Online RadioMag GAGA! Sweet nothing's and heavy shit! Aha! Just I asking Jah WHY for a because answer and how simplicity turns complicated!
a "what if this" and a "what if that" to the equation of the HOWs in this world! Isn't it about the What's in reverse? Fun and diversity no restrictions.
Marriage is not a place to seek hapiness but if you both are willing to make eachother happy, then it can be a happy one-----
Are you ready to make someone happy? Thats the question that gets people fearful of getting
married. When you are trying to woo a woman you like, hide your money and show your personality because money comes money goes but the person remains, that way you are sure that the person is with you because they like you. Marriage is not to be feared its to be entered.
Do i like the person? Do i like the personality or do i partake in what makes that personality to be wealthier? Life holds no guaranty does that mean you should commit suicide? So is marriage.
Soul mates don’t exist, someone you get along with and have something’s in common and someone that is complimentary to you (+ & -) is what you can find. I had been married for 10 years and have seen in mine and in most marriages that most people are not happy because they go into it with clouds in their heads. I have been found guilty but did i pay the price for loving blindly < or > YES and so do many and by the time they understand whats going on, they are back single again and even more miserable because they are too proud to say sorry and try make it work.
There are just somethings that many find hard to get over. There is no spoil in the soil, move on or get over. We all realise we make mistakes but not bridging that gap before comfort settles in is the problem. We all grow, we all understand and see where we have made mistakes but the chemistry is over.
Brew it to keep it safe and sound.
Safe and sound is what a healthy relationship is. A sound mind and a safe heart makes a safe heaven for all. Demand clarity or leave in clouds. A soul is always a gipsy, ever searching for Glitter to dance because it is never happy when stagnant. Be liberated in your freedom to explore the varieties of each other and the middle finger to the ignorant world that dosnt know the wealth of INTIMACY.
We call men who are presumed to follow their women woman wrapper because we are jealous of the textile design of happiness.
I don't bother myself much with remembering the verses number this, paragraph that! I think that's just for admin purposes "tracking" if it helps you to use it when needing to make reference then cool but many for the sake of quoting miss the message! One verse can not explain what one means, you have to study it up and down! What came before it and what came after it!
This opinion of mine was solidified when I had to bring a pastor to answer me on what purpose did he put a verse that was totally detached from any meaning! It read beware the world is coming to an end! Hehe I said but my God told me otherwise! Am I to believe a man over the holy spirit? However he may claim he got that from his holly spirit! I know my God dosnt scare me, he tells me he has given me today to live to its fullest, to earn the right to have tomorrow! In my mind I said this man hasn't seen death! I made it a purpose to assassinate his faith in that scripture, just as he was trying to do mine "unknowingly probably" but then having that title of pastor and him further in arrogance not answering my question told me he dosnt even believe in what he had posted or he would have given me his opinion and I would engage him to find knowledge in it! He simply said go and read the bible! I told him no, I want to connect to why he posted that post because I know everyone reads the same thing yet interpret it differently! I wanted him to connect with me but because I questioned his authority he became defensive and totaly forgot about using the word to his defence, which meant he wasn't prepered, he thought the congregation that he was preaching to are illiterate but then we have that black sheep that stands up to say "Hey Mind your language"!
What is a Pastor? He is likened to the image of the messenger. He should refrain from being the dog that barks and bites the sheep to get them in order. The shepard will gather his sheep, the dogs job is to be a force to the wolf, alert the shepard that danger is coming near. You will exhaust yourself trying to bring together the lost sheep, because they only flock when the shepherd is around! Do your job at driving the wolf rather than scattering the sheep with noise!
I could breakdown the meaning of someone being of a Pastoral nature! He layeth the field on which the grass would grow for the sheep to be fat! To Pasturise is to lay heat. Their duty is to edify the soil that the soul grazes on and not put in fear, which also but only sometimes can do some some good!
There are some stubborn heads in our mist who don't listen to things but laying heat to ones soul must be of positive intent ie understanding the variety of effects and having wisdom to know when it is required! There are people who are naturally sensitive and there are those who aren't but the Lord wants us all! Sometimes you need to smack a child to behave but what if the parent lacks knowledge in the method of how to address a behaviour? He will end up levelling everyone as same yet the thorn is still there; spreading the word in a manner that could create a feeling of being violated! A self proclaimed authority is often brought down by his own arrogance and ignorant "presumptuous" mind!
The title Pastor you must earn it, not by preaching but by helping! We are not leaving in the day when people can not read but everyone who has a mind can draw his own understanding regardless of if he can or can not read, he sees a fool infront of him when he speaks not to the soul! Pastors be global to be transformational! We need you but not in a box, the world is round not flat!
The eyes of a man they say is his soul! What you see is what you get! Why are my dear Muslim women covered up, and the christian woman is all naked? While the Asian women balanced? Does covering your beauty serve the Almighty or You?
Have you seen the flourishing beauty beneath that black vail? Are you attracted to nudity? Or is the accentuated curve here and there more sexy? Just as we wear hats to churches so do the women of all nations project their sexuality! Love is your colour, show your color or hide it! Its the mind that needs to be discovered, everything is black and white thats your colour!
I love to collect various traditional women's dresses from all over the world! From the african booboo, to the Chinese Qipao, Arabian Hijab, American pants/jeans, to Indian sari mused by Boliwood movies, Ah that Silk, Wrapped in the coocoon of times, the ageless Butterfly! Or the tudor times, in Corsets. Hmmm I must have been watching too often Gone with the Wind but hey why can't they be brought back to the future? We are wearing out of ideas that most women are now naked! How about the times of women when women pretend to faint and there is a gentleman who is just by the side to catch her? Women have become too strong to their detriment and men are lost to being Heros! Talk about how to get a boner for a flirt. A haha for a hihi! :)
a Dirty dance, a Tango, a Salsa, and MC Hammer once a week! All these I did and now they hunt my memories! You don't need to have eyes to know the Scent of a Woman!, the heartbeat is louder than the gong of big Ben!
[inhales deeply through nose]
Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Women! What can you say? Who made 'em? God must have been a genius. The hair... They say the hair is everything, you know?! Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls...and just wanted to go to sleep forever? Or lips... and when they touched, yours were like... that first swallow of wine... after you just crossed the desert. Bosoms. Hoo-ah! like secret searchlights. Mmm. Legs. Greek columns.... What's between 'em... passport to heaven. I need a drink. Yes, Mr Sims, there's only two syllables in this whole wide world worth hearing: kitty. Hah! Are you listenin' to me, son? I'm givin' ya pearls here.
Why don't kids follow MLK must they look for 2pac?
Both were murdered for 2 different reasons. Both in the society were creating wonders. I dont see either of them bad, 2pac i grew up on his music and marvelled at his art, not to talk of my first boyfriend having an influence because of it and it is the same with every youth. INFLUENCE.
When we as adults assassinate characters at home, in school, in public by creating the world as a bootcamp why will they not explode? Its hard to teach parents how to behave or go knocking the heads of people in public. The university is a controlled environment where everything outside can be blocked. When that in there is messed up, whats left for the kid to do? We have also allowed fraternities to thrive in there.
The school is their only sanctuary where peer to peer they are developing themselves both in mind and matter and the lecturers are just guardians of souls and technical information. I agree that teachers are to be taken care of but why have they lost their value? I was a kid who saw the breakup of the USSR and i saw the immediate change in attitude and again i say attitude in the teachers. They became emotional. I asked myself why will someone with so much knowledge feel so insecure? I have always had a sensitive mind towards change even as a 12 year old. Knowledgeable people are supposed to be transformational. I dropped out of school, my bro also because we couldn't cope with emotions of the adults there and took to the streets, he plaid football, i danced in a group. They were becoming verbally abusive because they lost control within themselves. At some point i had to tell a teacher to F'off, she told me to call my mother, i did, she went on a ramp on me infront of my parent, and then said "do you know that your daughter said i should F'off"? My mother with a smile said i can see why. She had no manners even infront of my mother. I was just bold enough to tell her to stop in a rude manner because there was no other way. There are many kids in school that are being verbally and physically abused by attitudes of adults who are to be guardians. Parents have submitted their kids lives to the notion that a teacher is a god rather than knowing a teacher is a tool to a system. Now do you realise why kids drop out of schools even if the knowledge is wealthy?
If you ask any successful dropout he will tell you its because he lost hope in his lecturer and in effect for the subject. Look at what our teachers are doing in our schools, where they flog a kid to death. Teachers have become stagnant seeking no growth and have relegated to thugs. Life is a better teacher as far as i am concerned. I came to Nigeria from Russia knowing nada about english at 18, you know how i learnt? Listening to lyrics and writing them down with my almost extinct vocabulary, dugout from childhood foundation while in Nigeria.
WHERE ARE MY HELL RASERS............................
Elementary wasn't meant for me, can't regret it
God come save the youth
Ain't nothin else to do but have faith in you
Dear Lord I live the life of a Thug, hope you understand
Forgive me for my mistakes, I gotta play my hand
If my nigga knew the truth he'd hit the roof
Dear Lord can ya hear me, it's just me
A young nigga tryin to make it on these rough streets
I'm on my knees beggin please come and SAVE ME
THE WHOLE WORLD done made a nigga crazy!
Dear Lord if ya hear me, tell me why
2pac! R.I.P
Everyone listens to the sound of music and take what they want to take from it
I saw a cry of a youth like me of my time. I told myself.
Sometimes you need to dropout to get back in,
If only the society will let you in
They reject you but you go back in
Only refined within
Even if the scars are still achin' Me at 18.
I made a decision and i am back in,
More refined and not aching.
And MLK, Mandela my best pals,
Although 2pac still within. Me now.
You will know that you are in love when you are able to feel towards someone saying "How wonderful life is now that you in the world" and not want to possess it.
Are we misunderstanding what it takes to Love and be loved? Are we actually looking for Spectacular Spectacular " Moulin Rouge"?
We are thieves expecting things to come free. Love is not free, it is earned through the maintenance of it. Everyone often is being told you will never find love and this is true but with a little tweak you may find it but to keep it is labour. Love is inspiration hence in pain or joy you find its muse.
We find love a midst obstacles, not when we are free and independent. When there is some circumstance that prevents you to be with that person. When its unreachable, when forbidden it is found.
We don't know how to cherish when something is available. As people we look at something and say it is mine and when given we throw it away because it is easy. Gratitude for being given the opportunity to feel, we exchange for filling our bellies and then wonder the world like starved beast, looking for a pray to soak the pain of loss.
Love is given everyday but not in the form that your eyes can pay.
Love is simple, its gratitude that someone has come your way.
When you feel unworthy of the price you have to pay, she will appear in the day.
If you want to know the truth about what your marriage will look like date the person. This is why today you see that marriages where people dont know each other it grows cobwebs because there is a spider.
Why should anyone approach anyone at first with any intention? Cant man see woman without her being undressed? Cant a woman be secure in herself enough to be blind to viewing him as a wallet? Relationship starts with communication, friendship leads to dating, from dating to marriage. Too many mouths in 2 peoples lives is what creates the hell, confusion. They no longer know each other because they are listening to voices of the world rather than the language between them.
When you are in a relationship that is abusive tell the world, expose the dark to the light. There isnt anything shameful in being in a situation, there is nothing like a shameful situation if your heart was clean and you didnt know. It is impossible to see evil behind a smile. We are all bad judges of character.
You wouldn't help yourself by going to the parents of the abuser because they will shun you in their shame. Those close to you will often react in a guilty manner by making you feel guilty about your mistake to keep you quiet because they know their guilt. To kill the dark expose it to the light. Men who abuse their women do it till she talks and there are women who abuse their husbands with deceit.
Know who you with, before you say I Love you or even better Love yourself before you say i am yours.
A friend of mine p.s. who i do love but still think he is a chauvinist, said, "that is the illusion movies sell to people and they believe the illusion". In an average foreign film "kissing" is everything, in real life it is the main thing (sex). You see a couple in bed, the man still has his under wear on, in real life the couple is naked. In real life, the rich, royalty and people of culture, all practice arranged marriages because it works, films teach the lower classes a concept called love, I must love the person before i marry him...hmm.. science will show you the feeling of love (biologically) lasts max 3 years. Marriage should be founded on a sense of duty, a partnership, to bring up children in a safe, and secure environment. If you believe in a creator be in GOD be in evolution, then you must realise Man was made to lust after woman and woman was made to demand security (of which money is a big part). Thats why the species is so successful ( we are a randy bunch) we focus on pro-creation by design.
Well my reply,
If not for our illusions we wouldn't be where we are now, its what they call ideology, so one finds his or her own identity! Compartmentalising hearts or souls doesn't work for all! All fingers are not equal! Even the Amish are all under scrutiny. "George any body choose your wife for you? :), we all have our own, we are all simmers! I am not the type for arangee it isn't even debatable! I feel insecure where I have to sleep with a man for sake of security! One tried that with me and lost his foundation. Wrong woman I am for that type of relationship! I am a companion and passion based, that's how God created me! There has been a violation in all aspects of relationships, and i must say a man feels more plesure in passion, althose his sence of responsibility and ownership may be threatened by his randiness! I am a one man woman type of girl, I can't throw my strengths all over the world! I harness my energies and not needing to look who is going to stab me in the back, that is what results in the ideology of poligamy, where the head has no management skills!
We have all been forced into the notion of what we are responsible for! A mother or a father is given the task to look and bring up their child so with this mantra we draw our swords! We think that we have brought up a perfect child who can't harm anyone; in short the Sun shines from his or her ass. Because in comparison to other kids we see ours is better by far! Now that's a very subjective reasoning because we all have different values. We all like different things, and cherish different things in difference to literary everything!
There is however a point missed!
Your child dosnt belong to you, he belongs to life and everything that can define the word Life! If parents brought up their kids socially not sociably only, as we all try to do, we will see that the person that comes to you "spouse, friend" as family and be able to solve a or the problem! This is what the African culture was all about! We Are One! Until something cracked.
We are not as smart as the bushman in the film "THE GODS MUST BE CRASY" where after touring the world with its colourful cultures, he still returned back home same as he was! He wanted to throw the bottle back to the world that brought so much dispute in his world. Yeah as Africans we have paid a huge price for accepting the mirror!
Is GOD crazy?
The dispute resolution aspect in the white world has been taken over by the "law" and we have relinquished our parental rights to it when we marry off our kids, but culturally there is the social aspect where a given child violates another's rights, who is he or she to run to? The law? Yes rightfully so that's Divorce, but the law dosnt deal with petty types of issues! If you go to the parent, the parent acts in a guilty manner and fails to address the issue because he or she is now under question as to what moral upbringing did they raise their child with! In order to protect themselves they attack the other and this escalates the need to remove oneself from the pain!
Seek God? We have our doubts towards him coming to solve our earthly needs, except of course the person is spiritual enough to understand how to speak to him! But then we have scared every individual of him, with the image we have created and keep being perpetuated. Christ came to bridge the gap, as an example but we are still confused because we can't understand how is it a human can be the son of God!
As much as every parent is responsible for their child, the society is responsible to bring the person to order. When we bring up kids we tell them don't hit, tell the adult you see, if you are lost go to the police, because taking arms could lead to injury, but what about the injury on the injured who is going to solve that? When he or she now goes public to friends or puts a post on the news paper we cry wolf, that she/he is at fault for airing their pain! If you trace down the line you will find out that the person did the right thing but no one heard him or her at the begining.
Now if we all viewed each other as family we will know that we can go to the next person to ask for help, by that we will kill the SHAME factor that makes everyone defensive!
When we tell someone not to air their dirty laundry, what we actually mean is that we have to be mindful of 3 things,
You are in conflict of interest!
You will get the wrong advice, because no one actually knows How to get a problem solved!
There is a party that isn't saying the truth!
We have been made to feel we are all sinners, again this word not clearly defined as the nature of sin is still an enigma ie emotions that lead us to being enslaved to life or a person! I define it as HABBIT! Anything you get used to doing and isn't flexible to change will eventualy at some point create tension!
TENTION is the word that leads to sin! Fear, something that we all are born with, its a Force either creates good, or inflicts harm! Remove the word Sin and fear will go! After all the law is trying to solve this issue but dosnt know how to solve the fear of the unknown! Which leads to another set of mental stress for the unbeliever!
In my dictionary Spirituality means "Deep understanding of the matters of Man and the Universe that surrounds him"! How many actually explore these areas well? We all like to swim in shallow waters!
Bottom line is if you love your neighbour as yourself you wouldn't treat him like you would a stranger be he an alien you havnt seen! A guilty person "ignorant" treats anyone including himself as an alien!
The african culture was murdered when we stoped being ONE! Cane where is Abel?
The world just as we individuals are at fault but he who dosnt help himself can't help no one!
Marriage is not a place to seek hapiness but if you both are willing to make eachother happy, then it can be a happy one-----
