse to your well abled wife and a father to the seeds men so enjoyably spread around when ever they covet the nest of another?
Our job is not to worry about the "How". The "How" will show up out of the commitment and belief in the "what"
BALANCE: Balance is achieved through decisions. What decisions you take good or bad keep in mind the law of cause and effect.
Cause represents "reason" thought and effect is "implementation" whats your reason?
Cause and effect is "think and act" it deals with managing BALANCE
How you think affects what you attract. the Law of Attraction. Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting "building towards"!
The universe likes SPEED. Don't delay, don't second-guess, don't doubt..
Act deals with precision. Never swaying from your chosen path regardless of circumstances. Do not get distracted by petty issues, prioritise, they will always be there.
How you think will always have an effect, how you act must always have a cause.
Don't do things without reason, don't think if you are not going to act.
Balance reduces vibration! Many fear to rock the boat but pressure is a sign of an already rocking boat! All you need to do is to put a balanced weight on the other side! Just look for what is missing and fix it.
People who relay too much on written facts are often awakened by real experiences. Life happens regardless of how much we try to avoid it. Books don't often keep the truth. Tomorrow you would quote me and present my today theories as a fact that i said. A fact is what i call INTENT. Everything you post on any media becomes a quartile fact of what someone said.
HOW WAS AMERICA FOUND? Did Tomas have all the assurances? He probably lost men but they all took the risk. There is nothing more real than a touch. Yes matter will always give you facts readily but the mind is infinite! What ever goes on there is a fact however absurd you make think it is. The best ideas of this world were called ridiculous and often by people who either don't understand or plain want to discourage you because they are competing with you on skill or ego.
What is failure? - if not a mistake + the emotion of embarrassment. Remove the emotion because mistakes are rectifiable. If you are afraid people will laugh at you. Hey i wish they saw themselves from another perspective. Who is looking at that picture? Draw the world in 3D, imagine you see a kid who is struggling at something and another is laughing at him? Who will be negatively seen? Does one really laugh at a kid who's face is soiled with the paint of his art? Or is the one who just voices out ignorance "unuseful information" more to be laughed at? Those who laugh help tickle your ego and you become better because sometimes one needs someone to hurt you. Anger, pain can be a good thing for a creative mind. A Muse. So sometimes those who know the worth of a dream will join you without you even asking. When you see someone who is doing something good or is struggling and you have a tip, slip a paper under the door let them feel like they have a guardian angel because not everyone is ready for the truth, some like to be alone. Either you join in or dont disturb.
Knowledge of strengths isnt available in one moment so there is no way you would get things done immediately or perfect, besideds there will always be a ruki who will beat you at your old game anyway and you accept feeling like a failure because you couldnt retain your position. This is some reason many fall from power wanting to stay there. A pick minded orientation isnt healthy, the pyramid may be magnificent but they allways have to be rediscovered Babylon.
When ever I am lost for what to do next, I deliberately make a mistake happen! If you are in a thick forest, and you got lost because you were following a path and didn't realise it had suddenly disappeared you listen the voices of the forest! I deal with my fears, and say come what may!
I heard of a story on how the red indians coached their boys to trust and have no fear! It is a tradition the elders hold in secret until a boy is of age! His eyes are tied and left to sit in the middle of the dark forest! Where all the noises would scare him. When morning breaks he pulls the scarf off and sees his father sit beside him all night! "Trust to a parent is not given just because you are a parent" you must be there as a shadow in the darkest hour. No matter the school-fees you pay, if you don't help your child fight their fears in a tactful manner, you wouldn't achieve that confidence they need.
When facing your fears you must have a sense within your core that someone is by your side even if you don't see them. It stops you from being emotional! All rich, strong, successful people feel fear but they don't become emotional!
Just because you don't have your desired enough, don't mean you have not your required enough! All you have to do is sow on time to rip in time! If you have not found your seeds "talent" converted into skill by supporting another, how would you know what you have and what is possible? Your rectified mistakes reveal to you your capability. Face your fears standing by something or someone. I a girl did it and it worked!
I did what someone said I shouldn't to find out why, and in the process I see clearer! A deliberate mistake always has justification and it often never turns out bad because you are not reactive but responsive! It is a greater mistake not to have tried than to have made a mess! So long as it isn't with another persons life! Search for the colours of the wind.
I have finally reached a point in some issues in my life and that is acceptance of bigotry and ignorance. I have been very soft on trying to persuade people to have alternative thinking, now i have pretty much become like them "intolerant" mine is to bull-shit.
I am living on a continent and in a world today that has never experienced what we hear in the myths of slavery, yet carries it as though it is them that experienced it. Those who went through it although dead, moved on by doing something to free themselves. Our current generation is trapping themselves and others in the past that isnt theirs, yet have let down those who have paid the price for the benefits we hold today. The wealth of pain of our ancestors has been flushed down the drain by the current living who uphold no standard to life and living.
I placed a black panther on my cover picture and some dude with his afro mentality who still thinks that cats are witches asked me why a cat. I grew up with them dude, they are the smartest creatures i have met. They thought me how to be a mother. You are afraid of the claws? Well every mother has them, you mess around with her and she will give you a bruising.
Isn't it still slavery to think like in the olds? If your mind isnt clean even a cross wouldn't help you.
When I am in heat and fear to approach, I stay in my dreams! I keep my muses alive
until I realise why I am infatuated by that person, I search myself, I don't give in on impulse, I write down all and everything to remove emotions away. If I find out that there is a deep seated longing for affection, I give myself attention. If I truly enjoy the personality of the person then passion brews without me needing to be afraid of it! Come what may is dangerous, as the world of dreams isn't supported by clouds, even if it walks on it.
I am able to be friends with guys without fearing to be compromised! I keep my emotions and release passion! This way everyone is protected! If a man is afraid of my affections I don't take it personal, I realise he wasn't aware! One gets rejected when one is unaware!
Its something that I noticed over the course of my affections. Man wants to know what he is walking in on, hence he wants to be the first to approach, ofcource blinded by his own needs, forgeting that the other has a subject matter, while a woman follows blindly yet isnt capable of taking what ever comes! Women are embracing, fearless, always ready for the new, but she is blind! Hence so much run out on women! Unawareness of self is the problem with women. We are brought up to be this and that and it is almost a taboo to be what you want.
It pays no one to be blind, even if it takes the mystique away!
I have often asked "Why is sex viewed as a taboo"? It possesses, it has an instinct that clouds! Clouds reason to realities that you may not know "the what's next" what's behind! I don't need to sleep with every guy I have chemistry with to know the nature of sex, its in the air already! Its the fact that it evokes animal instincts rather than the human side we all have not discovered or developed. Many men get out of control when they see nudity. But what is nudity? An open mind sees no blemish, yet it is unprotected. Should you be blind? Should you be unaware of yourself and what is in front of you?
If you relate to sex as a sport then the possessive nature of it can be controlled! I never make a judgement on who or what the person is just because sex happened on the first night! That's crazy, as personality isn't determined by that. Judging someone by first-night stands can kill something that has a potential, you just jumped the steps too far down or up. Wear a condom on your heart. Infatuation isnt love. If you ask many, they reminisce often on that never again to happen one night stand where no one held back. What I bother to know is if the person is free to be in oneness. If the person has someone in their life it will be cheating on myself. If the person is absent minded its same as there is someone else.
How do you know if someone has someone? That's why you have to be friends first, get to know the person. Is your life so meaningless to find out if you are worth the "it " memory? Women don't fall! Don't fall for the need to belong because belonging is created, not given!
We are leaving in a generation where sex is a liberal thing, but would you get the essence of connecting if all is about the physical or pacifying your emotions? Women feel cheated out of potential when there is no wholesomeness in the moment. Our hearts are orgasmic, you might as well be married and still be lost to yourself, him and the wold of passion.
IN ORDER TO FIND YOUR HEART ONE MUST DO THE WRONG THING.
Make those bloody mistakes, or come close "think it" so you can see the consequences and stop beating yourself about no attempt. A thought is an attempt. There are 3 different types of people, those who Think, Do and can do both.
The sun dies every night, and rises to see a new day and so it is with your thoughts. Die in your thoughts that discovers your strengths. I am yet to see anyone who has no cobwebs, clean them out. Why fear shadows, it follows you anyway. Can one see ones shadow while asleep? Not really, during the day "light" one sees the shadows of what shape you are.
We often make more mistakes following our shadows, than the souls calling. You wouldnt impress GOD following the screams of the crowd. Thats them voicing their shadows and you get spooked by it.
Do Not Sell Your Birthright, Nor Loose their destiny! Genesis 25:29-34
When the boys grew up, Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the field, but Jacob was a peaceful man, living in tents. (Genesis 25:27). Genesis 25 records the birth of two boys to Isaac and Rebekka. From the very beginning, God said that their descendants would become two nations. From the start, it seemed as they were struggling against one another in fierce competition.
Example of men who wake their women with a surprise of a new child from another. So many men on their burial day develop kids no one knew about. I call them daft, lack of foresight to what consequences it brings. If you say one needs to heal our society then there are certain principles one should understand. It isn't acceptable, it isn't. No one seems to be addressing this issue and the reason for daft is that men seem to think that just because he had a child for another the woman should accept. Sorry man that ain't me to accept. Just because i love kids don't mean i need surprise headaches. Cant wear a condom thats your cup of tea.
There are very few men who will accept other mens kids, i don't see why a woman should be forced to nurse another's child. African women are carrying burdens that isn't theirs, sibling rivalries become deadly if one of the women in there has a bad attitude to life. Yes the men that do this sort of tricks are daft. I married a man with 3 kids from prior wife, accepted and cared for his kids knowing that they had separated before i was brought into the picture. That was my choice and i worked the responsibility well. I still don't know what the future will hold, but i pray that i sowed a seed of good will in their hearts.
I feel a woman doesn't love herself and her kids by accepting being cheated on. Guys if it is acceptable then let wives nest kids for other men. Whats good for the goose can become good for the gander as life's revenge. I know a lady who accepted one kid from the outside and now regrets because he added 3 others to the plate afterwards. Just as they say "a thief is a thief so it is with a golfer". Swing high swing low and so your life and the kids lives will be a rocking boat. This is exactly one of the reasons that broke down our todays society, where women who kept quiet poisoned the minds of their daughters with the pain because the men didnt manage themselves. Yes we women are just as evil as we are kind, we are jealous by instinct to anyone who breaches our territory. Has anyone been successful at toying with the well being of a lionesses cubs? In the animal kingdom the female always takes her cubs to safe grounds away from the male aggression. Females are aggressive when safety is needed. We all have to start understanding what is the root cause of the corruption within our system, RIVALRY of values. In nature there are birds who put their eggs in other birds nest. Who knows if its a dinosaurs that you are incubating for another in ignorance and they eat up your sidling? No it isn't acceptable to be forced.
I aint a saint but, and this isnt to pass a judgement to those who have made mistakes but to the present and future generations to realise one of the reasons we are in hell today as a society. The bible is full of riddles and they need to be deciphered. Forgiveness doesn't mean stupidity. If as a person woman/man you are lost multiply it by 10million then you will see why we are where we are. It isnt permissible that a rich man should give himself excuses that he can take care of anyone and by that adding more issues to the future generations. If you have kids outside make sure you set rules by which everyone should abide by. Take responsibility by making sure everyone knows their place, and no one seeks excuses to attack anyone or your future generation will live in hell because you didnt allocate each of your children's birthright accordingly.
Those women "second wives" who by naivety and ignorance have kids for men who were living with their legally married first wives should develop their kids to be independently minded from any right and respect the eldest kids of the man regardless of if he loves his first wife or not. That is a choice i have made and i stand independent even if i am today the legal second wife. Yes men are good, but they lie and that is what you will have to be dealing with for the rest of your life. Be focused on your kids development regardless of if you think or are legal. You are the second and your kids shouldn't pay for the lie you believed in. It isnt a shame to fall for someone but it is a sham to fall face down. Guilt in hiding turns to pain that erodes your future and the future of your generations.
And i say Men do not know how to manage social affairs appropriately and this needs to be handled in conjunction with women. By nature we are social based creatures, hence we have been given the blame for anything going wrong within the family which translates towards society.
Today i had discussed the issue of rape within and outside me and my environment and it is again on the shoulders of women because as i heard men rape women because they are not dressed properly. Lets start addressing this form this perspective.
I live in a country were rape is crazy, some say some have been told its a culture of possessing a woman, they are in a real mess when it comes to this. Let us be a bit mean and forget any inhibitions or baias on this topic because i believe if left un-objectively trashed out it will eventually escalate to a point where men will stay away from women and women from men, which is quite obvious is wrong as there are only 2 species existing on this planet.
On a private level in order to heal one must accept some level of guilt. Guilt for what? In my opinion women are terrible flirts, and dont want to follow through when they initiate a discuss. Men pretty much are led foolishly by their urges and dont know the difference between a woman being nice and taking it as an acceptance but at some point reason has to kick in. Rape isnt just physical it is also mental.
The issue of a rape victim is that they struggle with 2 things, Blame and Anger and anger is as a result of the blame. Some may instinctively accept they were partly at fault but when you live in a society that tells you, you should accept the blame and the guilt then it renders more cases like this to happen. Half the time what happens is that the family of the victim starts blaming and treating the victim underhandedly. Even in cases of child molestation the mother in guilt isn't able to accept her blame for not watching over her child and eventually hurts her-child even more than the molester. This isn't just about our nation, this is a global problem. Molestation of kids both boys and gals have been going on for centuries. I beg to ask how did the world populate if ADAM and Eve were the only specimen God created? Which means in everyones genetics there is a tendency to be attracted sexually to your own blood, after all the royals are known to marry their own cousins even if it is from the 7rd leg. Shame need not take charge in this matter but care and caution sure needs to rule. Those who have been violated either violate themselves or violate others as a reflection of their pain, they need to be taken care of.
CHARACTER DESCRIPTION OF SOME TYPES OF GALS.
Man is a physical creature i.e he likes what he sees and goes for it, without a 2 bit thought to what is actually leading him, gals draw to older men because they sence security and knowledge thats what i fell for, well we women grow up faster than our mates for boys so age isn't really an issue for us. We seek security physical and emotional so we get deceived that that comes often from an older "perceived' wiser male. As it turns out that isn't necessarily the case as wisdom isn't shared equally through time but is as a result of experience and correction of bad mistakes. There are many who carry bad i.e. selfish intentions.
There are 4 character type gals, at some point i was through some instances with boys and have daughters (adopted and one of mine) and i work with youth so i see all this happening and the circumstances that people invite subconsciously to happen. Nature to a large part leads, but nurture protects.
One is flirty, One is strict, the other is girly and a tomboy. They all respond to men differently and have each different ways of dealing with the circumstances they find themselves in due to a variety of backgrounds they came from.
The flirty comes from a broken home where parents are absent and her flirty behaviour needed to be addressed because the background to it is that she is seeking attention because she was neglected, not necessarily deliberate but due to our todays lifestyles where parents are at work 24/7 and have little time or energy left to notice that their girl/boy is changing. Hormone driven by nature, demanding things they themselves dont understand. Parents at this age are usually screaming and abusing further the kid because they dont know how to handle it, then the child runs away and your daughter gets violated or lost further. I wouldn't blame the child nor the individuals who are trying to be parents but i would blame the lack of skills in parenting. I again beg you the society to stop pushing your kids to marry without proper counselling on parenting. I see no need for clouding the word parenthood with marriage when it comes to child needs. Knowing how to cook is a minor problem which can be learnt, also assuming this was supposed to be dealt with during the individuals growing phases of life either at home or in school through home economics classes. Knowing how to communicate with your chosen spouse or the opposite sex is established during courtship if they eventually found themselves picking up a date for the wedding or while growing up in a not segregated social environment. Parenting and spouse support skills is the focal point and the lack of it is the main problem why most homes break apart. The women in most cases are over loaded with the responsibly and they crash emotionally from the spouse.
The strict type gal may come from a poor home but she had a stable upbringing, she wasn't kept as a nun but she was protected by father and brother, and may not have had the figure of the mother around, she may have had other female figures around. She is the one who one can talk to as against the flirty one who is just all emotional all the time. Girls must be allowed to have an active life but make sure you know who they are dating or friends with. Better allow who ever friends she has to come around and let them do what ever it is they like but under your roof, make it a point to know the families of the boys, so they know you will rain hell if your girl isn't respected, and make sure you tell your gals that men are like busses, they dont need to be ran after, next will come if they be busy with themselves. Sorry sometimes there is no other effective picture to draw up to drive a message to a gal about the bad wolf. On another plane one can run into danger, the risk you fall in in caging a gal is that she may get so nerdy that no guy would notice she exists as a woman, thats how men are "peacocks" they like what they see but stay with what they perceive beneficial to them. Teach your gals to understand what short term vs long term value is in sustaining themselves and hopefully a relationship. To be able to sustain oneself is by far more realistic than the terrain of relationships. So a balance is required where they go through short courses on how to do makeup, cook, know how to sow and at the same time take up professional projects that stimulate the brain and prepare them for their career. This is supposedly what going to school was about at some point in the human development times. I had that shared between home and school, between grandmothers and teachers i respected. These days parents don't have the time not because they don't want to in most cases but because the boss wants his share, however sometimes i think strangers may be more effective at handling your kids at a certain age level. Children tend to use the knowledge of the parents weak points to their advantage.
Boarding schooling isn't a solution as that puts a gap between the parents and child, maybe an off and on 3 days in school and 4 days home would give both kids and parents time to rest and miss each other to ease the tension that often arises when people are in each other's space, everyone needs space to reflect. Who knows it could work, at least its better than a total loss of communication. Everyone needs a vacation to appreciate whats there and recoup.
With boys i ask them to demand of girls a higher level of expectation other than physical gratification. I am sure that at a certain age with boys to them being used as sex objects would sound positive but at some point when as grown men they would admit that Quality is far better than Quantity, of-course this is for those who have had more physical than sensual experiences. With rearing kids one needs a level of tact in action and creating strategic situations to bring the right results.
Gals who come from structured homes are made to feel good about themselves and engage men on a mental level even if they dress up to show what nature gave them. You will find out that a gal in a short skirt may not attract hell on her because weather we like it or not, we need to acknowledge there is an aura that surrounds a gal who is out on a prowl. We all have that animal instincts and just as a dog can sense fear, so do boys and men can sense when a gal wore a skirt to attract. Body language also gives one out! You will find out that a gal that dresses up all covered is also being violated because her body language speaks something else so it isn't about what one has on but how one carries it.
Most know what influence gals have on their dads, where they can spin them round and there are gals who have mastered that skill and are ether successful with it and aren't, from age 3 my daughter is already by nature showing the traits of self awareness, she knows how to spin me and her dad for anything she wants, with me she hardly gets away with it, while i am just plain daft to what a man is because i like to climb trees ":)", so i am likely not to attract danger to me because guys don't like gals that are too hard to get. I thank God for being me at times but sometimes i regret it. It didn't help me with marriage as i demanded a higher level of stimulation, so i am just totally out of balance even if my pictures say different :). I guess i am rediscovering my potential in this other area. I am kind but tough to bullshit. The older i grow the better i am at negotiating boarders, my Inbox is made for putting mentally deranged men to check themselves :) I love men but y'all are full of kaka gently speaking. Deal with it. If i like a guy he will know without me even saying anything and thats where i think many get it wrong in the manner at which they approach women like me. I guess i learnt through having bad relationships. Behind my smile i hold a fist. Thats what i think a woman should be. A cake in one hand and a slap for deserved occasions, because guys get carried away. A boy is not a Man i now know!
When gals are told that life is all about being married and to boys that women are only good to only be put in the home then both will loose the essence of what they could be toward the opposite sex and who they are in relation to oneself! Both will negotiate their price wrongly or rightly in the stance of life. I do to an extent blame religion for giving the male the illusion that a female is his subject but forgot to clarify that both are to be beheld in the very positive sense, well as Madea said "Grits are cooking on the stove" or through the help of law "sticks on fools backs" as best comes to my mind. A woman should mould an iron rod with the mark 666 and use it the very first day he gives her a black eye, so let him carry the mark on his 4head in public since a black eye on her face does not shame the public who fails to protect women. Women have to be strong, who said a woman is weak? Being a 6ft tal gal and a proud owner of a belt in Tang Soo Do (will leave the colour out as to not scare my admirers who keep liking my pictures :) I doubt messing with me will be convenient. Yes a gal needs some acknowledgement but then there comes a time when it becomes looking like stalking. Marshal arts develops a disciplined individual. At age 14 my son will be sent to china for that purpose alone, i dont believe in military service for boys as that breeds animals rather than disciplined individuals. I also went for baley classes even if that was short lived, but hey the rumba is still in the body as well as that allowed me to know what it trully feels like to be held like a lady, so no man can bluff the I Love you with me, it is all in a mans touch. Gals should go for it, as well as boys learn how to hold and feel a woman. It helps to manage the effects of lust.
In the old days every boy and gal of a certain social level was employed to go through activities that connected them physically and emotionally towards each other, because talking to teens does nothing but most times makes them more agitated, as they cant understand the complexities of the human nature and it is intense as we just like men follow animalistic instincts to procreation. For boys it's fun but for gals it turns out as responsibility that they may not be able to handle at an early age mentally and physically! Have a watch on the film "Take the Lead" sometimes i wonder if our human ability to talk "verbalise effects through sound only" has actually made a mess of things. Silence they say is golden. The age of 13 to 22 are the most volatile years of any youth and they shouldn't be harshly jugged as that is the age were they cant be told, they should be guided in the variety of senses we possess. When you were a kid you speak like a kid. Every thing has its time and adults shouldn't be absent minded in using grammar to explain the complex knowledge of biology.
Etiquette Classes: Why should a beauty wait for the beast to turn into a Prince? because he would treat her like a princess.
How you speak with your body and verbally is what these classes were all about. If you would recollect instances in your life where some obviously pretty gals don't attract the good men in their life's and they envy a gal who isn't supposedly beautiful yet has all the attention without even trying you will realise it isn't all about her physical attributes but the manner in which she carries herself. Its about the presence, whats within reflects and attracts, unfortunately we have bees who like all flowers so to discriminate isn't bad. Our instincts should come to thought, that can protect. Girls used to attend etiquette classes, now its simply none existent. Etiquette isn't about carriage alone but morals. My dad used to tell me if you lock up a gal for 21years the day you turn around in one day she will do what she had pictured in her mind, because there is no where to avoid peer pressure and the influence of the media, so a balance of nature and nurture should be considered. The aspect of nurturing is the ability to bring out the better and not the worst in oneself and others, sometimes a slap is a better tool for driving a message. Women be kind but be tough.
To the topic that a friend of mine TEMIDAYO posted earlier yesterday i responded to her post:
But who rapes? An intelligent man knows how to woo a lady. When men are educated they dont become rapists, in short women are raping them mentally, for real if this happens in some rural area in Nigeria i wouldn't even believe because our women are somewhat easy to persuade, good or bad but we don't really have an epidemic of rape because prostitution and affairs are normal today how ever it may be different. By the way with the way women are being accused of being easy to get etc wouldn't we say men are actually running away? Holland has legalised it so whats the big deal? Some states in America have legalised weed, beats me but then they would have a rational to it, which is why sometimes i don't listen to what some refer as taboo because some law will legalise what prior was prohibited, we might as well understand what the principles hold in all these rules.
Men shouldn't forget that their wives are not just subjects to marriage, but they are sisters, daughters, aunties mothers that they have also growup with in their homes. I remember saying this earlier that it amazes me how a man who loves his own mother and sister and unties who are around him when he needs help and accepts their independence and personalities forgets that his wife is thus much to her own and society or does he accept because he has no choice that his wife or girlfriend is now an experiment to his carnal rule? We're his women really treated as women or was it carefully orchestrated to lure the good and subject her to his whim? If some women dont rise your daughters will have no hero to emulate for lack within and tomorrow when she is relegated to the level of a prostitute even if she is within a confined space of marriage her heart and body and soul is dead. Thats the definition of a prostitute "SHE WHO DOES NOT KNOW WHERE SHE BELONGS" because she doesn't know who she is, made a yoyo to serve the ego. Is it that she is yours that you impose your will on?
I look at my boy and i say how can he become a rapist if he has a mum like me? What would make him disrespect himself to come low to taking what with some level of intelligence he can get easy and enjoy a fruitful relationship regardless of how short-lived it may be? Is it in how many or how well?
To understand what to bring out i would look at what would make a boy rape a gal, it isnt in telling him that he shouldn't disrespect a gal, its in making sure he is employed as a boy from age 10 in working on activities that mentally connects him to understanding that women are mental creatures? This respect actually should come from the MUM, no DAD can trully explain to a boy what a woman is.
A poster said "my rapist didn't know he was a rapist"
Why does she get raped? Why is she in the wrong place even if structures are in place by the societies effort to make everywhere safe? But it happened lets take facts out of why she was. She treated herself underhandedly, she was drunk, was obviously flirty and may have led a guy or 2 to believe she is available. Was she seeking attention? The other day i spoke to a friend on acceptance of a charge of 20 years for being stupid "rape" crime is it a case of Victim of one or Faulting both parties when one is actually dealing with a scene where as on a picture a gal wrote saying "My rapist does not know he is a rapist" hm if he didnt know then, was he made to believe he was a friend? I posted sad at start because i didnt know exactly what to respond to the issue of rape or was the issue that it was taken out publicly because no one realy knows how to deal with it? It is wrong not to have self control, both mentaly or physically but at the age from 13 to 22 hormones lead, and hormones are managed through mental and physical activity i say again.
Nothing comes from noting. I employ you to watch the "sound of music" again the answers are all there. I dont tell my kids what to do, I inform them of how, there is a difference between brainwashing and showing pathways. I ask my kids "why they want to do what they do" so it develops their thinking brain, as against loading them with my views on life. It is a method of coaching them to think before they do. Every action has a varying amount of effects, they need perspective thinking not subjective reasoning.
Kids are little adults, and adults are grown kids. I dont need to fight my kids, i am not in competition with them. Kids who leave home, leave because they havnt been allowed to explore the home. Look at what many mothers do, they even prevent a kid from crawling round the house in fear of them hurting themselves. I have made it a principle that i leave my house void of any trinkets, my furniture is all soft, no glass, this way i dont panic about where my kid wonders in the home. As a parent i watch how they do their things so that i know what personality God sent to me.
A friend posted this and i believe it is true.
When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years" ~ Mark Twain
"When I was ten, I thought my parents knew everything. When I became twenty, I was convinced they knew nothing. Then, at thirty, I realized I was right when I was ten." ~ Mark Twain
Save the youth from themselves, save yourself from yourself, and save them from making mistakes they would live to regret.
Our religious leaders have poisoned the minds of our nation and it has eroded into our society that sometimes i feel Let the world end, so the Lord can start again. How are we going to find spirituality by keeping people ignorant? How long will our faith be ruled by hypocritical laws and statements? Till today i still believe in the most perfect 10 rules of all that have ever been written and not without taking some care when it comes to its interpretations. Especially the one persuasion ever communicated that summed it all "love thy neighbour".
